i know this is a really old post but....
my cousin had a baby a few days after her 18th birthday.Far too young if you ask me ( im sixteen!),she has lost so much weight that she is a size 4,its from the stress of looking after her gorgeous wee boy.the only trouble is shes not bonding with him, its strange cause she really wanted to have him.now hes here its a totally different story.she constantly has to worry about his health,her health,money,having enough food for the both of them.she's a single parent, the babies father left her 2 months into the pregnancy.he isnt allowed to see his son now.you should definately wait until your in a stable relationship, have a good job, are finished school and any higher education you want to do and until your sure you are totally ready.

i am the same as u!i didnt know there were other people in the same situation as me. i have just turned 16 and ever since i can remember i have wanted a baby so bad!i used 2 play with dolls and got a re born doll to see if it would fill the voide, but it didnt! so i have just started college and im doing child care! im single so thats another reason why i cant have a baby!I want a baby so much but it just gives me a reason to look forward to the future! Love Gabrielle from UK x

I know this is old and she is of age now but this is actually going out to all the young girls that have recently posted and want a baby. Im going to put this bluntly,what the heck are you all thinking. It really isnt all roses and chocolate to have a baby at a young age. Ive seen more then my fair share of ppl growing up having kids at young ages(14-16) and their life went from cheerleading, aprties, girls night out, shopping sprees and the list goes on and on. They all thought the same thing, Oh I can handle this, im ready, im mature enough. Whe inturn they never really were. I have been with my husband now but back then B/f for about 7 years now. We are highschool sweet hearts. He is currently in the USMC and is about to go on his 2 deployment to Afghanistan. When I was 18 I had my first miscarriage, it was the most devistating thing a woman could go through and especially at my age. Shortly after I graduated and i was still 18, we got married. He was transfered out to FL. for basic training and of course I followed, it was there that I had yet another miscarriage, once again went through the heart ache and devistation together. Not even both times where we trying, we were using pertection both times and it happen. Both ttimes we were faced with a thousand ?'s like, can we support a child right now, can we give it the life it deserves, will we be ready for this if it happens to be that we keep it. we were young and didnt know but unfortunately god interviened and felt that we werent. Not sure if it was a blessing or not, because loosing a child never is but.... we eventually moved out of FL. and got stationed in NC. where yet again at the age of 21 I had gotten pregnant again. This time is was diffrent we were ready finacially and emotionally. We wanted this baby more then anything, but yet again god felt it wasnt a right time and took him/her away. Im now 22 going on 23 and I have a beautiful little 20month old baby girl. She is such a joy to have but having all that happen to us in the past made me really see that maybe god was right for having it happen. We are financially okay now and im about to get my nursing degree but I will say that in the begining it wasnt. We went from free partying people who didnt have to worry about who's getting up in the middle of the night to change the baby, feed bath all that jazz. I would also like to let you wanna be single teens out there to know ITS NOT A WALK IN THE PARK. 3 weeks after our daughter was born my hhusband was deployed to Iraq, he left for 8 months. And for 8 months I had to be mommy and daddy. House keeper and homemaker. It was the hardest thing I could have ever done, especially being a first time mom, away fomr home, family and friends and really not knowing anyone here where we live. Please I know your probably thinking that oh your 22 and have a kid what ever but My story is to show and inform you of all the heartache and pain it takes to me a mom and at that a single one! Think about your future and the future of that precious little baby!!!
Liv

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well im 16 years old and just over last month i was forcd to hav an abortion at 2 months pregnant and i regret it everyday,now all can think about is how much i want a baby no matter wear or what im doing its always on my mind, i no im young and it will be alot of hard work but i am willing to give up everything for one,yes i had reli bad morning sickness i couldent eat for weeks it was so horrible i hated it but i would go through it all agen ,i dont think age matters its yur state of mind if you feel ready or not and no one can tell you otherwise,just give it alot of though and if you reli think your willing to give up everything and your social life then go for it , yes your parents would be angry or disapointed but they'll come around trust me hope this helped xxx

If you don't think age doesn't matter you should talk to teen mothers raising low-birth-weight children who will be be in debt all of their lives raising a child who is physiologically or mentally disabled. Or talk to the parents of teen mothers who died on the operating table, many of whom now have to raise the children of their lost child that survived.

YOUR TEENAGE BODY IS NOT PREPARED TO GENERATE A LIFE. ATTEMPTING TO BEAR YOUNG BEFORE YOU ARE AN ADULT ***WILL*** HARM YOU AND THE CHILD.

