Lol i'm sorry if you took offence to this,
I just read the previous comments and
thought it would be funny to see your
reaction. Obviously you take yourself a
bit too seriously. And really, don't
bother replying to this. Yes, you're
doing women a service, you don't need to
defend yourself.
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mishkin999
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jun 2005 Posts: 2
Kegels When Soft? Posted: 06-18-05 08:50am
Hey i'm a man and I was wondering if I
could do my kegels when im soft?
Thanks
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RiseAndShine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jun 2005 Posts: 2 Location: Toronto, ON
Another Question .... Posted: 06-20-05 19:18pm
Here's a question for you ....... The
first time my boyfriend and I were
together he couldn't keep an erection when
it came time for actual intercourse. He
said it was because he was stressed out
and I believed him, while of course
secretly wondering if something was wrong
with me. Normally I would have been able
to put this behind us, but every time that
we have had sex after that he never seems
to be able to keep a full erection. He
gets very hard during forplay, but when it
comes to actual intercourse he never seems
to be as hard. He is almost 30 years
old, and under a lot of stress, but is
this the problem or is it something else?
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JasenG
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 99 Location: Virginia
Re: Kegels When Soft? Posted: 06-28-05 07:28am
mishkin999
wrote:
hey i'm a man and I was
wondering if I could do my kegels when im
soft?
Thanks
kegels can be done sitting at a desk,
driving, while studying, anytime while you
are hard of soft. The tightening and
relaxing of the pubic muscles will help
with self control and restraint during
sex. Just think of how you stop while
peeing and flex and relax that muscle for
30-60sec a few times a day. A few weeks
of that and you should have better
control. Oh, and this can also be done
by women! It will lead to better control
of tighening and relaxing the vagina
(which can fel great during
intercourse).
Good luck.
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JasenG
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 99 Location: Virginia
Re: Another Question .... Posted: 06-28-05 07:32am
riseandshine
wrote:
here's a question for you
....... The first time my boyfriend and
I were together he couldn't keep an
erection when it came time for actual
intercourse. He said it was because he
was stressed out and I believed him, while
of course secretly wondering if something
was wrong with me. Normally I would
have been able to put this behind us, but
every time that we have had sex after that
he never seems to be able to keep a full
erection. He gets very hard during
forplay, but when it comes to actual
intercourse he never seems to be as hard.
He is almost 30 years old, and under a
lot of stress, but is this the problem or
is it something
else?
i actually had that same issue. I have a
vericol seal and circulation issues, so
that is probably not his reason. The
most common reason is anxiety about
performance. When you are having
foreplay, he is not concerned about
pleasuring you with his penis. It is
just fun and stimulating. When it
finally comes time for intercourse, he
might be dwelling on questions like: am I
doing it right, is it big enough, is this
how she wants it, will she orgasm and so
on. Then he starts focusing on this it
can quickly lead to a loss of erection.
Try to reasure him with making it seem
like you are placating him. Try talking
dirty, a penis ring or if it is a real
issue, try to ask his doctor for a small
dose of viagra. I hope this helps.
Good luck.
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Justin_Toronto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Toronto, ON
Thanks: 1
Thanked:0
Re: Question? Posted: 06-28-05 09:27am
jaseng
wrote:
smile_of_aphrodite
wrote:
since you have done all
these studies, is it normal for someone to
want to be choked during sex? I have
never been abused in any way, nor have I
ever been into anything like that. I
have been sleeping with someone for about
2 months now, he is the only person I have
ever had choke me. What does this
mean? Is it normal? Is is safe?
:?:
what you are doing is called erotic
asphyxiation, or more commonly called
"breath control play." it is a sexual
activity that falls in the category of
paraphilia (read: kinky sexual acts),
which translates loosely to "erotic
attraction to activities on the edge."
there are many speculative explanations
for what causes a paraphilia, but not a
lot of agreement among professionals.
Some cite specific incidents or gradual
conditioning to alternative sexual
activities.
The physical pleasure occurs because
the brain's oxygen supply gets reduced.
This condition is called hypoxia and can
lead to a lucid semi-hallucinogenic state.
