I Have No Sex Drive, Getting Frustrated Posted: 04-17-05 02:19am
I think there is something wrong with me
because i've been with the same guy for 4
years and I love him but for 3 years or so
i've had absolutely no sex drive. For a
long time I just didn't care and only did
it for him but now it's getting old. I
actually want to enjoy it but it's not
happening.
It's not because he sucks in bed or
anything, I *think* it has something to do
with built of resentment towards him or
something from all our problems, and also
the fact that he is selfish and doesn't
want to take the time to try to turn me
on. Even if he does try a little, it
doesn't come off very effective. He's
not romantic, like at all, ever, more
silly than anything, and I don't think he
really knows what to do. I tried to
kinda tell him, and that turned out a
disaster. He got mad because he was
tired, and tired of trying and it just
turned into an arguement, which is why i'm
trying to solve this issue finally. I
don't want to break up, so please don't
suggest that.
He's just difficult to talk to, and
sometimes I think he is selfish now
because he's used to getting it without me
getting anything from it. We can't
afford a sex therapist or anything or I
would look into it. A little insight
from some other's perspectives would be
nice and maybe helpful too, thanks.
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twentyone
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Mar 2005 Posts: 61 Location: uk
Posted: 04-19-05 03:23am
Hi, ive been with my guy for almost 2
years, we live together, the first few
months of sex was great as I was a virgin
before I met him. Then I lost my sex
drive completly! Its a horrible feeling,
my boyfriend is so kind and loving towards
me, he can be sooo romantic at times, I
just have no intrest in sex, I have went
thru so many things in my head it cud be
this that the other thing, still no
answers I got the doc to change my pill
there so this is my first month on it it
is yasmin apparantly it has more eastrogen
in it than microgynon 30 which I was on.
Sorry I dont have much words of wisdom for
u but as u can see im having the same
problem and just wanted to reassure u that
ur not alone. I dont wana break up with
my guy either I love him to peices.
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Jemmy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Apr 2005 Posts: 1 Location: UK
Posted: 04-25-05 09:50am
Omg...Finally i've found people who are in
the same situation as me.
I've been with my bf for 15mths and we
live together and my sex drive has gone to
nothing...It's putting a real strain on my
relationship.
I'm currently on microgynon 30 but never
thought that could be a contributing
factor!
Does anyone think I should go to see my
doctor about this?
