Mean Abortion Doctor - Any Other Experiences? Posted: 05-28-05 22:37pm
Hi everyone.
I am new to this site and I was wondering
if I could hear from other women who've
had abortions and bad experiences, here's
what happened to me:
i felt completely secure in my decision to
have an abortion and although the office
was busy and full, the staff was friendly
and nice. I was confronted by protesters
outside but other than that, my four hour
experience up the abortion was fine. The
doctor showed up the clinic in the middle
of the day, and then the staff was in a
rush to get everyone through. When it
came time to have the abortion, the doctor
came into the room and barely introduced
himself before wrapping my arm and giving
me the morphine shot very roughly. The
morphine didn't kick in right away and I
felt him jab the speculum in me without a
hint of gentleness! He started to numb
my cervix with the needle and I started to
cry and panic, telling the nurse in the
room I could feel what was going on. I
felt the doctor moving around and I
thought if I could still feel what he was
doing, he must be really rough.
The doctor said something like "what kind
of drugs are you on?" and the nurse gave
me another shot of morphine, at which time
my whole memory of everything went blank.
Immediately after the abortion they
needed the room empty, nurses had to put
my pants on for me and they helped me into
a recovery room where they handed me a
glass of water which I spilled all over
myself. I was crying and very confused
about the doctor being so unavailable.
The nurse told me to stop crying, I was
"scaring" the other patients and "you're
not the only one here." I sat in the
recovery chair for about 4 minutes when
they had my boyfriend pull around back and
they promptly put me in the car.
I felt so good about my decision, but the
whole experience was so traumatic. I'm
upset that the doctor and staff acted the
way they did and i'm pretty sure I wasn't
given enough recovery time. I feel like
I wouldn't even be upset about the
procedure but it was like a bad dream and
I really don't think it's supposed to be
like that. Aren't they supposed to make
you feel comfortable and safe??
My question is, what should I do now?
Should I write a letter to the clinic or
the naf complaining about the doctor?
I'm also curious: out of all the abortion
clinics in my area, how come the only
"doctors" are male? Are they just doing
it for the cash, not caring about the
women they're tramatizing? I've always
been pro-choice and a supporter of planned
parenthood but now i'm wondering if
attention needs to be drawn to "mean
abortion doctors". ... Any support would
help. As for my decision, i'm still 100%
secure in it. Thank you for your time.
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mom2trevor
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Dec 2004 Posts: 694 Location: VA
Posted: 05-29-05 08:10am
I've not been in your situation but with
any negative treatment from a dr something
needs to be said or done. I think it
would be a good idea for you to write a
letter to office and let them know about
your experience. If you don't receive an
apology I would go further and contact
someone else.
Hope this helps a little.
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steen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Nov 2004 Posts: 1797 Location: Upper Midwest
Posted: 05-29-05 09:56am
There is a bit of stuff in your post that
almost have to many buzz-words, and you
almost come accross as a prolifer trying
to give abortion clinics a bad name.
But in case I am just hyper-sensitive to
this and your experience really happened,
per your description, multiple medical
ethics were violated and you should indeed
contact the clinic. You should then also
send a copy of the letter to the state
medical association.
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BigBob01
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 May 2005 Posts: 2
Abortion Doctors Posted: 05-29-05 17:55pm
Abortion doctors ahve lots of stress and
go through depression more than any other
doctors...
In the movie "the answer" we can see
this...
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steen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Nov 2004 Posts: 1797 Location: Upper Midwest
Posted: 05-29-05 22:02pm
Bob, a movie is not evidence of anything,
and knowing several ob/gyn physicians who
perform abortions, your claim doesn't seem
to fit. Nor have I seen anything in the
medical literature describing what you
claim.
Now, can we please leave irrelevant
discussion issues to the debate forum and
leave this forum for support of those who
seek it?
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sarahk
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2005 Posts: 108 Location: England
Posted: 05-31-05 03:40am
I must be honest and say that I found the
abortion clinic staff to be quite 'cold'
but they do it every day and where as to
the patient it is a very emotional time,
for the staff they see it every day and is
the 'norm'!
The only bad experience I had was when I
was waiting to go into the operating room
I had a pannic attack. As I was called
into the room a collapsed and asked for a
paper bag to control my breathing.
Instead the doctor and nurses picked me up
off the floor put me in the bed, put a
needle in my arm and I fell asleep. I
wish they had waited for me to calm down
just to ask me if I really wanted to go
through with it. I dont know if it would
have made any difference but I didnt
really want to have an abortion, I just
knew my life wouldnt have been worth
living if I had walked down the stairs to
my mum and boyfriend had I not gone
through with it. Now all I think of is I
wish i'd had the courage to say 'screw
you, i'm keeping my baby'.
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 05-31-05 18:37pm
Hi there! A lot of your surgeon's and
docs that do procedures similar to surgery
are like that. Most of them have the
worst bedside manner, they are focused on
getting in, getting the job done and
getting out, they should all go thru what
we go thru once. F.E. My dr did not
understand my pain until he got injured,
now he does not understand how I can do
what I do with living with my pain.
There are a lot of dr and nurses out there
that have feelings that do not try to show
them. You think they are bad now, you
should have been around 30 years ago, they
would throw you around like a sack of
potatoes, give you a shot like you were a
dart board, especially the military
nurses, they were rough, they did not care
how much pain you were in and they laughed
when you cried.
Sincerely,
sandy
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Amber28
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Feb 2006 Posts: 75 Location: Australia
Posted: 02-19-06 06:31am
Wow thats terrible.
Im in my second year of nursing and I
would never never treat anyone like that,
I know that nurses and doctors can become
quite cold and procedural in their actions
to limit thier emotional ties wth patients
but it really sounds like you went through
a terrible time. I think as health care
professionals we need to remember that we
can be both professional and
supportive/caring at the same time.
Again sorry for your experience please
report it, its not good enough!
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sleepless
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Mar 2006 Posts: 1 Location: London
Posted: 03-03-06 08:20am
Hi, i'm late in adding my thoughts but
i've only just joined. I used to work as
a medical social worker and like sandy
allen said, a lot of hospital doctors are
like that. It doesn't make it excusable
and i'm sorry that you had such a bad
time. I understand medical training now
includes communication skills, which is a
start. Part of my job was dealing with
distraught patients who'd been
insensitively or rudely spoken to by
doctors, some of whom were terrible at
communicating bad news. For many, it was
a self -protective mechanism - they really
did care about the patient and their
illness but were terrible at showing it.
One doctor was a brilliant surgeon who I
would thoroughly have recommended if
someone I loved needed the surgery he
specialized in - but i'd also have advised
them to ignore nearly all of what he said,
unless it applied to wound care!
