if while having sex your
pelvichurts and afterward you have to pee
and it hurts when it comes out like your
whole stomach hurts what could be the
reason for the pain
.?
you might have gas,lol. Or is he big? He
might be hitting something,maybe going too
deep?
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cortney jones
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Feb 2006 Posts: 52 Location: Ft.Lauderdale, florida
Posted: 02-17-06 11:51am
Yeah he is so maybe taht is the reason he
goes to deep and does not want to stop.
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orthogirl
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Sep 2006 Posts: 69 Location: NC
Posted: 09-05-06 01:48am
I have a question. Is this thread still
going???
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m king
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Sep 2006 Posts: 2
How Do I Make a Man Cum During Sex Posted: 09-10-06 09:43am
trojanbaby
wrote:
also how do men decide what
is girlfriend material and what is one
night stand material. I dont act highly
availablety at all yet all men seem to
only want me for sex.. And if idont give
it to them they lose
interest
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m king
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Sep 2006 Posts: 2
M King Posted: 09-10-06 09:52am
How do I make my man cum during oral sex
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Re: Question? Posted: 09-10-06 11:26am
jaseng
wrote:
smile_of_aphrodite
wrote:
since you have done all
these studies, is it normal for someone to
want to be choked during sex? I have
never been abused in any way, nor have I
ever been into anything like that. I
have been sleeping with someone for about
2 months now, he is the only person I have
ever had choke me. What does this
mean? Is it normal? Is is
safe?
:?:
what you are doing is called erotic
asphyxiation, or more commonly called
"breath control play." it is a sexual
activity that falls in the category of
paraphilia (read: kinky sexual acts),
which translates loosely to "erotic
attraction to activities on the edge."
there are many speculative explanations
for what causes a paraphilia, but not a
lot of agreement among professionals.
Some cite specific incidents or gradual
conditioning to alternative sexual
activities.
The physical pleasure occurs because
the brain's oxygen supply gets reduced.
This condition is called hypoxia and can
lead to a lucid semi-hallucinogenic state.
Couple that state with an orgasm and
some people find the sensation very
gripping (as i'm sure you do).
The problem is that there's no sure
way (or even a somewhat sure way) to know
when you are at the point of no return
from brain damage and death. The
potential for fatal accidents occurring is
always there with erotic asphyxiation and
great restraint must be taken to insure
that no accidents occour. Avoid
having him do this when he is near orgasm
as he may not let go due to his own muscle
spazms. The tracea is very fragile
and even if he lets go in time, it may be
damaged and airflow reduced.
The main point is to be cautious.
This can be a very rewarding act (i can
only assume since I have never tried it
myself) but just be very careful.
The pleasure that you may have derived
from strangulation during sex could be
physical or psychological or both.
Each type of pleasure can be quite
compelling on its own, but put them
together and the combination can create
the motivation for a dangerous habit.
Have him read this with you and discuss
the limits together. Create a "white
flag" or some sorts. Maybe an arm
raise when enough is enough, or try doing
this in a position that allows you to pull
away if needed. Just be careful and
use common sense. That extra few
seconds at the end might be a few too
many! Good luck and
enjoy.
this is hands down the most dangerous
sexual practice of all (other than perhaps
promiscuous, unprotected sex) - autoerotic
self asphyxia is the leading cause of bdsm
related deaths - i.E., no one around to
revive them. It's not even a bad idea
for a couple to have a third party with
basic cpr skills present simply to monitor
the asphyxiac.
At the very least, your partner should be
certified in cpr.
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Re: ? I Found a Soft Gel Type Dildo In My Hubby's Things? Posted: 09-10-06 11:30am
confused?
wrote:
:?: :shock: my husband is a
wonderful father & hubby. We have a
normal, healthy sex life. He has
recently experimented with crack
occasionaly, & told me about the
bottles he uses wraped in a condom with
lubricant. I just found the dildo in
with the plastic bottle stash & am
freaking out. He isn't homosexual,
& is aroused by xx movies or by me.
What may be going on?
I don't know if I shoild confront him or
not, as I don't want to embarass him.
Any advice? How can I rev up our sex
life, or is that what he even wants?
Thanks.
:?
Confused
crack apparently has a side effect of
loosening the bowels and relaxing the
sphincter - I once worked in an adult book
store with video booths, and it was quite
common for customers who smoked crack to
defecate, and subsequently engage in other
forms of anal play, judging by the
discarded dildos, etc.
Myself, i'd be more worried about a
possible crack addiction than whatever
sexual practices it's leading to.
