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BaByMaMa2005
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2005
Posts: 433
Location: Houston, TX
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I Need Help!
Posted: 05-04-05 22:28pm
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Im not sure how many of you gals know
about my situation with my baby's father,
but he is a real dick! He gave me h.P.V.
Which gave me cervical cancer and when he
found out that I was pregnant he
threatened to kidnapp my baby and take her
to mexico, oh yea hes not a citizen, he is
here illegally. I found out today that
even though he is illegal and a felon he
would still get visitation of my daughter
if he tried! The first thing he would do
is leave the country and I would never see
my baby again!!!!I dont know what to do
and the only thing I can think of is to
move to a different state and start my
life over. The only thing is that im only
17 and I would have to leave my mother to
do this because I have a 10 year old
sister and a 8 year old brother here in
houston that she refuses to leave. They
live with their father. I am so scared
and I need help, I know that no one here
can help me but it feels good to talk
about it. Oh I hate this man, I cant
beleive that a confessed pedophile who is
here illegally would still be able to get
visitation of a baby!!!!
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Sherry_Wine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Mar 2005
Posts: 43
Location: Pennsylvania
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Posted: 05-04-05 23:24pm
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Kidnapping is kidnapping no matter who it
is. Husbands can kidnap their own wives
in their own homes even. The child will
be born a us citizen...And kidnapping to a
different country is a serious
offence....The police in your area can do
something about this and you can get a
restraining order against him if you need
to. Talk to police about this in your
area and see what they have to say about
it....They can probably direct you to
someone who can help you keep you and your
child safe.
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BaByMaMa2005
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2005
Posts: 433
Location: Houston, TX
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Posted: 05-04-05 23:33pm
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The bellaire police are already involved
they are the ones that put him in jail in
the first place, every day they pass by my
house but alot of good thats going to do
me. They let him go to the county jail
and they have 2 for 1 in there so he got
90 days but only had to stay 30. It
doesnt matter if he kidnapps bella because
he has no papers so as soon as he is gone
thats it my baby is too! Although bella
is going to be american she will look
mexican so he will have no problem passing
he off as one of them.
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Sherry_Wine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Mar 2005
Posts: 43
Location: Pennsylvania
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Posted: 05-04-05 23:39pm
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Thing is....
A) they know who he is so they can get in
touch with the mexican police and let them
know about it and find your baby
b) birth certificate.....It's hard for a
kid to grow up without one so she will be
labled....
C) never leave her side....If you or a
family member is with her 24/7 then it
should be alright till he's out of your
life for good...I wouldn't even bother
asking for child support from him...Just
move on and raise the baby and find
someone who is responsible and ready for a
good father roll....That's what I gotta
do.
Yeah....Even with one attempt of
kidnapping and you can get a restraining
order....So if he does kidnap they have
legal rights to go after him no matter
where he is....That girl is yours
legally...Not his.
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FISHX
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Dec 2004
Posts: 920
Location: UK
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Posted: 05-05-05 12:30pm
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You need to see a lawyer this man cannot
just take your baby for gods sake he is a
peadophile surely the police can do more
than just drive by your house as you sy
that isn't really helping you at all.
You say he is a self connfessed peadophile
has he been placed on a sex offenders
register do you know if not find out
because if he is on the sex offenders
register he will not get visitation rights
in court esspecialy as the baby is a
little girl.
Good luck and I hope that everything goes
well for you please see a lawyer you need
help with this for your's and your
daughters saftey.
Is he named as her father on any
documentation?
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004
Posts: 4580
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Posted: 05-05-05 13:40pm
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If he is illegally here then they should
ship him back to mexico. I agree with
the other poster, get a restrining order
and have a cell phone on you at all times.
Don't start running, haven't you heard
that "you can run but you cannot hide", it
is the truth. Good luck, keep us
posted.
Sincerely,
sandy
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katie_33
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Apr 2005
Posts: 172
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Re: I Need Help!
Posted: 05-06-05 18:12pm
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| babymama2005
wrote: | | im not sure how many of you
gals know about my situation with my
baby's father, but he is a real dick! He
gave me h.P.V. Which gave me cervical
cancer and when he found out that I was
pregnant he threatened to kidnapp my baby
and take her to mexico, oh yea hes not a
citizen, he is here illegally. I found
out today that even though he is illegal
and a felon he would still get visitation
of my daughter if he tried! The first
thing he would do is leave the country and
I would never see my baby again!!!!I dont
know what to do and the only thing I can
think of is to move to a different state
and start my life over. The only thing
is that im only 17 and I would have to
leave my mother to do this because I have
a 10 year old sister and a 8 year old
brother here in houston that she refuses
to leave. They live with their father.
