Just Need to Know If Anyone Else Feels the Same Way!! Posted: 11-06-03 15:13pm
I just posted this on the depression forum
as well, but since I don't know what
exactely I suffer from I wanted to share
it here as well!
Hi everyone, I am new on here and was
really relieved to find a place that we
can talk about our problems. I'm not
really sure if I am suffering from
depression or anxiety, I seem to have
characteristics of both. Basically lately
I am scared of everything, mostly change!
I got married in july and things were
going great till about 2 or 3 weeks ago.
My husband and I live with family, my
parents and my younger brother and we are
happy here, but still want our own things.
But lately I don't want to leave, I don't
want to grow up, I worry that by getting
older the ones I love get older and I
couldn't live without them. I try to not
let my mind wander but no matter what I do
it does. I'm scared as hell to lose my
parents or my brother or husband, and I
don't think I can go when I do. Before
the last little while I have been an avid
person that lives everyday to the fullest
and now i'm not, i'm too worried about
what is going to happen one day and not
enjoying what I have right now. And i'm
scared one day I will be alone, what if
i'm the last to die, how could I be by
myself?? I keep thinking it would be so
much easier to be dead and never have to
worry, but i'm certainly not suicidal. I
just don't know how much longer I can live
like this. Does anyone else feel like
this and how do you live with it??
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cynthiaforbey
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jul 2003 Posts: 17 Location: north carolina
Re:anxiety/depression Posted: 11-13-03 21:45pm
Hi! My name is cindy and I suffer from
anxiety/depression and have panic attacks
also.The anxiety and depression kinda work
hand in hand as also stress will trigger
the both. The only thing I can suggest
for you to do because I also fear the lose
of people in my life and i've actually
have lost three people in my family in
less than 2 years,which has been very hard
to deal with. But you take one day at a
time go back to living each day to the
fullest. I would find a hobby something
to keep busy ; it always helps me to have
a little distraction in my life to get
thruogh the day.
Sincerely ,cindy
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qt3
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2003 Posts: 264
Re:anxiety/depression Posted: 11-14-03 20:49pm
cynthiaforbey
wrote:
hi! My name is cindy and I
suffer from anxiety/depression and have
panic attacks also.The anxiety and
depression kinda work hand in hand as also
stress will trigger the both. The only
thing I can suggest for you to do because
I also fear the lose of people in my life
and i've actually have lost three people
in my family in less than 2 years,which
has been very hard to deal with. But you
take one day at a time go back to living
each day to the fullest. I would find a
hobby something to keep busy ; it always
helps me to have a little distraction in
my life to get thruogh the day.
Sincerely
,cindy
hi cindy,
I suffered from panic, anxiety and
depression for years and was on meds until
I discovered cognitive behavioral therapy
(cbt). Cbt is not like other talk
therapy. My favorite starter book on cbt
is "been there, done that? Do this! By
sam obitz. You may also want to check out
the mood gym site for further research on
cbt. Take care.
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Munoz1226
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 130 Location: Tucson
Anxiety/depression Posted: 12-23-03 12:49pm
Hi, I also suffer from anxiety and at
times have been very depressed and lost a
lot of weight. I now gained the weight
back and am feeling a lot better because I
started finding hobbies also to keep me
busy. What about church? Or if you can't
attend church, just finding a quiet place
to talk to god would help. There are
times when I think that I will not get
past my grandparents or my mother dying.
I worry about my family and daughter a
lot, but I have to strive to keep faith in
god. He knows what is best. Anytime I
start to worry about people I love and
care for dying, I pray and ask god to
please help keep us healthy and safe for
as long as possible. Then if I get too
stressed out about it, I tell god that I
cannot worry anymore and that I am handing
my worries over to him. Try it! God is
so powerful!
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 12-23-03 22:48pm
Once you get those thoughts in your head,
they are hard to shake. It is probably
anxiety. What you have to do is just try
so hard not to think those things. All
of us would go crazy if we focused on the
bad things and worried about what will
someday happen. Try as hard as you can
to get back into your normal frame of mind
without meds. Just live every day to the
fullest, so that if you do lose someone
close to you, you wont regret the time you
didn't spend with them, because you were
too busy worrying about losing them! If
you cannot overcome this on your own, then
see your doctor and ask for help. I wish
you the best.
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purple333
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 1420 Location: Sydney
Posted: 12-24-03 07:06am
I believe that I replied to your other
post earlier this week. Still it bears
repetition.
I totally agree with those above who said
you need to concentrate on the good
things, enjoy your life & the lives of
your loved ones now so you won't have
regrets later.
It does sound like a combination of
stress/anxiety/depression & too much
change. I lived with my now husband for a
year prior to our marriage & I was 28
& thought all would stay the same (we
also lived with my mother) but after we
were married I went through a period that
a friend (who was also a psychologist)
later helped me see was me trying to
somehow live up to totally unreal
expectations of working, being a wife,
daughter & doing everything "right"
rather than just continuing as things were
before we got a "marriage certificate"!!
My point is, that we sometimes respond to
even minor "paperwork" changes in really
way out stressed ways. You need to figure
out what's set this off & then you'll
probably find yourself laughing about it,
as I did(i also felt pretty silly!!)
a couple of things that help stress are
gentle 30minute walks between 6 & 7 am
when the sunsrays (even if it's overcast)
work to balance stress causing chemicals
in our brains & eating foods high in
tryptophan (it occurs naturally in lots of
foods eg. Turkey, yoghurt, most nuts,
alot of cheeses, pumpkin seeds etc etc).
