Joined: 08 Oct 2003 Posts: 54 Location: St. Louis, Mo
Just Support My Anger!(update On Need Some Support) Posted: 11-07-03 21:17pm
Hey all,
thought i'd update you on the situation.
Well, I don't need anymore support cause I
just found out that he's a grade a jerk!
We were hanging out, he was drinking and
totally smashed! He was being really
stupid, and I was actually a little scared
of him. So I left, then we he came by to
se me the next day, things between us were
totally different! I just didn't want to
be around him! Since I didn't kiss him,
or anything, he was too scared to start
anything himself. Then I found out that
he's been trying to get with a friend of
mine that he met before me, and who also
told him flat out that she doesn't date
anyone that drinks, and even if he stopped
she still wouldn't date him! I'm not
really mad at him, after all we were only
dating, plus i've some to expect that type
of stuff from guys. I'm just kind of mad
at myself for even caring! Why do guys
have to be such jerks? well, now
i'm just kind of in a men suck mood!
Trying to get past it, but it's not
working out that well.
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manda panda
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2003 Posts: 33 Location: New York State
Supporting Your Anger Posted: 11-08-03 03:29am
Hey sarahauntie! Your reply to my posting
was helpful, so I thought i'd give a reply
to you.
I read "need some support" and, even
though you feel like things went too far,
I applaud you for ending the relationship.
You said he was pretty irresistable, so I
really respect you for not allowing your
emotions to cloud the issue. If his
alcohol habits scare and disgust you, you
should definitely not be with him. As for
being angry and thinking guys are jerks,
well...Yeah, some of them are.
Unfortunately a lot of young guys are only
after one thing. Sounds like maybe this
one fits into that category. I am proud
of you for not compromising your virginity
for such a loser. Think of how you would
have regretted it later on when you found
out his true colors! Now give yourself a
pat on the back. I guess my next advice
will sound very cliche, but here goes: the
right guy for you is out there and he is
worth waiting for. Don't settle for less.
I speak from experience. (remember i'm a
24 year old virgin who's marrying the love
of her life in 7 months!) keep on
respecting yourself and eventually you'll
find a man who respects you just as much.
Manda panda
p.S. Sorry if that sounded like a sermon!
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sarahauntie
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Oct 2003 Posts: 54 Location: St. Louis, Mo
Not a Sermon, Just Encouragement! Posted: 11-11-03 01:33am
Hey mandapanda,
thanks so much for your input! I'm glad I
could help you on your question, and i'm
sorry if I was a little overzealous about
my opinion
so many girls these days don't care about
keeping their virginity, and, while I
don't know about waiting till marriage, I
at least want to wait until i'm in love.
I don't really miss the guy, I just miss
having someone to hang with! I'm slowly
drifting out of my man-hating stage, but
remenets of the memory still exist.
Thanks for the support! That's exactly
what I needed, especially since I still
have to see this guy, and hear other girls
talk about him!
I promise I won't go on any psycho-killing
sprees, but if you hear anything on the
news.....
just kidding! Anways, thanks. I hope
your wedding(and your wedding night)turn
out to be all that you've hoped for!
Sarah
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manda panda
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2003 Posts: 33 Location: New York State
Posted: 11-13-03 01:15am
Thanks sarah. I hope you find someone
wothwhile to "hang with" really soon.
Stay safe and take care.
Manda panda
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 11-13-03 13:01pm
Manda panda! I am so glad to hear you are
a virgin and getting married! Best of
luck to you!!!!!! I didnt do that, I
didnt know better. But now I wish I could
take it all back!!! I cant change that
though. But I hope I can teach my kids
that.
Sarahauntie,
good job on dumping the guy and not
getting with him. There will be so many
guys like that but like manda said, the
one you will find will be worth the wait.
I kept trying to find the right guy like
for 2 years. And I was about to give up
on dating when I met jose. God is good!
You will find your guy or he will find you
when you least expect it!