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I am here to help sweetie. I can understand why you wouldn't want him in your childs life. No one can blame you for that. How are you feeling? What do you feel you should do?
Love,
chanda

Well the guy who took advantage of me is my brother's bestfriend.My brother doesnt want anything to do with the situtation and he was there that night so was his other friend, they are witnessess.They wouldn't back me up at all.I need to talk to the guy about everything and tell him what he did was illegal he doesn't think he did anything wrong.

Hey, you need to tell somebody and do something about it..My couison sexually harssaded me 2 years ago and I told my mom like 5 months after it happened. Its so hard to forgive and forget. I am the one feeling guilty cuz if my papa ever found out he would honestly kill my cousin. My nana knows and she doesnt rarley talk to him..I went to my aunts house this summer and me and him talked it out. He says I said yes but I didnt I know I was sober I remeber it perfectly.
alison

You definitely need to go to the police and report this! He raped you, regardless of how many times he denies it, or swears you gave consent. How old are you? If you're 16 or under he can be charged with statutory rape, plus the fact that alcohol was involved, this guy is facing serious jail time... I was in a situation where I was taken advantage of(not to the fullest extent though) and did a lot of research about date rape, statutory rape, and sexual assault. Please please go get help. Not only will you have a strong story, but you can prove he raped you because you're carrying his child! Tell the courts to order a paternity test for after your baby is born so that it can be clear that it is his. I have a lot of information and advice to give to you if you need it. Feel free to pm me anytime....And don't give up, he won't win this, not if you stand up for yourself and demand for something to be done...Im here for ya hun if you need me! Best of luck,
-vanessa

Well yes he did take advantage and it should be reported. Why didnt you say no? Well I used to say if a girls gonna be out getting drunk with guys then its her fault for putting herself in that situation. And I still kinda feel that way but it wasnt consentual and you werent able to fight it off so you should go to the authorites and they will take a report on it. Although it is your word against his, because they do like to find out if maybe your holding a grudge against him because you got pregnant. He could say your trying to get back at him for not being there and stuff. Report it, but it might be very stressful because there are only 2 sides. I know, I was trying to be a cop.

I just wanted to say that all the girls are telling you to go and tell that he cant get away with this, but I dont want you to think that, because it has happened to me. I took a lie detector test, I got a rape kit done, I reported it I did everything in my power to stop him from hurting someone else, exspecially my sister, but he walked away. My mother didnt believe me, nobody except my stepfather and other family members. You need to be ready for the flip side of things. And I know it is hard but you need to stay calm for that baby..I am here if you need me..

Stacie

They are right. You should report this. And what kind of a brother won't back up his sister? I think you need to do somethign about this sweetie!

U need 2 get this health questions punished 4 what he did.Have courage & dont allow him 2 ruin urs or ur babies life.What he did was wrong and he shouldnt b allowed away with it.
Liz x