Couple that state with an orgasm and
some people find the sensation very
gripping (as i'm sure you do).
The problem is that there's no sure
way (or even a somewhat sure way) to know
when you are at the point of no return
from brain damage and death. The
potential for fatal accidents occurring is
always there with erotic asphyxiation and
great restraint must be taken to insure
that no accidents occour. Avoid
having him do this when he is near orgasm
as he may not let go due to his own muscle
spazms. The tracea is very fragile
and even if he lets go in time, it may be
damaged and airflow reduced.
The main point is to be cautious.
This can be a very rewarding act (i can
only assume since I have never tried it
myself) but just be very careful. The
pleasure that you may have derived from
strangulation during sex could be physical
or psychological or both. Each type
of pleasure can be quite compelling on its
own, but put them together and the
combination can create the motivation for
a dangerous habit. Have him read this
with you and discuss the limits together.
Create a "white flag" or some sorts.
Maybe an arm raise when enough is
enough, or try doing this in a position
that allows you to pull away if needed.
Just be careful and use common sense.
That extra few seconds at the end might
be a few too many! Good luck and
enjoy.
good answer. As a side note, erotic
asphyxiation was a theme used for michael
crichton's novel and movie starrnig demi
moore, "disclosure".
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JasenG
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 99 Location: Virginia
Re: Question? Posted: 06-30-05 14:27pm
Good answer. As a side note, erotic
asphyxiation was a theme used for michael
crichton's novel and movie starrnig demi
moore, "disclosure".[/quote]
great movie!!!
Meredith johnson: "you stick your dick in
my mouth and now you get an attack of
morality?"
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nichol
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 May 2005 Posts: 17
Posted: 07-06-05 13:41pm
Hey, I have a question...Its not really
much to do about sex but I seen that u
were educated in abnormal psychology
too...Do u have any advice on the best
ways to deal with a boyfriend that is
bipolar? Im sure mine at least mildly is
cuz ive found depakote pills and he does
seem to get really irritated and moody a
lot...Which causes us to have fights when
he blows up...
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dustins_goofy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jan 2005 Posts: 17
Orgasim Posted: 07-07-05 00:19am
I cant have an orgasim from sex..Sometimes
I fake it because my bf trys so hard...I
can from oral sex tho or masterbation..Is
there anything that my bf can do to make
me have an orgasim from sex?
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JasenG
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 99 Location: Virginia
Re: Orgasim Posted: 07-11-05 13:48pm
dustins_goofy
wrote:
i cant have an orgasim from
sex..Sometimes I fake it because my bf
trys so hard...I can from oral sex tho or
masterbation..Is there anything that my bf
can do to make me have an orgasim from
sex?
most (about 80%) of women are primarily
stimulated by their clitoris. Buy a
small vibrator and use it on your clitoris
while having intercourse. That is the
best way for a clitoral woman to acheive
orgasm during intercourse.
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JasenG
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 99 Location: Virginia
Posted: 07-11-05 13:53pm
nichol
wrote:
hey, I have a question...Its
not really much to do about sex but I seen
that u were educated in abnormal
psychology too...Do u have any advice on
the best ways to deal with a boyfriend
that is bipolar? Im sure mine at least
mildly is cuz ive found depakote pills and
he does seem to get really irritated and
moody a lot...Which causes us to have
fights when he blows
up...
(from webmd)
depakote is an antiseizure medicine also
effective for controlling mania. It is
highly effective for people with
rapid-cycling bipolar disorder. The drug
has some side effects, can cause
inflammation of the liver and can decrease
the amount of platelets (blood cells
needed for blood to clot) that the body
makes so your doctor will monitor levels
of depakote as well as liver function and
platelet counts.
Bi-polar sufferers tend to switch from
periods of manic to depression. During
mania, they are usually very happy,
optimistic, even tempered, have a high sex
drive, etc etc. Durring the depression
period, they are argumentative, can be
angry or depressed, experince lack of
pleasure from normally enjoyable things
and acts, lose their sex drive, etc etc.
Read the below links for more advice.
