I have been dating the same guy for 15
months now, and just back in march I broke
up with him because he made a joke that he
cheated on me. (he implied it). I was
so sick at my stomach. I was crying so
bad that it looked as it someone had beat
me so badly. I was throwing up I was so
sick. Mine and timothy's friend jojo
called me right at that time and he helped
me get through it. Me and jojo got
together and we had sex of course, then we
decided just to be friends. I got messed
up one night and I slept with this guy
named bruce. Well while I was having my
fun, timothy was out sleeping with this
nasty girl named tara and her best friend
gina at the same time. He told me about
this and it makes me so sick. By the way
we are back together now. I know I
shouldn't feel like this, but I don't want
to have sex for the simple fact that he
slept with this other girl. I know its
wrong because I slept with jojo and bruce,
I just can't stop thinking bout this. Am
I wrong? What should I do about this?
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sarahk
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2005 Posts: 108 Location: England
Posted: 05-16-05 10:23am
Personally I wouldnt go back to him. If
he has cheated on you then the trust is
gone. I'd be careful aswell, if he has
been untrustworthy and sleeping arround
then whats to say he had the respect to
use protection?!! I'd be very careful, he
could have picked up anything.
There are plenty of guys out there, find
one that makes you happy not sad.
Good luck.
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lil_Miss_Pimp
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 May 2005 Posts: 13 Location: Georgia
Posted: 05-16-05 18:39pm
We were broke up, but still... You know
that hurts me
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sarahk
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2005 Posts: 108 Location: England
Posted: 05-17-05 03:07am
Do you love him and does he love you? You
said he joked about cheating on you, what
did he say?! Do you think he was joking?
I know its a tough one, especially when
you care about someone so much. Other
than this business of him sleeping with
another girl, how does he treat you?
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lil_Miss_Pimp
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 May 2005 Posts: 13 Location: Georgia
Posted: 05-17-05 20:39pm
Well he hits me, and kicks me and stuff.
Yeah I love him. He means the world to
me, but I can't help, but love him. I
know he screwed her b/c he told me he did.
But.... Thats when we was broke up "he
says"
i am so confused
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sarahk
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2005 Posts: 108 Location: England
Posted: 05-18-05 03:06am
I know its hard when you love someone.
Its true what they say 'love is blind' but
take it from me, ive just got out of a
horrible relationship and at the time I
could see no wrong in what my then
boyfriend was doing. But as soon as you
break free it feels great! Its a sweety
shop out there...So many flavours to
try!
I say dump him, he has no respect for you,
he sleeps arround and beats you. You will
find someone who will care for you and
treat you like a princess.
In all honesty hun, the guy sounds like a
loser...Dump him.
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Jiltedheart
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 May 2005 Posts: 11
Posted: 05-19-05 05:12am
If he is joking around about cheating on
you to hurt you he is a jerk. If he is
hitting and kicking you get the f' out
now. He doesn't give a damn about you.
He will probably never have the ability to
care for anyone. Would you want a person
like that to father your children. Any
"man" that strikes a woman is not a man.
You are very confused dear. You don't
love him. You are stuck in a circle. You
want something he can't give. You do what
I did for many years. You are lying to
yourself everyday saying it will get
better, it will change. There is a point
of no return and he has crossed it.
Please I beg you leave.
You have to take in mind that when you
meet someone you aren't meeting them.
Only what they want you to see. If you
knew he was going to hit you when you meet
would you still have dated him. When you
meet i'm sure you though he was a
sweetheart and he cared about you. Hers a
little secret about a good portion of
guys. When some guys sleep with a girl
early in there meeting he losses respect
for them too. They are no longer innocent
in there eyes. They will star lossing
respect for the girl. Once you stop
respecting the one you care about
eventually stop caring too. It's not
always sex that causes this but it will
always be related in some way to sex.
Also, sex isn't a weapon. Don't use it as
a tool. When done so it make it loss
meaning when love actually becomes a part
of the picture. I'm not religious myself
but I am hoping the best for you. Really
though beg you to leave before he hurts
you more than you can handle. You seem to
have a good heart just fear change and
though abusive you are comfortable there.
I would really to give him piece of my
mind personally. Nothing makes me sicker
than abusive people.
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