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Hi,

ive been where you are. Its scary stuff. Have you told a friend or someone close in the family? Its always good to talk to people who know you and understand your relationship. Making the decision to have an abortion is hard. I was with my boyf for four years (we only just broke up a couple of months ago) when I met him I was sure we would grow old together. You cant really make the decision on what could be in the future, you need think about your sercombstances now and whether you are ready to have a baby. Situations change. Think about the following:
1, are you emotionally ready to care for a baby?
2, are you financially able to care for a baby?
3, are you prepared that a baby will affect your social life?
As for the abortion its self it doesnt hurt, I never felt anything and I hardly bled after either. Ihave had friends who have had abortions who have said the same. Emotionally its different for everybody, I personally regreted my abortion and have found it hard to come to terms with things. However I have friends who believe it was for the best and have managed to deal with it. It really is different for everybody.

Hope that helps!

I always wished that when I was pg and had an abortion that I looked into it from all angles. Your doing the right thing by looking on the internet. At the time when I was pg I didnt have access and the only information available to me was leaflets and doctors advice, which unfortunately didnt help me to make an informed decision. The worst thing someone said to me was 'its just a blob of cells', this 'phrase' helped me get through what I had done, but later when researching I found this to be grossly untrue.

Women react differently afterwards. I know girls (and ladies!) who feel relief and glad that their ordeal was over...You may feel like this. But others who felt regret after the abortion.

Its the hardest decision you will ever have to make in your life, not one to be taken lightly. Do your research...Dont listen too much to pro-lifers...Some of their comments are little near the mark and unkind, however some of their points are interesting and like I say, its good to look at it from all angles.

Good luck to you, youve brought back memories for me.

One thing I will say though...If your not 100% sure that abortion is for you then dont do it. Some advice I wish i'd followed.

Xxx

Mom2trevor
"physically--everyone is different. Some people say there is no pain while others say it was excruciating pain. It all depends on how you tolerate pain, how tense you are , and what kind of medication you are given. "

when I was in the clinic there were loads of girls like me, none came out in excruciating pain! I think thats a little unfair to write. After my abortion I joined a councelling group and joined forums, no-one who has actually experienced an abortion has been in excruciating pain! The way the girls described it was that it felt like bad period pains (and thats just at the worst!).

In the early days of abortion when illegal procedures were being done I dont doubt that there were bodge jobs and girls were left in pain. But medicine has come along way sinse then!!!!

Decisions shouldnt be made on how painfull/painless and abortion should be. But in my experience and hundreds of other girls I have spoken to in the same situation have all said the procedure is relativly painless, its the emotional side that can hurt the most.

Boo - I hope your ok, if u want to, let us know how your getting on!

Sarah-yes some people do describe it as horrible excruciating pain but *not* all. People handle pain differently. I am not trying to scare her away from anything. She has made her decision.