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 09-10-06 11:42am
overlyworried
wrote:
actually, I do have a
sex-related question. It's kinda
embarrassing :oops:
the only problem my boyfriend has ever
mentioned is that I can't "stick it in"
right. Like, when he comes up from
behind in a "doggy style" position, I have
a hard time getting him in. I mean, I
guess I can't tilt correctly. It's just
so much easier if he would take charge and
do it, but sometimes he likes me to take
over.
So, are there any easier ways to insert
him into myself when we're in awkward
positions? Maybe some exercises or
something I can
do?
one of the legacies of evolution,
specifically the adaptation to bipedalism
is that changes in the pelvis have left
women with the widest range of vaginal
tilt in the animal kingdom, ranging from
significantly dorsal (rear facing) to
significantly ventral (foreward facing),
and it can make a difference in terms of
which positions provide the most effective
stimulation.
In this case, it is perhaps affecting his
aim in certain positions. Your best bet
is to use your fingers to spread your
labia, and locate the opening to the
vaginal canal, and use touch to guide him
in, sliding between your fingers for
example. A bit of extra lubrication will
help reduce the friction, which can be
considerable in the labial area
surrounding the opening, and consequently,
the number of false starts.
You may also have to adjust the tilt of
your pelvis, by either arching your back
or raising your pelvis and lowering your
upper body if your vagina is in a
significantly ventral position.
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 09-10-06 11:51am
overlyworried
wrote:
well, jaseng, it really
seems like you know what you're talking
about. I don't know if you can suggest
anything for my problem because it's not
sexually based - but it would be nice to
get anything I can from a guy's
perspective.
Alright. My boyfriend and I have been
together for 4 years. We have our
typical up and down days - just like
everyone else. We have amazing sex!
I mean, no holds bar kinda sex. But
when it comes to small things ... Like
dancing or singing in front of him, I just
can't seem to do it. I get so shy!
And it really gets on his nerves because I
can't get out of my comfort zone.
I mean, i've tried just forgetting about
my comfort zone and just doing it! But,
I still freeze up. Any recommendations
on how I can get over this
hump???
shyness can be at least partially genetic
- the good news it that it can be overcome
simply though experience, and/or a sort of
auto-operant conditioning. Try taking
belly dancing lessons or something
perhaps, if you are concentrating on the
technical aspects of a given activity, it
might be easier to put the audience out of
your mind and relax.
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 09-10-06 11:57am
mandalee
wrote:
my husband cant get me off
anymore. The only way that I have ever
gotten off is if I have been on top. Im
not sure what to do. We have tried
manual stim. Of the clit., but that has
never worked for me. Im not sure what to
do. I am def. Attracted to him, and I
def. Enjoy sex. We even tried anal
because I heard that ppl can have an
orgasm that way, but I havent and we have
tried so hard. He doesnt know that I
cant get off, because I fake it every once
in a while. He knows that its very
rarely lately that I can orgasm, he just
doesnt realize that its been almost two
months, when it use to be 2-4 times a
week, sometimes
more....Help.....
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see above on pelvic tilt. If being on top
works, then get on top. As mentioned by
jaseng earlier, an effective male
technique is to grind the pubic arch
agains the clitoral region - the offset is
such that this usually provides pressure
and stimulation to the clitoris, either
directly or indirectly - are you doing
this when you're on top? It may be that
he just needs to refine his technique, it
can take a hella long time for a woman to
orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone.
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 09-10-06 12:05pm
vanessalouanne
wrote:
can using a vibrator to
reach an orgasim later ruin your chances
to reach one without
it??
a number of women claim
that the vibration have a numbing effect -
one can condition oneself to levels of
self stimulation that will be difficult to
match by the average partner.
Usually, abstaining from such levels for a
while will lead to some mediation of this
effect, it would be difficult to imagine
that one could not recovor from this, the
body is very resiliant, though any
psychological associations formed during
self stimulation may also come into
play.
Try it without the vibrations - it is also
possible to condition yourself to orgasm
with very little stimulation at all -
tantric techniques involve self
stimulation with little or no direct
manual stimulation.
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Re: Do Like Sex An More Posted: 09-10-06 13:32pm
peytonsmom
wrote:
my boyfriend have been on
and off again for 2 years. The first
time that we went out sex was great now he
can't stay hard for long and we don't have
foreplay anymore. Is there something
that I can do to make sex better and him
want to do foreplay. All he wants me to
do is to suck his penis. Do you know
were I can get a free samples of penis
pills that will help with him please
respond asap!!!!!!!! Thank
you
you might consider zinc supllements,
calcium-magnesium-zinc work
synergystically and are available in a
single supplement - semen contains
significant quantities of zinc, and
depletion can make it harder to achieve an
erection, anecdotally speaking. I
wouldn't start investigating herbal
products until you've addressed basic
health issues: vitamin depletion,
cardiovascular condition, etc.
