IF YOUR SON GOT A GIRL PREGNANT, WOULD YOU TRY TO TAKE THE BABY? (THE COUPLE HAS BEEN TOGETHER FOR TWO YEARS)
YES
0%
[ 0 ]
NO
85%
[ 17 ]
UNDECIDED
15%
[ 3 ]
Total Votes : 20
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lori
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Jul 2003 Posts: 4
I NEED TO HELP MY COUSIN Posted: 07-31-03 11:34am
OKAY .... HERE IS THE STORY THAT I NEED
HELP WITH. MY COUSIN IS 16 AND IS 7 MONTHS
PREGNANT. SHE GOT PREGNANT WHILE STAYING
AT HER BOYFRIENDS HOUSE (HES THE SAME
AGE). HIS MOTHER ENDED KICKING MY COUSIN
OUT OF THE HOUSE.
WELL THATS WHAT I NEED THE ADVICE ON......
SHE BARELY FOUND OUT AROUND 4 MONTHS AGO
THAT SHE WAS PREGNANT..... SHE TOLD HER
BOYFRIEND (THEY HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 2
YEARS) WHEN SHE FOUND OUT, AND HE SEEM
"OK" WITH IT. THEN HIS MOTHER ENDED UP
FINDING OUT, AND IS THREATENING TO TAKE
HER CHILD AWAY. SHE CLAIMS THAT MY COUSIN
IS AN "UNFIT" MOTHER.
I KNOW THAT THAT IS NOT TRUE.... YES IT IS
TRUE MY COUSIN MAY BE YOUNG..... YET SO
ARE MANY OTHER TEEN MOTHERS.... AND THEY
END UP DOING JUST FINE IN THE END. SHE
ALSO HAS A VERY SUPPORTING FAMILY... TO
HELP HER OUT.
MY COUSIN DOESNT DO ANY DRUGS, OR DOESNT
PARTY OR ANYTHING.... IT WAS SIMPLY A
MISTAKE!
WHAT CAN SHE DO NOW TO ENSURE THE SECURITY
OF THE BABY. SHE NEVER ONCE PUSHED HER
BOYFRIEND AWAY.... HE WAS THE ONE THAT
BROKE IT OFF.
DO YOU KNOW OF ANYONE WITH THE SAME OR
SIMILAR SITUATION TO HELP HER OUT....
PLEEEEZZ!! SHE NEEDS ALL THE HELP THAT SHE
CAN GET. FROM LEGAL ADVICE, TO A
SUGGESTION OF HOW THIS CAN ALL BE
RESOLVED. (IF IT HELPS SHE LIVES IN
CALIFORNIA AND THE RULES MAY BE DIFFERENT
THERE)
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Patrick B. Asay
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Jul 2003 Posts: 138 Location: Pocatello, ID
advice Posted: 07-31-03 12:40pm
Yeah, I might have some useful advice.
As to legal terms--don't worry--the laws
to be an "unfit mother" are insanely
flexible. Unless the mother has an
extensive criminal record, and drinks
constantly, and resorts to drug use often,
then the accuser would have a case. She'd
have to be pretty darn evil to be in the
courtroom as an unfit mother. That's more
California than it is Idaho, so I don't
think there's worry over that. But don't
forget that your cousin is still a minor.
This means that her parents have control
over what happens to the baby. How I
know? Let's just say my father is a great
lawyer.
The child support? Yeah, there's a
conflict. Well, if she can't provide an
adequate amount for the child, there are
governmental programs in which that can be
provided. Welfare, for example, is one
way. It's not difficult to qualify for
welfare, but nowadays that term seems
derogatory to some people. I personally
believe it's nothing to be ashamed about.
But also, if she has a supporting family
to help her out, these programs are just
an option if all else fails, and that's
the way to treat it.
Well, I'll certainly keep your cousin in
my prayers. Good luck!!!!!!
Patrick
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marie17
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jul 2003 Posts: 9
Posted: 07-31-03 16:24pm
please at 16 everyone is an unfit mother.
But she still deserves a chance. If I
ever see that woman grrrrrr
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*ScaredAnd15*
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jul 2003 Posts: 3 Location: Michigan
Posted: 08-03-03 23:40pm
I GIVE YOUR COS CREDIT...BEING 16 AND
PREGNET..ALSO HAVING TO DEAL WITH THAT
MEAN MEAN LADY LOL...UR COS IS A STRONG
PERSON AND TELL HER TO KEEP IT UP...I DONT
PERSONALLY KNOW ABOUT THE LAWS OR ANYTHING
LIKE THAT BUT I THINK PERSONALLY THAT HER
BF'S MOM HAS NO RIGHT TO TAKE AWAY THAT
CHILD..SHE MAY BE YOUNG.. BUT SHE IS
WILLING TO TAKE ON THE RESPONSIBILITY!!!
WISH HER MY BEST OF LUCK!!!
