Im 15 and im 8 months preg. Im due in
july, and my baby daddy is more concerned
about what cloths hes wearing. And I feel
like if I avoid him, im depriving him,
like on feeling the baby kick, or doc
appts, not that he reaaly cares. And im
always stressed.. Any advice?
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HollyDawn
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jun 2005 Posts: 4 Location: Canada
Posted: 06-02-05 02:31am
I have found daddies to be more
materialistic with the babies. They want
to buy things, but they don't really want
alot to do with the "dirty work", like
going to the doc. With you. I would
suggest just sitting down and asking him
what parts he wants to take part in. If
he gets offended, just explain that
worrying about it will harm the baby more,
so it is best to be open and talk about
it. Good luck and let me know how it
goes!
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lil_blaze2004
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Posted: 06-02-05 05:59am
Lol-a lot of guys are like that. I'm
almost 26 and my hubby is the same way.
I keep having to tell him "do you realize
I am due in 3 weeks?" i'm freaking out
while he's all happy that the new dave
chapelle is out on dvd.
It's hard when the baby's dad is young
which i'm guessing he is in your
situation, hopefully things will change
once you have the baby.
I think because we are so close to our
baby while it is growing, we realize a lot
more. While we feel every little thing,
to them we have a big moving belly.Lol.
Ususally once the baby's out things get
better as they have something to actually
see and feel themselves.
Good luck and don;t worry, i'm sure all
will be fine.
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XSweetTearsx
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jun 2005 Posts: 6 Location: IL
Posted: 06-02-05 11:35am
Thanks for the advice I appricaite it..
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JuneBugzMamazExpectin
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jun 2005 Posts: 73 Location: Rohnert Park, CA
Posted: 06-03-05 14:38pm
I agree with lil_blaze, sometimes it's
hard for the dad (especially with his
first child) to actually grasp the fact
that you are pregnant.
My son's father and I had our baby young
as well. Him and I broke up shortly after
my son was born (we were too young at the
time to be committed) but we got back
together a few years later...
He told me that he was very scared when I
was pregnant. More so when the child was
born. A lot of men won't want to admit
that, since society tells them that it's
wrong to be afraid.
Don't take it personally. Remember you're
super emotional right now as well. And
when the baby arrives, he'll come around.
You'll see!
