Why Is He Doing This to Me

Guys,
this is my story.
My ex retuned and is testing me or I think he is.
We met in 2002, I was 22, he was 27. Strong chemistry we had. However 5 months later, we separated due to problems that stemmed out of a revelation I made. I had had a non sexual encounter with a member of his family. I dint feel guilty because I did nothing with that person, and also because I had not yet met this guy when I had the encounter with the other. But I wante dto come clean so I lift the burden off.

After that thnigs just went wrong to wrong and finally he expalined to me why he wanted to break up and we did. I understood but it took me almost a year to get over him.

I occassionally sent him a msg but he never responded. He had earlier told me that he was hurt and would never look up, also because, that he never considers getting back together when he breaks up.

Finally I got over him. A year and a half later in aug 2004, we tried to get back together. He was interested but even as I was interested I kind of kept my distance and I waw also always busy so I kept postponding our meeting. In feb 2005, he came over and we chatted casually and he left, borrowing some movies from my pad.

When he returned them, I was in the shower. After my shower, he followed me into the bedroom, held me and soon we were kissing ang pleasuring eachother with oral sex. After he climaxed, I left him in the bedroom and came to the sitting room, and started watching a movie. He joined me later and then left, leaving his wrist watch on my table.

Its past a week and he has not picked his watch nor asked if he left it here. The other night I tried to ask him if he was coping without it or if he even knew he left it here and he didnt respond. After ten or twenty minutes, the same msg I sent was sent back to me using another phone with a follower msg. The sender was asking who I was and why I had sent that msg about her "husband"forgetting something in my apartment.

I apologized saying that I might have sent the msg to the wrong address.
However I know that it is him who sent me those msgs.
Firstly, I know that that number h used is his number from his last job alsough he doesnt know I know that number.

Secondly all the time ive known him, he rarely leaves his phone aywhere without switching it off, altjhough he rarely leaves it anywhere. I know that he wouldnt approve of a relationship with someone who would check his mobile phone for msgs. He loves his independence.

Thirdly he is not married and not living with any woman. If he was living even with just a gal, I would know because he lives in the neighbourhood where I grew up and also several people I know live near him. Somehow I would have known about it.

Me and him have never had sex, becauase I am not in a hurry. He gets very physically attracted to me and bulges on meeting me but he never pressures me because he knows am not ready for sex now. And especially that it took forever to get over him. He is just a smooth operator like that..Even as we have never had penetrative sex but have done some crazy things with oral sex.

Why is he so eager to pleasure me orally? He seems never to tire from it, even when we had not broken up. When I left him in the bedroom, I dint want the attachment that climaxes bring especially if he is only interested casually because I dont want the experince of getting over him again.

The other amazing thing is this guy has never forgotten anything I have told him about me. Even if I say something casually or in passing, he remembers iy. Is it an implication that he is still strongly attracted to me? Im told guys will mostly remmber things of a gal they like or are interested in.

Late last year when he tried to hook up with me, I tried to hook him up with some else, a friend of mine, who was interested in him. He didnt like her and broke off communication as soon as he knew I had hooked him up with that person since I had broken up with him longtime 2002.

Then we somehow talked about a massage place that I have recently opened in the neighbourhood. He wanted to give it a try and I set up an appointment for him but he turned it down when he knew that I was gonna ask the professional therapist (massuers) I hired to run the place to do the massge on him. He is very open to the idea of me massaging him and not the professionals who run the company for me. He knows that am not a massuer and am not experienced but he is keen on it. I dont think he would want to use the opportuntiy to get at me for sex because he cant pressurize me and knows that I strongly do not do things I do not want to do. He respects what I say....

What are his intentiuons
why does he want me to massgae him and cant accept a naprofessional, being that, they are woman