I got pregnant when I was 14 and well my story was kind of different I guess because well I had an abortion. My boyfriend (at the time) wasnt willing to be by my side and be down for me so well today I still remember that day at the clinic and well I dont think that I could ever get over that when I lost my baby I totally feel for you girl and I dont think that you will ever be able to forget about that. Thats like a scar that stays with you forever.

Now im pregnant and well im 16 me and my boyfriend are very happy about the whole situation. But today I found out he went to jail for probation of probation. So thruthfully I dont know what will happen now!!! :-] good luck!

Thank you, good luck with your new baby!

Do you fink that my ex will talk? So is it normal that we cannot get over losin our babies? But we will be able to get on in life, like we have new boyfriends and other children. When you have this child are you going to say that you had abortion?

Thank you so much with your help!!!!




(sorry about all the questions)

Why are you so worried he will talk? Even if he does, it's not like you did something wrong, a miscarriage is in god's hands it's nothing to be ashamed of.

I don't know, I just blame myself for what happened. Yeah your right, thank you

don't blame yourself for a miscarriage unless you were punching yourself in the stomach or something. A lot of women go through miscarriages. I had 2, at 16 and 19. I'm 25 now and expecting my first child in 3 weeks!

Even if he does talk, no one would look down on you. Don;t stress about it.

It is actually more common to miscarriage than to give birth, but most happen within the first couple of weeks. Another wave of miscarriages happen about half-way through, often per hormone irregularities. Neither is something you have control over. You are no more guilty of miscarrying than you are for getting thyroid disease or asthma.

i'm sorry that you have had to go through something so stressful. I agree with everyone...It is not your fault and you can't blame yourself for it.

You need to let it go, sometimes things happen for a reason and we do not always know the reason. You need to forgive yourself and move on and if you need help look up emdr, it has helped a lot of people with situations.
Sincerely,
sandy

What will it effect if he tells his new gf? And why would he anyways?

Thank you everyone for all your help!

Im not sure what it will effect. He may not even tell her.

If he tells anyone after 4 years, and that's a problem to them, he's dating crazy people. Everyone has a past, and you have a right to yours. Everyone in the world has skeletons in their closet.

have you ever experienced the loss of a child through miscarriage? If not, then you cannot possible know what you are talking about. You cannot just "let it go!" that baby was not only a human being, but your child as well, and that is something that you will never and should never allow yourself to forget. I'm not saying you should walk around depressed all the time, but it is impossible to make yourself forget about the death of your own baby.