Ejaculating Too Fast?

You just hit the nail on the head hon!

Thanks a lot

Just make sure you take care of her needs, too. The worst thing men do is leave a women hanging without a good climax. As i've mentioned in another post, if my lady had not had a good climax, i've gone down on my lady and found her "g" sport w/ my finger / while I did her clit orally.
She has had very significunt climaxes.............. :wink:

Thanks for the replies. Yes I remember about her needs, I always make sure she is satisfied.

Back on topic, i've tried not thinking about it, but I can't seem to make it go away. I'm very nervous before we start and I can't even seem to enjoy myself as were doing it because i'm thinking about cumming too fast. It's getting better, but it's bothering me a lot and it makes me very nervous, which I think leads to me cumming fast.

Does anyone have any tips or ideas to help me relax and not think about it? Thanks.

Matt

what can a young guy do? Well there are a few very simple things that will help:

first, he can masturbate before he goes out with his partner. This will reduce the expectation that he must be a great lover with an ever-ready penis. Then he will be able to last longer.

Understanding male sexual responses helps. If a guy ejaculates quickly, he is going to lose his erection, and this "refractory phase" will last about 20 minutes in a young male. There is absolutely nothing either of them can do to trigger another erection. But, let's make use of that time. He can spend that 20 minutes stimulating her, whispering sweet nothings, kissing, snuggling, cuddling, hugging, petting, stimulating breasts and genitals orally. 20 minutes of that stimulation and she will be very sexually aroused and he'll have another erection, and "ain't nobody gonna stop him now".

Another obvious option for young males is to use thick condoms. This dulls the sensitivity of the penis, helping him to last longer.

As a male ages, his refractory phase is longer. Learning the "squeeze technique" will help to delay ejaculation.

Many males learn to control ejaculation by practicing "kegel exercises" on a regular basis. Kegels may be found on this web site.

There are creams and sprays available at sex stores. These are supposed to numb his penis, so he will be less aroused and eager to ejaculate. Many men swear by these creams. I do have a concern. These creams usually contain lidocane, a topical anaesthetic. Fine and good, but if he uses it then puts a condom on, there is concern that it will weaken the condom. If he does not use a condom, some of this cream will rub off his penis during intercourse, and may numb her vagina. Again, do talk to your partner to check for reactions.

Women often feel that they should be able to do something to "help" him. Basically, this is his problem, and he needs to solve it himself. You can talk to him about it and lessen the expectation that he must sexually satisfy you every time. You can satisfy yourself, or you can teach him how to stimulate and satisfy you in ways other than penis in vagina intercourse. This reduces the pressure on him, helps him relax, and he has some sense of control.

The thing is, this never happened before. Before, when she performed oral sex on me, I could last forever! I would even need to think about having sex with her in order to have an orgasm! Now I can barely last 2-3 minutes!

The problem is that you now have a conditioned response to stimulation by her. You mind automatically associated her intimate advances with your impendning release. The human body is selfish and can be conditioned and re-conditioned to stimuli. The trick is to learn the number system.

The number system is what I have devised from reading books on tantric sex. Think of a 10.0 as the height of the orgasm, and a 1.0 as a completly flacid state with no sexual stimulation. The numbers 1.0 - 9.9 can be repeated much like riding a wooden roller coaster. The trick is to learn what a 9.0 feels like and to train yourself to respond to it.
Start intercourse and do "normal" things until you reach a 9.0. Immediately stop and let yourself relax to a 4.0 - 5.0. Once you are there, resume thrusting. Repeat this cycle until you are only able to relax to about an 8.0 state.
At this time, you should switch to other types of sexual activity. Let your penis become flacid and try massages, oral, or other types of sexual activities that do not break the mood, but divert the focus from your penis. After a few minutes, start intercourse again and repeat this cycle. The key to this is the repetition and restraint. Over time, you will be able to get to a 9.1, 9.2, and even to a 9.9 (like I can) before having to stop. I have achieved what is commonly called the "male multiple orgasm" by practicing this technique.
Intercourse in itself feels great! The inner walls of the womans vagina are very inviting, warm, soft, and the emotional and psychological effects of sex are unmatched; however, the orgasm should not be the "goal" of sex. The whole experience should be the focus, not the end.
When I was a "newbie" (actually from age 16 - 19), I couldn't last more than 10 min on a good day. I met a girl who was very unexperienced and we learned together through books and experimentation. I devised this method and now I can go for hours at a time, with getting to a 9.9 and actually have multiple 9.9 level orgasms. The final 10.0 actually feels more like an 11.0 now. Try this and feel free to pm me for any explanations or further details that you need.

I got this problem too xd
(but its only 10sec for me to ejaculate =( )

dont know what this "granps" guy is talking about... with the 20 minute "get your erection back" thing... im 12 and when i ejaculate you just keep on masturbating and the erection doesnt go away

when i masturbate i ejacutlate in 10 to 15 seconds and im only 17 wat can i do to stop this??

When i have sex, I Ejaculate within a minute or 2. It has been like that everytime we have had sex and has been alot. Does anyone know anything on how to stop this, or have any ideas.

Anything helps

-Thanks

If you just relax and not think about it, it should help. Also try to masturbate before sex. You will last longer if you do.

My boyfriend used to have an issue like this. He learned quickly that when he is about to cum, he would slow down his pumps or he would pull out for a minute or two and kiss my body until he isn't as close to an orgasm as before and went at it again.