Justified??? Dont Think So Babe! Posted: 05-02-05 18:35pm
Very long story but basicly I have ocd,
jealousy, and anxiety attacks I am on anti
depressants and have councilling I have
been with my partner for 2 and half years,
he stood by me throughout but because he
done this he thinks its ok for him to
abuse me, he hits me, kicks me, punches
me, pulls my hair spits at me, throws
things at me, everytime we have a
argument, I know I put him through a lot
but does this mean he can treat me like
this? Our relationship is like tit for
tat all the time I tell him I will leave
him and he thinks cause he puts up with my
controlling him that I cant leave, I
feel like he plays mind games with me,
please somebody, seriously is this my
fault?
Do I deserve this now they say what goes
around comes around.
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TessaMama
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 May 2005 Posts: 3
Posted: 05-07-05 13:05pm
You have had mental problems, right?
Depression is an illness not a choice.
Because he loves you he should stick by
your side. It shouldn't be that he had to
simply "put up" with the problems you were
dealing with. Noone deserves to be
abused..Not you not anyone. It is not
healty for a growing relationship, it just
causes you to hate each other. If I
understand correctly...I think you should
continue counciling,if you want the
relationship to work. When you feel you
are about to get into an arguement be calm
with him and talk even though inside of
you wants to blow up...Be calm...You love
him right? He loves you, right? If he is
simply objective and fights with you
regardless of your attempt at keeping
things civil...Get out of this
relationship...Its going nowhere but to
the grave or to prison.
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poetmcc
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Mar 2005 Posts: 273
Hi Ggshawy Posted: 05-07-05 14:59pm
I hope you're ok. Tessa is right no one
desrves to be treated like this. Do you
really want to be kicked around all your
life? Take care of yourself, fight for
yourself and do what you need to live a
better life.
This is not your fault, you are a
wonderful person on the inside someone
with a bright future. Your partner needs
serious help.
Look in the mirror, think of what you want
for yourself, what you deserve, the kind
of person you are and make a decison.
I know its really hard and if you don't
have the courage, its understndable.
Maybe another person such a counselor or a
friend could help you.
I also hope you're ok with your ocd and
depression, I guess they don't help your
relationship....But its good you're on
medication that should help...
Did the counsling you said you tried help
you at all?
Well please post on how you're doing.
Take care.
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ggshawy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Apr 2005 Posts: 39 Location: herts
Posted: 05-07-05 18:21pm
Yes the councilling has got me much better
I am proud of myself I thought my partner
would of been proud but if I ad one bad
day and I say to him oh I feel better im
improving he will be all negative and get
me back down by saying no because you
still do ne this the other day (if you
get what I mean?) thank you for your
replys I appreciate them, basicly I know
his the one with the problems he can play
mind games all he likes but im better I
know that in myself. Thanks again.
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babycat03
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Sep 2005 Posts: 21 Location: michigan
Hi Posted: 09-13-05 17:29pm
Hi hun"
you shouldnt be hit or anything, you dont
deserve this. Maybe he is the cause of
your aniexty, I know my x was the cause of
mine and my jealousy. I got rid of him
and I have been happy the last 13 years.
Dont ever blame
yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Its not you, its him, and you dont need
him , just remember everyone is strong
enough to do what it takes to make us
happy.
Lisa
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sarah4810
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Oct 2005 Posts: 9 Location: Tampa
Posted: 10-13-05 19:06pm
Amen tessa.
Maybe you staying in this relationship is
not helping your progress. Maybe you
could get alot further without him. He's
basically rubbing it in your face that he
stuck by you (times a hundred). That is
not a loving man. Does he also have
counseling for himself? It sounds like
he needs it. Maybe you can suggest that
(don't if it will harm you in any way).
If you can't suggest it b/c of that
reason..Get out now!!
I'm sorry, I know it's alot easier said
than done..But you gotta go what you gotta
do.