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Re: M King Posted: 09-10-06 14:01pm
m king
wrote:
how do I make my man cum
during oral
sex
just noticed how old this thread is, and
jaseng apears to be on hiatus - I have no
credentials other than experience and self
educaiton, but lemme see if I can help.
All fetus begin as female, and the penis
is, in effect, a giant clitoris - so the
same things that work on women tend to
apply to men as well - direct penile
stimulation doesn't always work for
everybody, for one, and second, the penis
is often accustomed to higher levels of
stimulation from friction, etc., that
are difficult to achieve with oral
stimulation.
Try using manual stimulation, which can
range from lightly stroking the thighs and
belly, buttocks, testes, etc., to
squeezing and stroking the penis.
Prostrate stimulation is appealing to some
men, using your finger, but i'd discretely
sound out your partners feelings on this
before I tried it, some men might freak
out.
Make sure your fingernails are well
trimmed, if you do try it, in fact read
the whole "thinking about trying anal
thread", and you can google 'prostrate
stimulation' to get more detailed tips.
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realsouthamerica
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Sep 2006 Posts: 4
Re: True Answers to Anything, From a Real Man Posted: 09-10-06 16:48pm
jaseng
wrote:
ladies,
my name is jason and I have studied
sexual psychology, abnormal psychology,
marriage sexual relations, kama sutra,
tantric sex, human emotional theory,
practical sexual relation, sexual
dysfunctions, various hands-on teachings
and many many other aspects of the human
sexual experience. I have had many
partners (most experimental and all clean)
and am offering my expertise and
truthfulness. I will answer any
questions that you were too afraid,
embarrassed or didn't know how to ask that
special someone in your life. I can be
honest, straight forward, percise and kurt
about anything. Please post any
questions that you might have or pm me for
a discrete conversation. Feel free to
ask me
anything...
hi, I do not know if you could
help.......Here it is: I have a lot of
burning, soreness & itching in areas
of my cliitoris & vulva. There was a
lot of external inflamation around the
clitoris other external areas. All this
occured after reciving oral sex from a new
partner. I have used lactacyd (250lm
ph3.5) vagiral (clotrimazol 200mg ovules)
and canesten cream. It seems to be
getting a little better. Im just confused
because it seems like, just when I think
its gone, it starts up a again.
Especially when I start moving around
& get warmed up., bedtime is always a
little frustrating as it gets very itchy.
I am travelling and I am in southamerica
and do not know what else to do. I went a
clinic today but they can not see me until
sep 29, 206. Can this be std, yeast
infection, or what. I am scared and very
worried. I can not get any medical help
right now.
I do not have a discharge or odor of any
kind. What can this be....I now have also
tried somo celestoderm v 0.1% cream to
aliviate some of the symptoms, it burned
but with the canesten cream it seams to
have helped during the night. But I am
still itchy but not as much burning or
skin inflamation....... Like I said
before I can not see a doctor untill the
end of the month, one is not
availble..........Any advice please.
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nawtaprincess
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jun 2006 Posts: 105 Location: ky
Question Posted: 09-11-06 12:13pm
Hey im 18 years old.. My boyfriend is 17,
I took his virginty less than a year ago
and well everytime we do it, it seems to
be the same and it's getting boring for
the both of us, he stays on top for a
while, then I get on top and we finish it
off with doggy style. He told me that sex
is getting old, not with me but just sex
in general, and ive tried to spice it up
like having sex in the shower, and on the
bathroom sink, but still its old to
him.... What can I do to like make him
want me more?... I usually spend the
night with him for 3 days and we only do
it like once or twice I want to make it so
good, that he wants it more... Ive gave
him numerous about of blow jobs, tried to
dress sexier... And everything....
Please dont tell me handcuffs and whip
cream or any of that stuff, I mean im sure
someday we will do that, but maybe just
something that would make it better,, what
makes a blow job better? Or whats more of
a turn on during sex?.... Anything would
help right about now.. I've tried anal
sex,, I dont really like it.... But I
want to please him what do you think I
should do?
jaseng
wrote:
ladies,
my name is jason and I have studied
sexual psychology, abnormal psychology,
marriage sexual relations, kama sutra,
tantric sex, human emotional theory,
practical sexual relation, sexual
dysfunctions, various hands-on teachings
and many many other aspects of the human
sexual experience. I have had many
partners (most experimental and all clean)
and am offering my expertise and
truthfulness. I will answer any
questions that you were too afraid,
embarrassed or didn't know how to ask that
special someone in your life. I can be
honest, straight forward, percise and kurt
about anything. Please post any
questions that you might have or pm me for
a discrete conversation. Feel free to
ask me
anything...
