Down On Leave, Up With Trouble Posted: 04-13-05 12:20pm
Hi all. First-time poster. I came home
on leave for about a month. Apparently my
girlfriend had been missing me so much,
that she decided that she was "ready."
we engaged in intercourse numerous times
over the span of a month, every time with
a condom, and I climaxed inside her once,
but pulled out the other times.
She is not on any form of birth control,
and she started exhibiting signs of early
pregnancy...Constant vomiting, nausea, the
flu, fatigue, etc...Although she did tell
me that a bunch of the girls at work were
also sick with the same symptoms she
had.
We don't want a baby just yet, and it has
us both worried. This could jeopardize
our relationship, because I am not
financially stable enough to support a
family just yet, and her parents would
probably disown her if she were pregnant(a
little exaggerated, but they aren't very
compassionate).
Today we got a pregnancy test together,
and are praying that it comes out
negative. I think i've sworn abstinence
from now on, at least until we can have
sex without the worry of a surprise
pregnancy.
I know I haven't asked much of any
question, but it feels good to talk to
someone, although she and I have talked
the subject to death. Please provide any
feedback. I have to go, duty calls. God
bless the usa!
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shellbaby80
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2004 Posts: 168 Location: Independence, MO
Posted: 04-13-05 13:41pm
Just to let you know...No worries! Stress
can cause her to be late with her period
as well as expierence symptoms such as
fatigue, nausea. There is always a
possibility of pregnancy even with a
condom as they are not 100% safe. How
long has it been since this happened?
However, even though you say you are not
"financially" ready to have children,
somehow, you will always find a way to
provide for your family. I promise, all
will be okay!
Shelley
due 06/21/2005-colby carver alvis
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 04-13-05 17:37pm
A pull out method is not safe, their is
such a thing called pre-cum.
The best to you both!
Sandy
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BrianBaby
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2005 Posts: 1383
Posted: 04-14-05 08:08am
You used condoms everytime which is
good.....Has she missed a period yet??
Take the test and see what it says
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TXPO337
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Apr 2005 Posts: 2 Location: TX
Posted: 04-14-05 17:11pm
No she is in on her period now, probably
finishing now. We will take the test
soon, hopefully my fears are unjustified.
It feels so bad to say that I don't want
to have a child though, it kills me to
tell her that. Feel like an problem :(
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BrianBaby
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2005 Posts: 1383
Posted: 04-15-05 10:26am
If she got her period then she's not
pregnant....Why are you worried?
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BaByMaMa2005
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2005 Posts: 433 Location: Houston, TX
Posted: 04-15-05 19:28pm
If she has had her period than she is not
pregnant. For future reference, I would
have her get on birth control, preferably
the shot. Ask to go with her, going to
the doctor can be kinda scary and when me
and my baby's father were still together
it wasnt as scary when he went with me.
Hold her hand when the doctor does the
exam and sit by her head so you cant see
anything. Not that you havent seen that
before, but it made me a little uneasy
thinking about having the man I love
looking at me spread eagle in a well lit
room. Lol