I am so scared and I need help, I know
that no one here can help me but it feels
good to talk about it. Oh I hate this
man, I cant beleive that a confessed
pedophile who is here illegally would
still be able to get visitation of a
baby!!!! |
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Sherry_Wine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Mar 2005
Posts: 43
Location: Pennsylvania
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Posted: 05-06-05 18:48pm
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Exactly!!! I agree 100% with that. In my
case with my baby's father.....His mother
loathes me and wants me dead...She's
locked the father up inside her house
except for school. Thing is he wants to
be the father and i'm fine with it....But
his mother wants him to have nothing to do
with me....So that is my fight right now.
He and I aren't together anymore because
of this...Try to save ourselves some pain
in the meantime....But it's killing us.
My grandfather is even the deputy in the
area and can't do anything even tho she
smokes weed around her 2-year-old.
But yes, you need additional help. If you
have to, take it to the state
senate.....Make it public so if something
happens then you'll have plenty of people
to help and support you. I know I would.
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BaByMaMa2005
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2005
Posts: 433
Location: Houston, TX
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Posted: 05-06-05 20:50pm
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I thought the same thing! If hes illegal
then why not send him home! They made a
deal with him that if he went on probation
for two years and spent 90 days in jail,
they wouldnt make him a sex offender! I
dont understand! Hes not even legal! How
can he have rights to my baby if hes not a
citizen? But he does I talked to a family
court judge and he said that if he wants
to pay for a paternity test, because of
coarse I am denying to the end that he is
the father, then when it comes back saying
that it is his daughter he has rights to
her!!!!! I hate texas! The whole state
is on this new trip about how the fathers
should be more involved in their kids
lives, so even if they are felons they let
them have them. My little brother and
sister were taken away from me and my
mother after I testified in front of a
court room telling them about how he raped
my from the age of 7 to the age of 10!!!
They gave him custody!!!! There reason
being that he had more money, a better
lawyer, and I had tried to kill myself by
slitting my wrists, so they said I was
unstable and then came to the conclusion
that I lied!!! This is the world we are
living in and I hate to think that this is
the world that im bringing my daughter
into.
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Sherry_Wine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Mar 2005
Posts: 43
Location: Pennsylvania
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Posted: 05-06-05 21:22pm
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Make it public.....Take it to the state
and if they still rule against what you
want then take it to the supreme court!
The cops are doing illegal things by
letting him stay in this country!!
Yeah....Letting illegal sex offenders in
this country is really protecting
it....They're just as bad as terrorists!
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ggshawy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Apr 2005
Posts: 39
Location: herts
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Posted: 05-09-05 10:25am
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Babes I feel so sorry for you, your
really having it tough arent you, what on
earth did you see in this man in the first
place? He is a total health
questions!!!!! He deserves to be shot.
The thing about your traumatic life is
that you will love your bella so much and
give her the best life the life you never
had, I cant sympathise enough with you,
also I dont understand why your mum wont
move with you, surely shed prefer you all
to be together rather then having her
grandaughter missing from the family!!
My thoughts are with you take care and be
strong xxxx big hugs to you sweetie.
Ps what is the world coming to?
Sheriefs get paid for sitting on there
a*r*s*e*s!!!!
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seksiHily
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Apr 2005
Posts: 1015
Location: MN
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Posted: 05-09-05 10:57am
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Why wasnt he deported when he was
arrested?
U shuld make a phone call telling them
there is a criminal illegal alien nearby.
Do you kno where he is staying?
Do you live with ur mom and siblings only?
Do you have a cousin or uncle or anybody
that could stay with you guys? Or a
neighbor to watch out for him?
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Sherry_Wine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Mar 2005
Posts: 43
Location: Pennsylvania
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Posted: 05-09-05 13:47pm
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My mother said take it to the papers and
media if the police don't give you what
you need....The media can do more damage
against those people than the courts ever
could. Look at terri shaivo (last name
spelled differently, I know) but look at
how much support the family had gotten
through the media alone. The same can be
with your case.....Go for the local papers
first then go to the fox news
network....If that doesn't at least scare
him away then if he does do something then
more people will be alert about it and be
on the lookout much sooner and he has a
better chance of getting caught before the
final line is crossed.
