Someone please help me. I am at the end
of my rope here. I know this topic has
been discussed over a million times in
this forum but I don't know what to
believe. My penis is around the 6 inch
mark, at its max. I am with a girl who
is much more experienced and has now
turned to a vibrator to get pleasure.
She claims I am still okay but I know she
doesn't mean it. I am very inexperienced
to begin with and I feel my very average
(at best) size is doing nothing for her
excecpt causing disappointment.
What I am wondering is do drugs such as
extagen really work? I have heard some
people say it is a scam and some say it
works well. I was nervous about trying
so I tried the raved about jelqing method
I heard about..........That is until I
also heard about many problems it can
cause!! I know drugs like extagen may
cause some higher blood pressure, but if
mine is low is it worth the risk? What
is the harm in trying it out for myself?
Suppose it does work? It would turn my
love life around. Please, I don't want
to hear anymore of what people 'heard' but
if someone has a good idea about it or has
taken it please help me. It is straining
my life and my depression is taking a turn
for the worst.
Also, I am breaking out on my shoulder
area. Does proactiv really work? My
girlfriend saw it right after a mediocre
10 minutes of sex that she told me to
hurry up and cum (sorry to be graphic)
because she was tired of it. I just want
to please her and at least tolerate
myself. My girlfriend is absolutely
beautiful (most beautiful person I have
ever seen......Honestly.....I thought that
before I even was introduced to her). I
heard proactiv doesn't work from some
people, and does for others. Sorry to
ramble. Anyone's comments are welcome
even though I probably won't get any.
There is no hope is there. I should just
end it with her to avoid her hurting me
later. :cry:
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 05-01-05 16:02pm
Hi there! It does sound like she might
be verbally abusing you now. There are
other ways that you can satisfy her and
you might try other positions. It does
not sound like she is doing much for your
psychological aspect. I cannot tell you
what to do, that is your choice. Sex is
not everything in a relationship but it
does help and remember, beauty is only
skin deep.
Good luck!
Sandy
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nex
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 May 2005 Posts: 4
Posted: 05-01-05 17:02pm
Your penis length isn't as important as
your girth is, but your size is fine.
Most chicks cannot even take a penis
longer than 7", since most find the
sensation of the penis hitting the cervix
to be extremely unpleasant.
Penis size is not the issue here. Rule it
out of your mind. She's turning to a
vibrator because you're not having enough
fun with her clit during foreplay. Get
her off before you have sex (tongue is the
best method). Try experimenting with some
g-spot stuff. It's located about 2 inches
in the upper part of the vagina. Press
against it with the pads of your fingers.
It can take work, but she'll love it.
If you want more explicit directions,
simply download the video "squirters 2" by
seymore butts. It's an amazing video.
It also sounds like she's running the show
and beating you down. Take control. You
could have a 4 inch penis, and she'd be
sexually satisfied if you're being the
"man" in bed. It's not what your packing,
it's how you're using it.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 05-02-05 05:03am
Or maybe she just needs a large penis to
be satisfied. Clit, yes, that definately
helps, but you can't say that is what is
wrong here.
If she is being verbally abusive towards
you, hun, then I would definately consider
leaving her. However, she told you that
you and your size are fine, so that wasn't
being mean or anything. Some women just
prefer a large penis. And, length and
girth matter. It all depends on the
woman. Whether they like them big,
small, long, short, fat, skinny, etc.
So, no one person can sit here and say
size does or doesn't matter, it has to be
thick not long, etc., because it is all a
matter of preference.
Maybe you could use the vibrator with her?
I mean, on her, not yourself of course,
unless you are into that. Have sex, but
then maybe when you are done, or as
fourplay, use the vibrator.
I wouldn't know if the pills work, but I
am doubting they do. If you have the
money to try, then ask your doc which ones
work/dont work or if any of them work.
But, if you dont have they money to blow,
or if they cause health problems then I
wouldn't even try it.
If she loves you then she will make due
(which it sounds like she is doing with
the vibrator). But if she start being
mean about it or ignorant then don't put
up with that.
I use klear action which is generic
proactiv for my face and it works great.
It should work on your back/shoulder or
whatever. You can buy it online at ebay
or drugstore.Com and it is under $20,
where proactiv is like $50 or more. I
like it a lot. Good luck.
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thunder_bunny
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 May 2005 Posts: 41 Location: Wisconsin
Posted: 05-03-05 11:50am
There is no pill that can increase penis
size. Many of the drugs that claim to do
so are currently being sued.
