I have taken viagra, and cialis strongest
dose.
I am 43 years old.
I have no medical condition that I know
of.
However, I can get a strong erection,
however when I enter the vagina, I lose my
erection fast, this happens most of the
time.
I cannot keep it erect to reach orgasm.
If I am alone, I can masturbate with a
strong erection until orgasm.
What should I do, I am desperate.
I know it sounds like anxiety problem.
But I don't want to fork out a fortune on
a sex pherapist.
What should I do, has anyone beat this
problem, and how ?
Thanks
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askara
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 May 2005 Posts: 229 Location: South East England
Posted: 05-25-05 05:05am
Meep.
Well from what I gaher there is a anxiety
issue there, which you have already said,
but by you worrying about it and focusing
on it it will probaly make it worse. On
the times where it has not happened were
you thinking abotu it?
Often an action is the result of a idea
put in your head, if you had not thought
abotu loosing your erection and began to
worry about it, would it have happened, or
by thinking about it did you put the idea
in your head and cause it to happen.
Does the same happen when you receive oral
sex?
I think you need to talk to your parnter
about this. Maybe there are unerlying
fears that you will let her down.
Viagra works in a few ways, physically it
relaxes the prostate gland allowing more
blood flow, mentally is where it holds
most of its powers, men see viagra as the
wonder pill, it turns them in to a super
stud and the confidence they get from this
thought often enough to help them get over
their problem.
I know this may sound werid, but have you
tried anal sex? According to my bf it
feels very diffrent, maybe its the initial
sensation of entering your partners lady
bits that are the problem.
I agree talking can make a world of
diffrence a sex therapist may be an idea..
(just be oprepared for the freudian
ones!! They will bring your mother in to
it no matter what!) or even your doctor,
as it would be considered a mental health
issue, you could go on the grounds of its
makign you unhappy and depressed and
depression is no longer laughed at these
days.
I hope this helps, even just a little
bit.
Best of luck
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guerrero
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 May 2005 Posts: 1
Posted: 05-25-05 16:44pm
Not to steal away advice from tomcat, but
i'd be interested in responses not dealing
with the anxiety effects. I'm 47, in
great health and condition, but recently
began experiencing symptoms quite like
tomcat's. I have yet to try drugs or
supplements like viagra or zupro(?), and I
can rule out anxiety or other
psychological effects with a certain
measure of confidence primarily because my
wife is a dream come true. She's
beautiful internally as well as
externally, she's been a sensitive and
understanding lover for years, we enjoy
total freedom with each other, we're
faithful, monogamous, but definitely not
bored, we're creative when an occasional
problem does occur, and most of all, we're
overwhelmingly in love!
She sees no diminishment in my prowess,
but I feel it and am curious as to if am I
simply fighting an age battle and should
pursue the medical or herbal boost, or is
there something else that could be
considered.
Thanks!
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dane211
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 May 2005 Posts: 124
Alternate Thought Posted: 05-26-05 11:23am
A very close friend of mine had the same
onset at age 40. Now, i'm not saying this
is why it is for you, but he finally
admitted he was bi-curious and wanted to
act on it. He claimed the sex was great
with his wife until he penetrated her and
then all would go soft. After a couple of
months of this he found himself a friend
that he could act out his urges to have
sex with a man, and after a few 'meets'
with him, he had no problem keeping it
hard until completion while in his wife.
Seems it was all in keeping himself
excited by who he was with. Before he
acted on his urges to be with a guy,
that's what pre-occupied his mind
especially during sex. Once he
experienced a man, the curiosity was no
longer a focus.
Like I said, maybe not you, just a reason
that I know of because of my friend.
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Tomcat
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 May 2005 Posts: 3
Thanks Re: Impotence Help Posted: 05-29-05 06:13am
Thanks kindly for the advice, but I wish
there was a way to stop thinking about
it.
Thats the hard part, I wish someone would
come up with something that would take
your mind of it.