I am not interested in sex, I can come,
but, I just dont get into it. I always
feel pressured into being sexy, and most
of the time its because I think im
overweight or unapealing, see, im bi
racial, and my husband is white, he tells
me he likes the way I look, but I keep
thinking (he would be happier with a
skinny white girl)
do you think this is why im not interested
in sex? Is it normal for sex to feel like
a chore?
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jeffery
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Jul 2005 Posts: 5 Location: Caribbean
Advice For Jasen G Posted: 08-02-05 07:25am
If there were in the world today any large
number of people who desired their own
happiness more than they desired the
unhappiness of others, we could have
paradise in a few years.
Bertrand russell (1872 - 1970
jasen g, do not worry with those idiots
that try to bring you down. As the above
quotation suggests, some people are
naturally negative and wont feel good
about their own insecurities unless they
make someones life miserable.
You have done alot of research, what do
you do with all this information?
Continue what you are doing and do it
proud. You have my support.
The only thing to do with good advice is
pass it on. It is never any use to
oneself.
Oscar wilde (1854 - 1900)
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Kswendris
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jul 2005 Posts: 7 Location: michigan
Married Ot An Older Man Posted: 08-03-05 08:10am
I am 23 and my husband is 38 we have a
very active sex life, when possiable we
have sex about 3 times a week, its been
like that for the past two years and we've
been married 4 months. My question is the
past couple months he has not been
intrested in innitiating sex, he says that
for so long he was always the inniator and
that its like anew found fetish to have me
iniate sex all the time. Well I don't
like to do it all the time, I guess i'm
old fashioned in thinking that it should
be inniated by him. Why does he do this
and how can I express that I want him to
iniate sex more without him feeling
obligated to do it and not be intrested?
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truckstophero
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jul 2005 Posts: 84 Location: alabama
Posted: 08-03-05 20:31pm
What do you do if you are married to
someone who just will not give you a blow
job but only wants straight up sex?
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Lost_in_a_werid_world
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Oct 2004 Posts: 28 Location: Canada
Posted: 08-06-05 23:32pm
Hi there,
well I was just wondering.. As a guys
opinion.. Well see I have size b going
onto c now cup size (breast) and ya they
fit my body well .. But see... Thats the
probably they fit my body horribly. My
nipples are pretty much almost the same
size of my breasts.. Ok well not excatly
but they are extremelllyyy large :oops:
and I hate it with a passion. I;m only 16
and I nooooo that guys my age would make
fun of me and stuff but I just hate them .
They make me veryyy unsecure about my
body . How do you think a guy would react
2 them? They r just so... Nastyyy o man
:( I hate it. But guys r just 2 imature 2
accept it. Honestly, how do you think
they;d take it. And when I mean huge, I
really do mean it :oops: ... Would
appreciate the feedback
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mommy of 1
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jul 2005 Posts: 291 Location: traverse city michigan
Posted: 08-06-05 23:53pm
Well im not sure you want my opinion but
my husband said he wants a pic lol just
kidding, but my husband loves big nipples,
its crazy but he thinks its great, I think
guys at that age dont really care as long
as they get to see them lol, hope I was
some help :)
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mommy of 1
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jul 2005 Posts: 291 Location: traverse city michigan
Posted: 08-06-05 23:55pm
Ok now I have a question, is it normal to
have to pee really bad after sex, only
when he cums in me, but then not be able
to go??? It is only when he finishes
inside me :? But it feels like I have to
pee and it burns. Love some thoughts
thanks
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inblissfuldaze
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Aug 2005 Posts: 3
Jaseng.. Posted: 08-07-05 15:45pm
Is it possible that with rough sex, the
guy can rip the girls vagina? There is a
small wound, almost like a sore, or rubbed
raw spot on the very bottom of my vagina
(on the perineum, righhhttt next to the
opening to the vagina) that hurts.... Im
guessing he either ripped me, or the
rubbing actually chafed the skin n made it
raw...? (as a side note, there was no
condom, so it was skin on skin).
Am I just making things up or is that
actually possible? If it isnt, im scared
to know what is actually wrong with me.
:cry:
if it is true, what can I do to help it
heal or make the pain stop?? :cry:
