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Mommy2B
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Joined: 31 Jul 2003
Posts: 1
Location: Virginia
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Patrick B. Asay
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Joined: 27 Jul 2003
Posts: 138
Location: Pocatello, ID
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Hi Amanda
Posted: 07-31-03 02:40am
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Well, the way I see it, any loving father
will understand the problems his daughter
goes through. If he loves you, he will be
disappointed in you because you're so
young, but at the same time, he will still
love and care for you and support you in
your time of need. If he loves you, then
know in your heart that he won't stop
caring.
As pertaining to your 2nd paragraph, I
have no better advice to give than that of
following your own heart. Young love is
typically the same thing as young lust, so
perhaps it'd be hard to trust somebody at
that age. There's also the moral issue of
whether or not to tell the real father of
his imminent baby who beds in your womb.
So, as I said, the only advice someone
outside of your shoes can give, is to
follow your own heart.
Patrick
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*ScaredAnd15*
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Joined: 28 Jul 2003
Posts: 3
Location: Michigan
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DONT WRY!!
Posted: 08-04-03 00:01am
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HELLO AMANDA...WELL I FEEL LIKE YOU SHOULD
JUST SIT DOWN WITH YOUR DAD AND TELL HIM
EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT IT... YOUR DAD
LOVES YOU NO MATTER WHAT.... HE MAY BE A
LITTLE DISSAPOINTED BUT YOUR HIS LITTLE
GURL... OF COURSE ITS GOING TO HURT HIM..
BUT HE WILL BE BY YOUR SIDE THROUGH IT
ALL!!! I ALWAYS THINK TO MY SELF....WHAT
IF IM PREGNET?? THEN I KNOW THE HARDEST
PART WOULDNT BE MY AGE BUT IT WOULD BE
TELLING MY DAD.. BECAUSE I TOO AM A DADDYS
GURL AND ALWAYS HAVE BEEN....  DONT WORRY ABOUT
HIM BEING MAD AT YOU BECAUSE HE MAY SEEM
LIKE HE IS BUT DEEP DOWN HE IS JUST
HURT.......
AND TO THE SECOND PART...I THINK IF I WAS
IN YOUR SITUATION AND I LOVED MY BF THEN I
WOULD PROB JUST MARRY HIM AND NOT TELL THE
REAL FATHER OF THE BABY!! BUT...EVEN THO I
KNOW THAT IS WHAT I WOULD WANNA DO I KNOW
THAT WOULDNT BE THE RIGHT THING.. YES YOU
CAN MARRY HIM AND HE CAN BE THE FATHER OF
THE BABY... BUT HONESTLY THE BIOLOGICAL
FATHER HAS THE RIGHT TO KNOW THAT HE IS
GOING TO HAVE A CHILD...HE MAY NOT WANT
ANYTHING TO DO WITH THE BABY AND THAT WILL
HURT YOU... BUT HE STILL HAS THE RIGHT TO
KNOW... MAYBE HE WILL EVEN SIGN OFF AND
GIVE ALL RIGHTS TO YOUR BF... IF YOU FEEL
YOUR READY TO GET MARRIED THEN DO IT.. BUT
JUST FOLLOW YOUR HEART... WE CANT TELL YOU
WHAT TO DO OR WHAT IS EVEN RIGHT BECAUSE
YOUR THE ONE THAT IS IN THE SITUATION AND
WE ARENT... YOU DESERVE TO DO WHAT EVER
YOU WANT AND WHAT THE BEST IS FOR YOUR
BABY!! JUST FOLLOW YOUR HEART!! 
*SCAREDAND15*
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magz
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Joined: 07 Aug 2003
Posts: 7
Location: new london
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Maybe This Will Help
Posted: 08-11-03 00:14am
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Hey, im 16 and 5 months pg. With twin's.
When I told my parents my mom left. I
havent talked or seen her since. My dad,
he's ready. And I am his lil' girl I
know he was hurt but I know he loves me
and my boyfriend. My boyfriend is 19 and
him and my dad spend alot of time t.G.
They go fishin' and they work on lil
projects t.G. Like this week they are
wokin on makin cribs for the twins. He
made one for me when I was born. me and my
boyfriend talked bout adopiton and we both
agreed that it wasnt goin to happen. We
are both have twins and we were both
adopted. And knowing who we feel we dont
want our chirldren feeling like we do. I
know he' going to be there for me forever,
because we both feel the love we have for
each other. Most adult's dont think we
know what love is. But I know I do and
most importantly I know how I feel. I
know how chris feels about me and he
knows how I feel about him and my dad and
my b.F's parents I know how we feel about
each other and know that we have love and
we do love each other. So what im tryin
to say is that if you feel love for this
guy and he feels love for you go with it.
Its what ur heart wants you to do. Its
what is right. And when you tell you
dad...Dont be scared. B/c ur is baby he
will understand..Write more if u need to
talk or anything :d
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DanielsGirl2323
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Joined: 23 Oct 2004
Posts: 19
Location: Biloxi Mississippi (Dirty South)
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Posted: 10-25-04 23:02pm
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My parents wanted to kill mw the first
time I got pregnant but they didnt know
till I had my first appointment and the I
was already 6months it will be ok after
the baby is born they will forgive u.
