I am sorry to hear that.

I can tell you from my experiance the fear never leaves, I lost my baby at 7.5 weeks, 2 months ago I thought I was pregnant again and I could not feel happy because I was so scared that I would loose another and I would have to deal with a pain that I had not yet come to terms with.

If your baby was not developing propperly then it was not your fault, in 99.99999% of cases it is never your fault, and it was probaly a chromozone thing going on.. And the chances of that happening again are slim.
But talk to your dr if you are woried, the minuite you find out you are pregnant again go to your dr, have scans as often as possible.

Best of luck and if you need a sholder to e-mail to give me a holler. When I lost mine I had no one to talk to and it tore me up inside.. I cried for abotu 2 months and became severly depressed.
It does get better, just look forward to the future.

Georgina

Thanks so much for your reply. It has made me feel a lot better knowing that it wasn't my fault. I know that I must talk to someone about how i'm feeling but i'm not sure I can, maybe because i'm confused about how I feel or maybe I just don't know who to turn to.
I wasn't sure by your message if you're pregnant or not at the moment. Are you trying for another baby? How do you feel right now and how long has it been?

I really want to deal with this as quickly as possible so that I don't become depressed or upset during my next pregnancy, but i'm not sure what to do. Any suggestions?
Its only been 3 days for me so I suppose my feelings are still raw.

My partner is supportive and is definately there for me, but he doesn't really know what to say or when to say it. He seems to keep asking me whats wrong and I feel like shouting - what do you think is wrong with me?

Again, thanks for answering my post, you've really helped a lot.

Angel x

Hi, I have been reading these forumsand as nasty as it sounds it helps knowing that there are people in the same boat as myself and in strange ways it is comforting.

I had a still born little babcy boy a few years ago at 38 weeks, it was apparently "fate" as he got a blood clot in the umbilical cord and the oxygen was stopped from getting to him,he was beautiful andi still cry about him sometimes and will never "get over it", then a year later (2002) I had a beautiful healthy baby boy and he is now nearly 3 and fantastic, there were no problems with the pregnancy at all, I was prescribed 1 asprin per day during pregnancy to thin my blood and hopefully prevent clotting (which it clearly did) and for safety measures I was induced at 38 weeks as he was big and ready to enter the world!!

Then last year we were trying for another child and I had a miscarriage at around 6-7 weeks,after a blood spotting, I was completely devestated and thoughtthat seeing as I now had a stillborn baby and a misscarriageunder mybelt I never had a chance at getting my son a brother or sister

i am now nearly 8 weeks pregnant, and I am acomplete wreck,i find mysefgoing to the toilet 100% morethan usual not becausei want a wee but because I want to check for blood spotting, its a nightmare. I went to the doctors today and have my first antenatal appointment tomorrow,i am petrified as I have been experiencing sickness as I have in allmy pregnancysbut today I havehad abosolutely no feelings of nausea or anything and of coursethe worst is going through my mind. Idont want to but cant help thinking that tomorrow at my appointment the midwifewont be able to hear a heartbeat and I am going to have the whole thing happen again same as it did last year, fingers crossed that wont happen, i'll let you know tomorrow!!!! Sorry thiswas a bit of an essay but its good to talk!!!

I had a miscarriage on the 28th of april 05, it is nerve racking falling pregnant again but after whats happened im a firm believer in whats meant to be is meant to be, to all of you if you are meant to have your baby you will, just cause u had a micarriage before doesnt mean you will have one again you have as good a chance as any pregnancy. Most people miscarry without even knowing it and go on to have healthy pregnancies thinking its there 1st time theyve been preggars. Try not to worry.

I hope it works out for u all. Good luck xx

Dear vikki22,
its good to post! And I know what you mean about other people going through the same thing. Its strangely comforting.

It sounds like you've been through an awful lot and what a rollercoaster of emotions you must have felt. I really feel for you.

I just wanted to say that although i'm desperately upset about losing my own baby I do believe that what will be will be (trying to give myself advice at the same time). Your scan is tomorrow so you don't have much longer to wait and worry and i'm sure it will be fine.
Even though it hurts like crazy losing something so dear, it makes us stronger and more understanding to others going through the same thing. Small consolation maybe but a definate one nonetheless.

Good luck tomorrow and please let me know how you get on.

Angel x

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no I am not pregnant now, 2 months ago I was showing all the signs, and came late, had blood work and they said that they can take it further as they had no dea why I was thowing up for a week but I asked not to as what I dont knwo cant hurt me.

Our financial situation has changed so its on hold for a while now.
It makes me sad that we are apparently free people yet every thing we do is goverened by some other factor.

When I lost my first one I was a wreck and my partner was frankly useless. He had no idea what to say or do and I came so close to just throwig in the towel with him because I needed more than a pat on teh back sayign it wil be ok.
Talk to your husband, I am sure hes greiving also, because even if the idea of being a dad scared him he would have started to think about things like what he she would have looked like, who it woudl take after and when you lost him/her he lost all of that too.
But I cant stress enough it was not your fault, I blamed my self because I got sick and ran a fever of 103.4 for 2 days, I only took teh paracetamol becasue I could no longer take it, and I was no aware I was pregnant at this point, when I realised I was late I id a test and it was negative, did another hte next day, negative, did another the next day and it was a faint positive. Then 3 days later I eveidently was no longer pregnant.

Talk about it, misscarriage is something that people shun away but there are feelings that need to be addressed, you need to greive for your baby for your self and when you are ok with it, I laugh abotu it now because thats the only way I knwo how to deal with it, I tell my self mother nature put her foot down and said nope.. One of you is bad enough! And come on here! We are all a ncie bunch! I foudn so much of my support online with people telling me what ia m telling you, it put me at ease a little.

If you and your husband are trying, wait about till you have a normal cycle first, your next one after the miscarriage may be early or late and probaly will not be a normal flow.

Lastly, never thinkyou are alone!

<3

george

Dear angel505,

thanks so much for the reply,

i went to the midwifes at the local clinic today and all she did was fill in loads of notes!! I am booked in for a scan at the hospital on thursday at 8.45, I will let you know how it goes!!

Hope u r well,

take care,
vikki