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BaByMaMa2005
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2005
Posts: 433
Location: Houston, TX
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Posted: 05-10-05 22:19pm
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No me and my mom are completley alone in
houston, we have no family here. I dont
really think that I will have to move
because I truley think that once he finds
out that its a girl he wont want to fight
me for her. He never wanted a girl and he
even told me that he would be dissapointed
if I had one. But if he does I am taking
y'alls advice and I am going to get
everyone and their moma from the media
involved! I mean the nation would have a
hay day with the story. A 17 year old
native texan who got pregnant by an
illegal immigrant who pled guilty to
sagitory rape, and now their giving him
visitation. Plus hes cheap so once he
finds out he will have to pay child
support then I think he will back down.
Thanks for all the emotional support you
have really given me confidance that I can
overcome all of this!
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Sherry_Wine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Mar 2005
Posts: 43
Location: Pennsylvania
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Posted: 05-10-05 22:23pm
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^_^ more than glad to help!! Just make
sure you keep us updated and such and i'll
keep an eye out for you on the news (just
in case it does have to go that far). You
know you'll have the support of thousands
at your feet!
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steen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Nov 2004
Posts: 1797
Location: Upper Midwest
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Posted: 05-10-05 22:49pm
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You don't have to wait for him to actually
do something to at least p[etition for a
restraining order. You pretty much only
have to give the info you gave us to the
police/a judge (it varies from community
to community), and you should be able to
have a restraining order filed against
him.
A good place to get info abbout that is
the local women's shelter. They should
be able to provide you with great
advice.
On this site:
http://w
ww.Brokenspirits.Com/directory/index.Cfm?L
oc=tx
it lists a couple of options:
aid to victims of domestic abuse (avda)
houston tx (713) 224-9911
northwest assistance ministries family
violence center houston tx (713) 583-2539
the roseate women's center of northwest
houston houston tx (713) 351-help
crisis intervention/houston houston tx
713-228-1505
http://www.Crisishotline.Org/
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BaByMaMa2005
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jan 2005
Posts: 433
Location: Houston, TX
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Posted: 05-11-05 19:22pm
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I do have a restraining order against him
for he next two years, or until his
probation runs out. The problem is there
isnt a restraining order against him for
the baby. Plus hes not really a legal
type of guy and I am more worried about
him kidnapping her and taking her to
mexico than I am of him getting supervised
visitation.
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Sherry_Wine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Mar 2005
Posts: 43
Location: Pennsylvania
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Posted: 05-11-05 19:32pm
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Lmao.....Well to get to the baby you kinda
have to go through you first....So really
as long as the baby is with you, she's
fine. I'm trying to get an order for my
boy against the paternal grandmother, so
in a way my son will be keeping me
safe....And if he can't get one then i'll
have to get one myself and just keep him
close to me. He'll have to break the
order to get to your bella. I wouldn't
worry about that too much.
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samita333
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 May 2005
Posts: 26
Location: indy
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Good Mexican Bad Mexican
Posted: 05-18-05 23:14pm
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Hey girl I feel for you... I know you
will be a good mama, so you dont need him
anyway. My husband is illegal too, but I
got lucky, he is wonderfull, so I would
die if he got sent back! As for your guy,
if hes got a record then he should go. If
he did take ur daughter, it would be hard
to get her back, cuz as my hubby tells me
those mexican police just dont have it
together down there. Call immigration,
they'll have a hay day with this pedophile
for sure.
Keep her with u or your mother at all
times, trust nobody!
Remember everybody: not all illeagls are
bad and should be sent back,
there are good ones out there too.
Bellas papi should have been sent a long
time ago.... Bad, bad mexican!
I'm there 4 u girl!
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samita333
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 May 2005
Posts: 26
Location: indy
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Hey
Posted: 05-18-05 23:17pm
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| sherry_wine
wrote: | | he'll have to break the
order to get to your bella. I wouldn't
worry about that too
much. |
i wouldnt be to sure about that, he may do
anything and then run to mexico. He
really has nothing to loose if he goes
back.
So be totally carefull girl, protect her
with ur life!
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