Your the onky kid they have  :p
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jessamyn
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Re: Im 16 And Preg... How Do I Tell My Dad??? Plz Help
Posted: 10-26-04 00:21am
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First of all omg my mom finding out was
the hardest thing ever but you have to
live up to your responsibilites and suck
it up and talk some disapointment and
screaming.... He needs to know you just
have to sit him down and flat out be like
dad dont hate me but I need your support
love and guidence right now... I'm
pregnant... You have to its gunna be hard
trust me me wanting to tell my mom was the
lassst thing on my mind... As for your
boy you have to seriously sit down and
talk about this... Your 16 is he for
real? He needs to understand that first
off not telling the father is unfair
howwwever in the long run if that is the
choice you decide to make... Is one fight
down the road gunna make him run? If you
break up at 19 is he gunna leave and say
it doesnt matter because hes not the dad?
Yes you love each other now... But will
you always be there for each other? I'm
not being mean at all I give him mad props
I just want you to go over all options if
you do choose not to tell the dad... Next
will your parents let you get married?
Under 18 they have to sign you over
basically... Are you finacially set to
get married and move in with him? Does he
have a steady job... What if when the
baby is older and god forbid happens to
have a health risk and needs blood or
something from his/her true father will
you be able to go to him? Sorry I am a
planned I have to know who what when where
why about my life so i'm just trying to
help but tell me if i'm going over
board... I congrats you though for having
such a strong male in your life most guys
who are the biological father dont even
stick around... So I am proud of him...
Lemme know sweetie I am totally
interested
<3 jess
18 and 21 weeks pregnant
san diego
aim darlinjessa
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MsWebster
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Joined: 02 Sep 2004
Posts: 84
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Posted: 10-26-04 09:26am
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You should tell the the guy your are
pregnant by that your pregnant with his
baby stop letting you current boyfriend
convince you other wise and you don't want
to get married at 17 years old you need to
sit down and get things in order your
confused at the moment. Good luck
erica
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jessamyn
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Posted: 10-26-04 09:41am
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I totally know how it is about not being
talked to it took my mom 2 months to start
talking to me agian
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callie8323
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Sep 2004
Posts: 231
Location: nc
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You Will Be Ok
Posted: 10-26-04 09:44am
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My sister was 19 when she got pregnant and
she was a daddys girl and also she was
wild and hurt my parents a lot. I
remember I was the only one who knew when
she told him he hit the fan he got so mad
and was like how can you take care of a
child but later on as time went by things
got better the father was never involved
in this she was single it was hard but
this baby girl saved her life I would not
take anything for my neice <3 sometimes
if you live your life wrong sometimes
having a child makes you grow up your fun
time is now over. Time to take care of
someone I mean your still a kid yourself
but now you have a life in you and time to
grow up you will be ok once the child is
born trust me everyone will forget how old
you are. The anger from your father will
disaper slowy as he watches his grandchild
grow he will love him-or her so much. Im
so glad my sister had my neice she is now
6 and growing up so fast children are
wonderful they are a gift from god. Your
blessed. Take care
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nippz
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Joined: 11 Sep 2004
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Re: Im 16 And Preg... How Do I Tell My Dad??? Plz Help
Posted: 10-27-04 15:58pm
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First of all of course your daddy will
still love you! Your his daughter! He
needs to be there for you!
Wow, well I can't really say anything
about the boyfriend thing because I dont
know how you boyfriend is when it comes ot
him being serious, but talk to him about
it.
U need to tell your parent's though. I
hope everything works out. It was hard
for me too.
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nippz
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Posted: 10-27-04 15:59pm
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Trust me it was probally harder for me
than it will be for you, im 14 and 30
weeks pregnant tom.
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jessamyn
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Posted: 10-27-04 16:26pm
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Tell your dad just to give you a chance
life happens for a reason.... And this is
now a big part of your life!
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kitty2luv
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Joined: 22 Oct 2004
Posts: 1089
Location: with my love
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Hey Amanda
Posted: 10-27-04 16:32pm
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My namne is amanda 2 lol my dad never nu I
was preg because I had a abortion at 14
and he just found out about 2 yrs ado I
had a abortion it seems he puts me down
all the time and I made a mistake I really
dont gie a rats ass about my dad and what
he think about me just sit him down and be
like dad im gonna have a baby and as for
the baby daddy u should choose to tell him
or not if u really luv yr new b/f stay w/
him and raise the baby w/ him
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PosrscheLvr
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Oct 2004
Posts: 304
Location: Plano, Texas
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Re: Hey Amanda
Posted: 10-28-04 00:58am
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| kitty2luv
wrote: | | my namne is amanda 2 lol my
dad never nu I was preg because I had a
abortion at 14 and he just found out about
2 yrs ado I had a abortion it seems he
puts me down all the time and I made a
mistake I really dont gie a rats ass about
my dad and what he think about me just sit
him down and be like dad im gonna have a
baby and as for the baby daddy u should
choose to tell him or not if u really luv
yr new b/f stay w/ him and raise the baby
w/ him |
i don't think telling her that you don't
give a rats ass about your dad is going to
help/ if she didn't give a rats ass about
her dad then she wouldnt be so scared.
Girl you just have to be brave and tell
him the best way you know how. If you
believe in god prey, if not draw your
strength from what is meaningful to you.
I also think you need to tell the fater of
that child. It's not fair, how would you
like it if you had a kid and not knowing
it. That would personally break my heart.
Also please don't get married so young,
wrong choice.
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kitty2luv
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Joined: 22 Oct 2004
Posts: 1089
Location: with my love
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Noooo
Posted: 10-28-04 11:09am
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I was saying I dont give a rats ass about
what my dad thinks
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nippz
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Posted: 10-29-04 23:01pm
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Hey did you tell your parents??
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