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 09-12-06 17:59pm
I think the advice you got in the other
thread was good - sex is mostly in your
head - who initiates sex, him or you? Try
playing hard to get, tease a little, be
playful, have fun - sex isn't just about
penetration and orgasm, it's also a form
of social intercourse - get to know each
other better.
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meganerogers
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Sep 2006 Posts: 1 Location: London, England
Posted: 09-13-06 13:50pm
I have an important question. I am almost
23 and my boyfriend of nearly 3 years is
26. We both have a lot of stress in our
jobs, both physical and mental. It seems
as though I am the only one interested in
sex. He tends to notice women's figures
all of the time and claims that he's
making fun or that I looked better. I
have always been a bit sensitive about my
height, only 5'2", and since we've been
together I have went from a size 3 pants
to a 7 or 9 depending of the brand. I
feel uncomfortable with myself but try not
to show it. Why do you think he's not
very interested in sex anymore? Could it
be the stress from our jobs, the amount of
time we've been together, or the fact that
i'm not as thin as I used to be and he
notices that I am uncomfortable with it?
He tells me that it's stress and he's
passed his sexual peak, but I know a lot
of women who have boyfriends/husbands that
are a lot older and have a high sex drive.
( we have gone from having sex 4-5 times
a week to maybe 2 times!) please help! I
know that there is more to a relationship
than sex, but I feel bad about myself when
he's constantly not interested!
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singledad
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2006 Posts: 86 Location: New Mexico
Posted: 09-13-06 21:51pm
I'm not sure what to tell you, twice a
week is about average, you've been
together three years, things get routine
after a while, depending on the people
involved.
He's looking, so either he's trying to
make you jealous, he's considering getting
some strange, or maybe he's trying to
sound you out on a threesome - who knows?
Could be any or all, or none - sometimes
it takes a real effort not to look at a
good looking women, it's evolution.
Still, we're certainly capable of
overcoming our instincts, so if he isn't
making the effort, and knows it bothers
you and/or makes you insecure, it's
probobly a message of some kind, conscious
or unconscious.
At 5'2", it doesn't take much to put on
size, I feel for you, I happen to like
short, curvey women, but guys are all
different.
If that's it, he might have been
interested in you for your looks to begin
with, and that really isn't a very sound
foundation for a relationship - you both
work a lot, you say, and time apart can
have something to do with it too -
familiarity breeds.
I hope this helps, i'm really not too good
with relationship advice, I really don't
know anything about either of you. I
think you just need to relax and use your
instincts - if you happen to get
depressed, that can actually help if you
use it: people see things more
realistically when they're depressed -
strange advice, I know - but i'm just
throwing things out there, take it with a
grain of salt, and like I say, use your
instincts.
So, more strange advice - things you can
try mostly involve changing your routine:
I don't know what you usually do, but do
something different - maybe get him to
talk about sex, and try to detach
yourself, see if you can get into his head
a bit that way - you gotta remember we're
all human, and no fantasy can really
compete with you - and by that I mean,
it's no contest, you are a living,
breathing beautiful person, you got it all
over any fantasy, and it might lead to
something.
You might be quite horrified at some of
the stuff that goes through our heads -
and a guy might find interest in a woman
that is willing to listen - not your usual
advice I know, and I can't gurantee it'll
work, but you might get to know each other
a little better.
Otherwise, it's that routine, it's a
relationship killer, and it starts the
second you walk in the door, start there,
don't just go through the motions, be
there.
Do something for yourself, make some
changes, a new hairstyle, different
clothes, spend some love on yourself.
Pressure to perform can be equally
forbidding, try to spend more time
together doing other things, flirt with
him in public - relax and use your
imagination - whatever happens is going to
happen, you really can't control of change
other people, so just do what you can -
something attracted him to you in the
beginning, you just have to figure out
what that is.
Routine can be nice sometimes, but you
gotta change up every once in a while.
I hope some of this helps, it sounds like
you really want this to work.
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awkwarddepressed
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Mar 2006 Posts: 70
lost interest in sex Posted: 07-02-08 13:48pm
my current gf is the only person ive had
intercourse with, yet shes had an
undisclosed number of partners before me.
when we started dating 2 1/2 years ago wed
have sex almost everyday, at night, in the
morning, you name it. now we have sex on
fridays and maybe on sundays. she gives
me oral sex like every couple of months. i
offer to give it to her all the time.
my worry is that her past experiences have
affected how she has sex with me. is it
possible shes just bored of the whole
thing? am i more excited and into it
because i only started having sex when i
started dating her and shes got more over
the years and doesnt really care anymore?
was she more wild and into having sex back
when she first started? does the number of
partners someone has had affect their
current relationships. does it make them
want sex less if theyve had a variety?
on top of that i started having sex at age
28 and she started at like 20 or 21. am i
retarded? am i missing out? have i missed
out?