SO what if you get in dept even middle aged women are in dept with their children , just becauseyour a teen age mum doesn't mean u cant love your child as much as anyone else could , and ive known plenty or teenage girls who had healthy babies and are perfectley fine, YES anyone can get pregant no matter how old you are, so dont chat this things about ur baby not prepared to generate a life coz i can tell you mine was SO DONT TRY AND SCARE HER OR ANYONE OUT OF IT! im not saying she should go have baby im saying if she feels ready and can take on the hard work that comes along with it then she should go ahead SO DONT TRY AND TELL ME ABOUT WHAT YOU HAVENT BEEN THROUGH OKAI !

Lolipop Angel
I will freely tell you that I have not died in childbirth and I am by no means qualified to tell you what it's like to be the 1-in-15 teen mothers in the world that do not survive the attempt to give birth. I would normally tell you that first hand experience is the best but in this case talking with someone with first hand experience means you've joined them and nobody here wants that. So go ahead and go with census and medical statistics from your country

Pregnancy 16 years old
3% die in child birth
15% Miscary
9% become infertile
37% have Low Birth Weight births!

If the chances of death or developmental redardation aren't motivation enough for you wait a handful of years until you are a fully functioning adult then, and I say this in all seriousness, please strongly reconsidder creating offspring until the do.

Wolf are you some anti teen pregnancy support I see your posts everywhere about all the horrid things that can happen. To be honest yes I agree that all young girls in such a difficult situation should know all the facts and risks involved. But geeees I really don't think your helping anyone.
Have you ever been in our situation? Well if not maybe you should keep your census statistics to your self. This is a help forum not a stats web page.

I don't particularly need a group. I'm just sick of watching people flush their lives away for crazed reasons. It's worth my time and effort to research some easily available information and post it here if it means I can avoid paying for the selfishness of foolish girls.

I do actually have a lot of experience with being in your shoes from being exactly in your shoes but I chose wisely and because of that I got to watch a lot of my friends suffer and struggle through raising a child alone with no assets or skills. Kind of a sucky prize. I still deal with the consequences of teen mothers 20 years later.

I'm sorry if you're offended by facts. I didn't mean to ruffle your feathers with information about the world you live in. I wish someone had told you that this forum has a pretty strong reality bias. If you don't like your odds of living through a teen pregnancy, maybe this is your sign.

I will soon be 16. I had a pregnancy scare about 6 months ago. I now want a baby. I know I would be able to care for it. I am very responsible and have spent my life taking care of my little siblings. I always put others first and I love babies and kids. I want to be a young mom. I want a kid by the time im 20.
The thing is my mom had me when she was 16. She wasn't responsible enough to care for me. I have grown up with out her or my dad in my life. My dad has 5 kids now and one on the way. He is just now coming to his senses and becoming responsible. None of his 5 kids live with him. My mom has 7 kids and has custody of he youngest. Honestly, I am not sure if shes really repsonsible enough to raise her. She doesn't have to best lifestyle for her, but she is doing her best and so far its okay.
I live with my grandparents who have already said no babies in their house. So, if I had a baby I would have to leave. I have other places to go and there is really cheap rent where I live if it would come to that. I have a very low paying job, but I am getting a new job in a couple months.
I do not have a good boyfriend that could father a child. I grew up without a mother and a father and I will not let the same happen to my children. I would want my baby's father to be in her life even if we wouldn't be together. Ultimately, I would want to stay with the father.
And with school By junior year I will only need one credit, so I i took that credit over the summer I could graduate next year so That would make things easier.
I do want a baby, but I am willing to wait til I am more prepared. Which includes A good buy, a good job, and if not my own place a place I know i could go to if needed. So I will wait til that day come.

This message is for " 19yearold "... I can tell just by your dissrespectful comment that you have no idea what it means to be a loving kind individual, and with tha said I have but 1 thin to say.... " GROW UP " and stop trying to tell young teens to go off and have babies, unless of course your going to help them raise and support them, which I doubt you can or will!!!

Wanting to have a baby, even as early as 13, is primarily a reaction to your hormones. But there are many physical complications involved for girls under the age of 20.

Also, everyone who's posted that they are or was a young mother seem to think nothing about the extra work & stress it puts on their parents. Do you really have the right to just expect your parents to help out? Remember they have life plans and goals too, and I bet it doesn't include helping raise their teenage daughter's child. Please remember your life decision don't effect just you.