Confused

Hey I dont belive in abortions I think if god gives you a life you do not have the right to take it away but what I can say is im also 16 and a mother of twin boys I love them more then I ever thought I could lov a person in my life. It was only 3 months ago when I had the boys and yes things have changed but for the better not the worse I dont wish to take back me having my babys because when you do have a child it is the greatest moment ever.I still hang out with friends and go to the movies and thats because my kids have great grandparents who are willing to watch them all the time when me and my boyfriend just want to go out me and my boyfriend live together in a apartment because he just now turned 21. Everyday I wake up and see that im not just a normal 16yr old girl , im a loving girlfriend, a good student, and the best of all im a full time mother of twins and I love it.
-renee'-

Well, if you "kinda planned this," then you might want to look into resources about how to carry to term and get help with the baby afterwards. Because it sounds like this is a wanted pregnancy, even if you are sacred about what will happen. There are reasources to help you graduate and get going with life, even when pregnant or when caring for a kid. It is not necessarily easy, bet then neither is parenthood when everything is well and ready either. So look into resources. Ask your school counselor, get help from your parents. Which brings us to....

As for telling your parents, there is no easy way. Ask yourself if they are supportive. Yes, parents get upset about all sorts of things, but when it is *really* serious, then you probably have a good idea what they will do. Will they help or would they kick you out for not living up to their expectations. If they are not the type who would kick you out for being "bad," then they likely will support you. Because you are their daughter, and parents generally don't like to see their kids fail. And you will likely need their support if you decide to go on with the pregnancy and raise the child.

Now, if you feel thoroughly trapped and with no friends, family or support, then it would indeed be so tough that it would be almost impossible. Not completely but almost. If you have big plans of graduate school and science careers or such, then this likely could stop you. If you decide on an abortion, be sure that you can accept such a choice and talk with the counselors at your local clinic.

But remember that it is your decision. Pick the decision that will work the best for you, and then go looking for how to make that happen. Sorry that you have to grow up a bit fast here and deal with this at your age, but you can get through it.

Lil-moma, I am glad that things are working out for you. But be careful about advicing others about their lives based on your own life. They are not living your life after all, and you don't really know what is going on for them.

First of all I was just letting her know how it is to be a teen mother and I was letting her know that a baby does not ruin your life. And I dont think I asked for your info
-renee-

Having a child when *you* were a teenager may not have ruined your life, but believe me, it could ruin some peoples. Don't force your opinions on other people. Kthanxbye.

I dont think god gives you anymore then you can handle, tell me how a baby ruins lifes?

Reality check sweetie pie, some people don't believe in god. I'm not saying I don't. I'm just saying, although *you* yourself may see it as one thing, someone else might not. Don't get mad because people don't agree with something you do. It's life, get over it.