The first thing you need to do is relax
and have some more confidence in yourself.
You are way too insecure and that is
only going to hinder your performance
has your girlfriend orgasmed with other
men? It's common for a lot of women to
not be able to cum through penile
stimulation alone. This has nothing to
do with the guy. You said she was more
experienced, so I imagine this is not the
case for her.
You seem to need a little help in the
foreplay, romance and preheating the oven
part of sex. There's more to screwing
than sticking it in and humping away.
Like other have suggested, try making her
cum through oral sex or with your hands.
Ask her what she likes, what turns her on?
Don't be afraid to ask her for help on
this. You're not going to know what to
do unless you ask.
Also, 10 minutes of straight out screwing
is probably painful. I'm not sure how
other women feel, but the actual act of
having sex shouldn't last too long. Your
girlfriend probably asked you to stop
because she was in pain. Maybe you could
have gone a few minutes, stopped, messed
around, and then continued.
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southcoach
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 May 2004 Posts: 65
Posted: 05-04-05 21:19pm
Thank you all so much for your responses.
It means a lot. No, she hasn't
orgasmed with other guys. She had a
boyfriend (who was bigger than me) for 6
years and she never had an orgasm during
intercourse. It just makes me feel
horrible that I am even smaller. I
think I am going to at least try one of
the pills though (i have a certain kind in
mind). I have nothing to lose but 70+
bucks. It is a lot, I know, but I
have been thinking about it for so long
and suppose it does work? If I don't
take it I will never know for sure and
some guys I have heard say it does. I
researched some of the ingredients and one
of the main side effects is elevated blood
pressure and I checked mine yesterday and
it is low, so I am going to risk it.
You are right though, I am going to be
more confident in the mean time and try to
incorporate more oral. Thanks
again.
While I agree, sex isn't the most
important part of a relationship, but I
know from experience that if you are in a
relationship with no touching or sexual
interaction of any kind (or it isn't good
for both people), it creates stress and
you are often not as close. I think it
is a healthy thing and I want it to feel
good for her.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 05-05-05 03:24am
Good luck to you hun. If she hasn't
orgasmed through sex with any other guy
(even the "bigger" one) then you have even
less to worry about. Some women just
don't orgasm through penetration, and some
can't orgasm while being penetrated.
That doesn't mean you still shouldn't try.
It takes years and much experimenting
for some women to be able to orgasm at
all, or through penetration.
As for the screwing thing, for me
personally, if a guy is only lasting ten
minutes then it isn't worth me taking my
clothes off. I know everyone is
different and I also know women who don't
like to have sex for more than ten
minutes, a half hour, or whatever their
time span is. I have never met a woman
who had to quit that early because it was
painful, they just quit because they were
bored. Which, isn't a good sign at all,
but that is just how they felt. So,
yeah, everyone is different in that aspect
too. You are going to need to figure out
how long she wishes you to go. Don't just
assume that since she made you stop those
times that she wants to have short sex.
Especially if you quit and then she used
the vibrator. That shows she didn't quit
because of pain.
You two are just going to have to open up
to each other and find out what the other
likes and dislikes. It will all work
out. But, nothing will work as long as
you are so self-conscience. You need to
relax, respect and love yourself as you
are and then you can start having great
sex. Confidence is a very important
thing in the bedroom. Not, overly
confident, but confident nonetheless.
Good luck to you!
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antoni
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jun 2005 Posts: 2
Posted: 06-08-05 07:49am
Friend told me about extagen pills. Its
the all natural male enhancement. I
decided to order it from website. I dont
have any problems with my erections or
anything regarding size or thickness but I
wanted to just try it out and see if it
did anything for me. I got the package
by the mail and I tried the two months
cycle. And after this I notised that my
penis gained full one inch! And from
beginning of the cycle my erection was
rock hard!
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southcoach
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 May 2004 Posts: 65
Posted: 06-08-05 13:01pm
I wonder if your blood pressure is much
higher. I read this to be a large side
effect. How much longer are you going to
take them? I wonder if the size will
stay after you stop.
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antoni
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jun 2005 Posts: 2
Posted: 06-14-05 07:25am
If your blood pressure is high then you
should to talk to your doctor before you
start to take these pills.
I know that some pills can give only
temporary result. But when I stopped to
take extagen during one month the result
remained.
