I recently started dating this guy, who
has told me a few strange things about
himself. What do you think?
-he's had a necrophelia fantasy when he
was a teenager, but says he didn't think
about it after that.
- he watches wierd fetish films, and loves
dark, sexual comedy (like last night he
watched something about a guy who got off
making obscene phonecalls)
- he's choked me before, but when I
pinched him to say I couldn't breathe, he
immediately stopped and apologized.
- he is really into sado-masochism, and
apparently freaked out his last girlfriend
by choking her too long.
- hes made comments about exposing himself
in public.
This guy sounds like some sort of phile,
but i'm not sure what. Do you think this
is all harmless stuff, or do you think he
has the potential to be seriously
dangerous?
The only reason I don't think he's a
complete psycho is because he's so nice
and really social. I talked to him about
this all last night, and he claims that
the sexual violence fantasies are in his
past, and he doesn't feel like doing
anything like that now.
I don't want to make any excuses for some
crazy behavior...What do you think?
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adams4E
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jun 2005 Posts: 5
Danger Signs Posted: 06-24-05 19:57pm
It sounds to me that the man you are
dating may have some sort of psychological
disorder. Not mentally ill or anything,
but I know there are sexual disorders in
which the "danger signs" you described
above are a part of. As for exposing
himself in public, he could either be an
exhibitionist or a freak. And even if he
is an exhibitionist, it's a little weird
not to mention illegal to expose yourself
in public. I understand that I am not in
your situation, but you obviously aren't
comfortable in the relationship... I
suggest you let him go. There is a man
out there with much less baggage!
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adams4E
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jun 2005 Posts: 5
Danger Signs Posted: 06-24-05 19:57pm
It sounds to me that the man you are
dating may have some sort of psychological
disorder. Not mentally ill or anything,
but I know there are sexual disorders in
which the "danger signs" you described
above are a part of. As for exposing
himself in public, he could either be an
exhibitionist or a freak. And even if he
is an exhibitionist, it's a little weird
not to mention illegal to expose yourself
in public. I understand that I am not in
your situation, but you obviously aren't
comfortable in the relationship... I
suggest you let him go. There is a man
out there with much less baggage!
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brian_may
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2005 Posts: 5
Posted: 08-22-05 14:18pm
I agree! It's not your job to help.
Dating isn't therapy! Perhaps he should
just keep some things to himself, but if
it's so close to the surface that he feels
the need to share, then look out. Move
along, since in any relationship(esp. A
dating one so early on ) you should be
looking out for yourself first. Think
number one! It's not being selfish, it's
being practical.
:)
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babycat03
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Sep 2005 Posts: 21 Location: michigan
Run Posted: 09-13-05 17:09pm
Hi hun:
you need to get this person outta your
life, if he has choked you before what to
say he wont do it again and hurt you?
Please find someone else there are plenty
of fish in the sea!!!
Take care
lisa
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bikeman120
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2005 Posts: 57
Posted: 10-25-05 08:06am
They say they won't do it again..It's a
bunch of crap..First I was thrown over a
coffee..Then it was i'm sorry etc...A
couple of months later, I had long 5ft
mirror thrown at me, & the bathroom
where I was hiding from him bashed
in..Trust me get out..I know it hurts..I
dated this person for 4 years & theres
a part of me that still misses him..(the
good side)
there are other guys at there.
