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deedee4477

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Please Help!!!
Posted: 05-13-05 10:52am

I have been going through alot of stress trying to get my hubby to stop drinking (he wouldn't for me) my daughter was in horrible realtionship and using. Right now i'm having a hard time with life!! I have alot of medical problems that came up when I went into depression and suicidal. I have fibormyalgia, lupus, degenerative disc desease and carpal tunnel in both hands, can't work, cry all the time, just want to run and keep going. Very tired.....I want to laugh again!!! I want to move to idaho where we can take the stress of money off our relationship but he won't go!!! My parents just moved there and they are my best friends. I need help!!! Any advice?? Please.......Debra.
I can't take this anymore!!!!
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poetmcc

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Joined: 25 Mar 2005
Posts: 273

Posted: 05-23-05 21:13pm

Hey deedee I am so sorry to hear all you have been going through. You're right, health problmes, a difficult husband and daughter and financial problmes can really bring you down. But you have made it through this much. Please don't give up now. Life is still there for you to live, you are going through a hard time now and please believe me, it will pass.
I don't want to tell you everything's going to be great soon because it will take work on your part and your family's part. But you definitely have the potential to do it, evryone does, they will realize it.
I think you and your family could use maybe counsleing or something where you can all talk and share what you want for yourselves and the family as a whole and what you can do to improve your life. Counselors are made to deal with these kinds of issues and they know anything that may help you feel better- meds, therapy, etc.
Your husband and daughter seem to need to re-evaluate their lives too (i'm sorry I hope I am not offending you, I am only going by what you seem to say in your post)
maybe their is something you can do to keep you mind off this:
reading
music
running(its a great way and you said you like it)
writing ( but if you have a hard time because of the disease oyu mentioned, maybe typing on a comp.) pour out your feeling and vent for awhile, this helps me when I am depressed.

Its good you can talk to your parents. Maybe they can convince your husband and daughter to get help. Talk with them when you need to. Sometimes just knowing someone is listening helps..

Again, I am sincerely sorry you feel so badly now, you seem to be going through a very rough time...I wish I could give you better advice...But only a Dr. Can...I am only 15 btw

i don't know if you belive in praying, but you are in my prayers and I will be thinking of you. Please post or pm me if you need to...Keep your chin up and take care of yourself.

The very best to you and your family and thanks so much for taking the time to read this.

Ps- sorry this is so long...
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SeaBear

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Joined: 24 May 2005
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Location: Asheville, NC

Posted: 05-24-05 16:34pm

Hello d!
I am struggling to keep my head above water too.
Most importantly, be good to yourself!

I know how it feels to want to run away. I feel all of my troubles ganging up on me, but i've been realizing that a lot of my "problems" are self perpetuated. I condem my own self to feeling like this.
Knowing this harsh reality has helped me to realize that, if I can create this with my mind, then surely I am stronger than it.
I refuse to use prescribed drugs. ( :roll: I know i'm hard-headed)

my mother was a drunk. And I hated myself for that! She abused our relationship, because of her beligerant drunkeness.
I also dated 2 men that abused alcohol, and again, I find myself getting angtry at myself, for their actions.

I don't know exactly where I was going with this...But, if you ever need someone to sypathize, or advise, or laugh with.....Id love to do what I could
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jurplesman

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Joined: 24 Jul 2004
Posts: 139
Location: Sydney Australia

Posted: 05-27-05 00:51am

Hello deedee,

you social situations - alcoholic husband and daughter - and your own health problems seem to be hitting you from all angles. You must be a strong person to be able to handle this so far.


I can only give you some advice on the health problems. You mention that you have fibromyalgia and I know this is often related to depressive disorders.


Most of the ‘mental’ symptoms you have mentioned, including that of your husband and daughter, may be due to a gene running in the family, putting you all at risk of having depression. Depression is the major forerunner of most of the symptoms of depression, alcoholism drug addiction, anxiety attacks, insomnia and so on.


However genes can be beaten!


Most people look upon depression as a “mental” disorder, but in fact I regard depression to be a nutritional disease. Thus drug therapy and/or psychotherapy are really palliative remedies - treating symptoms, but not causes - because they fail to treat the underlying causes of depression.


For the brain to convert one molecule into another it needs energy! Thus the brain needs energy to convert tryptophan, found in food, into serotonin, our major feel-good neurotransmitter.


That energy is derived from the sugars we eat, and when we have an obstruction in the production of energy from sugars in the food, the brain is starved of energy. It will then trigger the release of stress hormones - such as adrenaline - aggravating ‘mental’ symptoms.


This is usually caused by insulin resistance. This means that insulin fails to push glucose across cell membranes and hence cells are deprived of energy, although you could have high blood sugar levels.


The non-drug treatment is going on a hypoglycemic diet (similar to a diabetic diet) and so we see that depression, and all its consequences (alcoholism, drug taking) is really a nutritional disorder. This is generally not recognized among traditional and mainstream medicine and psychology.


Thus there is an ultimate solution to your’s and your husband’s problems, but the first step is the treat the biochemical abnormality that causes so much emotional upheavals. It is a long road. If your husband or daughter do not want to join you in treatment, then start with your own treatment by going on the hypoglycemic diet. (search web site)

the condition that I am talking about can be medically tested, see:

articles ---> “testing for hypoglycemia....”

or the nbi (search web site)

start reading

“what is hypoglycemia?” and the follow up articles.


Familiarize yourself with the connection between depression and hypoglycemia.


Also read:

“why hypoglycemics choose alcohol as their preferred source of energy” at our web site.


Please discuss with your doctor or therapist.

Jurriaan plesman, ba(psych), post grad. Dip. Clin. Nutr.
For more articles see free web site at
http://www.Hypoglycemia.Asn.Au
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