Joined: 06 Apr 2005 Posts: 17 Location: washington
Is An Abortion the Way to Go? Posted: 04-07-05 11:42am
Okay so I have been going out with my b/f
for 1 year and I found out that im
pregnent but my boyfriend wants me to have
an abortion but I dont know if I want to,
I mean I dont believe in them but I cant
take care of a kid im only one myself and
so this weekend my b/f wants to get get it
done but im debating on what I want to
do!Q will you guys please help!
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2lonelyandlost
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Apr 2005 Posts: 3 Location: overland park
Im On Ur Side Posted: 04-07-05 13:08pm
I dont agree wit abortions either. And my
bf wanted me to have one too. And I didnt
care if that meant for us to still be
together or not. Abortions are not what u
want to do if u know morally that it is
wrong. For me, I would just feel guilty.
And my conscience would really get to me
later on in life. So do what ur heart
says and not what ur bf wants or says.
Since its ur body and u will be the one
takin care of the baby probably 95% of the
time.
Hun, this is a hard decision... (me
personally, im completely against
abortion) but it's a decision that you
have to make on your own, there's help out
there, I don't know your personal life, my
advice is, it's a life changing decision
to have a baby , I know, im 16 and
pregnant, and it's like I know it's going
to be rough, but luckily my fiance and
both our families are very supportive at
first they were angry but not it's all
ok.. So I gues what im trying to say is,
would u be able to live with urself for
the rest of ur life with either having an
abortion or raising that child thats
growing inside u.
Kate
keep us posted
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 04-07-05 16:32pm
I'm pro choice I guess because I have been
there.
If you do go ahead and terminate make sure
you see a properly qualified doctor -
infections can be nasty and you don't want
to ruin your chances of possible
mother-hood in the future.
However, termination is not the only
choice, you can always have the baby
adopted. There are very many happy
adopted people in this world.
See someone, maybe a nurse at your family
doctors or a school counsellor/teacher
that you feel able to talk to.
This is your decision not your boyfriends.
You make the choice not him, it is your
body do what feels right to you and only
you.
But please discuss your options with
someone first.
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redsugar
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Feb 2005 Posts: 140
Posted: 04-07-05 17:12pm
My bf begged me to have an abortion, as a
matter of fact we got into huge arguments
over it. After he gave me the silent
treatment for a week or two, he got over
it and he's very excited now!! I went to
planned parenthood and was going to get an
abortion, but thankfully they didn't
accept checks, which I had prayed for
something to go wrong so I wouldn't have
to go through w/ it. Just do what you
want to do, not anybody else! Good luck
and keep us updated!
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babymamahr01
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Nov 2004 Posts: 52 Location: WI
Posted: 04-07-05 17:34pm
When my ex boyfriend and I concieved a
baby at 18 he told me to have an abortion
also. I had no job and was scared. I
told my parents and my doc my situation
and they helped me get on housing, medical
assistance and wic. My parents and
rummage sales helped me get what I needed
for my baby. I was married to my ex but
divorced him cause he was very abusive
tword me and my daughter. He is now long
out of the pic and I was on my own with
her for awhile and am now engaged to a
wonderful man. The choice is yours, but
just think about it and make sure you
wouldn't regret you're decision. If your
only reason to have one is cause your
young or don't have much money don't do
it.....You will find a way to make it go!
Good luck in whatever you choose and if
you need someone to talk to you can email
anytime!
I'm a guy and I know I could never let my
girlfriend have a abortion it would tear
my heart and soul out of me but theirs
nothing more I would like the have than a
little girl! But I guess i'm different,
if I was you I would have the baby I know
it would be hard but you would get through
I don't think you would regret it but its
not up to me so good luck and I wish you
well
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bellax0x
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Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
Posted: 04-07-05 19:55pm
If you know you cannont support a baby and
cant give it up for adoption then yes I
believe abortion is the best option but
its up to you
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 04-08-05 00:00am
Whatever you decide (like all of the other
said) let it be your decision, not anyone
else's. Don't do anything because you
are afraid your boyfriend will get mad if
you don't, or because you want to make him
happy. This is about you and your
pregnancy. He obviously isn't a real man
and if you do have the baby you will most
likely be on your own.
Some people who have abortions later
regret it, but a lot of others don't.
Actually, to be honest more people don't
regret it than do. But, that is
something only you know. Even if someone
else regretted their decision, that
doesn't mean you will, or vice versal.
Only you can know that.
If you don't want to have an abortion then
don't. You don't need to go on
assistance either, because you can collect
child support from him. If he up and
runs away and you can't afford it then go
on assistance, that is why it is there.
Just make sure that when you make your
decision, it isn't influenced by anyone
else! Not your boyfriend, parents,
friends, or even these posts. Make the
decision for you. Good luck hun.
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steen
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Joined: 18 Nov 2004 Posts: 1797 Location: Upper Midwest
Re: Is An Abortion the Way to Go? Posted: 04-08-05 11:09am
terrified
wrote:
okay so I have been going
out with my b/f for 1 year and I found out
that im pregnent but my boyfriend wants me
to have an abortion but I dont know if I
want to, I mean I dont believe in them but
I cant take care of a kid im only one
myself and so this weekend my b/f wants to
get get it done but im debating on what I
want to do!Q will you guys please
help!
if you are not sure, then
you definitely should not have an
abortion. At least not yet. If you
both lean towards it and lean away from
it, then you need to think more about it.
But I am getting the sense that you
really don't want the abortion, and, as
you said, you "don't believe in them." it
is your choice, and generally, whatever
your choice is, your life generally can
work out anyway.
But do note that some women "don't believe
in them" until they actually feel they
need one and feel it to be a liberating
experience as well. Only you know
whether it is ok for you or not.
It is your choice. You are the expert in
your own life, nobody else are.
So do what works for you. After all,
nobody else have to live your life
afterwards, so make a decision you can
live with.