Compulsive Lier (does This Go Here?) Posted: 05-14-05 13:54pm
Well...As a little kid i've been lying
probably since I was 4. I've grown up and
i've still been lying a lot... I'm in a
relationship right now, and it was fine
the first few months then I started
lying... I think one of the reasons I do
this is because of fear. I'm really upset
by this because I can't stop, I lie at
least one time a day to my partner and I
hate it! Does anyone have any tips to
help me stop lying? It's also taking a
toll on me emotionally to the point I
can't do anything but cry when I think
about my lying because I want to stop but
I can't. I've also been really tired, and
I have low esteem and I hope I don't have
anemia again. You could say i'm somewhat
depressed. Even as i'm typing this my
partner doesn't know about this, help me,
please.
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paramedicman
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 May 2005 Posts: 8 Location: michigan
Me Too. Posted: 05-15-05 12:24pm
When I was younger, I used to lie all the
time, mostly because I was afraid of what
would happen if my parents or brother or
friends would think of the truth. But as
it went on it got worse I became to love
lying it made me feel better. I remember
one time I was home alone when all my
parents and family went out to go see a
movie. I felt stupid because I was home
not having fun and they were. So when
they came home I made up a lie to make
myself feel better. Told them someone
tried to brake in, for some reason it made
me feel better. After that lying just
became a ritual for me, couldn't stop
sometimes I lied so much I almost believe
the lies. But 1 year ago I got out of it,
it got to me, my conscience, if you may.
It ate at me, drove me crazy, I didn't
like lying anymore. So after that I just
got over it, practiced not lying allot.
Forced myself to not lie when I no I
really wanted to.
Now I don't know if this is
some-what like what your going through but
if it's any ease, you can stop, you can
get over it. I guess I went the hard way
by forcing myself not to lie. Maybe
theres other ways you can get over it,
(medication if there is such a thing for
this). Just one thing I can remember
that help me is to get in a routine of not
lying, force yourself, get you mind off of
it. Other then that it's up to you..
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 05-15-05 12:33pm
I don't have your problem, but I do know
some people who do. And I just want you
do know that your friends and family and
maybe even acquaintences do know you are
lying. So, if you do it because it makes
you feel better or more important or more
interesting, just know that people do look
down on you for it and would like you more
if you just told the truth.
I did see a lady on a talk show one day
(although I didn't really watch it) who
did it so badly it made her lose her
family and friends because no one could
trust her. It is a serious matter and I
hope you can overcome it. Good luck.
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yelowam
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 May 2005 Posts: 15
Posted: 05-19-05 21:03pm
If that thought seems to run over and over
in your mind that you need to lie or that
you want to stop and u can't, maybe you
should try exercising or relaxation
exercises to help you just gain a little
more confidence and to work to take away
your stress.
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tattoomysoul
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jun 2005 Posts: 1 Location: baltimore
Compulsive Lieing Posted: 06-22-05 16:45pm
Well I live with a roommate that is
compulsive lier. He lies so much that you
cannot believe one word that comes from
his mouth. Everyone knows he is a lier
also and laughes behind his back. He also
has bi-polar and I think this could also
have something to do with the lieing. It
drives me absolutely nuts listening to his
bullcrap stories that waste my time but I
really dont know if there is anything to
help this condition. If anyone has this
problem and is on medication for it please
let me know.
