Stressed. Worried. Dont Know What to Do. Need Serious Advice Posted: 06-02-05 19:25pm
Hi people! Well this is not the first
forum I post up but all the other ones are
solved and all. Well like some of you
might now. Im pregnant. Maybe about 7
weeks. Well my mother knows and says
shell be supportive. My father does not
know yet. My mother-in-law and boyfriend
are crazy about it.
Well today at 7pm I called my boyfriends
house and spoke to his mother. She was
crying and couldnt breathe well. I asked
her what was happening. And if she was
okay. She told me the police were there.
I was like is it about manny (my
boyfriend) she was like yeah. [earlier
around 6pm I had talked to her and she had
told me that his truck wasnt there and
that she thinks he left a long time ago]
manny isnt allowed to drive, he dosent
have his permit or license and plus hes
not even allowed to leave the house. He
was placed under house arrest last friday
for 2 mo. For violation of probation.
Well he took off today. I really didnt
know where he was going or what he was
going out to do. But he never showed up
to my house. But anyways. I called and
the police was there and well she told me
that they took him to jail. Im very very
stressed out more scared than anything I
dont know if I will be able to go through
my pregnancy without him. He will most
likely be in jail until hes 18 or 21. Im
not sure yet but hes only 16 (my age) I
really need someone to post something
positive. Idont know I have gotten so
attached to the baby already I couldnt
give my baby up in anyway.... I hope to
hear from one of you soon thanks
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your_wish
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Continued.... Posted: 06-02-05 19:29pm
Im also scared of what my mom will say
about this. When she finds out my man is
in jail for the 2nd time of my pregnancy.
Shes gonna be very upset and maybe she
will even end up making me do something I
dont want.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 06-03-05 12:09pm
Don't stress!!! It's not good for the
baby. Hun if you are old enough to have
be a mother then you are old enough to
make your own decisions. You're mother
cannot make you do what you do not want to
do. You're going to learn in a hurry
that you'll have to be strong for your
baby. As for your boy, tell him he needs
to grow up and be a man. He's a daddy
now and he needs to put the baby and you
first. Remember that things will work
out, they always do. Be strong!
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JuneBugzMamazExpectin
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Joined: 03 Jun 2005 Posts: 73 Location: Rohnert Park, CA
You Have to Be Ready... Posted: 06-03-05 14:04pm
This is a pretty hard decision. And
everyone's right... Only you can choose
on what you want to do.
But your post was a little unclear...
What are you looking for in advice? If
you want to keep your baby (which it sound
like you do) then get ready for a long
hard journey.
But keep your head up. A lot of girls go
through it alone. (man in jail, or
left..One or the other) as long as you've
got the support of your fam, then you'll
be fine.
I was pregnant at 16 too. I did it on
purpose actually (not the best thing, as I
look back now) and it's going to be hard.
Your life will never be the same. Just
remember that you are not going to be the
same person at 18 when your man gets out,
and neither is he....
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your_wish
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Joined: 15 May 2005 Posts: 17 Location: Dallas
Reply to Vanessalouanne Posted: 06-03-05 14:05pm
vanessalouanne
wrote:
don't stress!!! Be
strong!
thats what probably really helped me on
this reply. First off I want to say
thanks you for replying. And well yes im
stressing I know its not good at all but
it just hurts so bad knowing that my
boyfriend is in jail and not knowing when
he will get out omg it just hurts so
bad!!!!!!!! Thank you thought I will try
my best to be strong
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your_wish
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Re: You Have to Be Ready... Posted: 06-03-05 14:08pm
junebugzmamazexpectin
wrote:
but keep your head up. A lot of girls go
through it alone.
I was pregnant at 16 too. I did it on
purpose actually (not the best thing, as I
look back now) and it's going to be hard.
Your life will never be the same. Just
remember that you are not going to be the
same person at 18 when your man gets out,
and neither is
he....
I know I know girl and
thanks for replying well yeah I know I did
get pregnant on purpose too my man was
going crazy for the baby but I just dont
know what to do anymore its hard girl
really I will try my best to be strong and
to keep my head up and just I wouldve
never thought that my man wanting to have
a baby so bad with me its just hard. So
whatever happened to your baby?? How are
things today did you keep your kid???
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JuneBugzMamazExpectin
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Joined: 03 Jun 2005 Posts: 73 Location: Rohnert Park, CA
Re: You Have to Be Ready... Posted: 06-03-05 14:54pm
your_wish
wrote:
I know I know girl and
thanks for replying well yeah I know I did
get pregnant on purpose too my man was
going crazy for the baby but I just dont
know what to do anymore its hard girl
really I will try my best to be strong and
to keep my head up and just I wouldve
never thought that my man wanting to have
a baby so bad with me its just hard. So
whatever happened to your baby?? How are
things today did you keep your
kid???[/quote]
oh wow.. That's a book and a half! Lolz
short version? Yes I kept my baby. He'll
be 7 in sept. It was the hardest thing
i've ever done. And I know you most
likely wouldn't like to hear, but if I
could chose to go back, I would have never
had a baby at that age. Personally as an
adult, I feel awful for giving my child a
17 year old mother. But that's just me.
A lot of girls get the wrong idea about
being a young mom. They see all of their
teen mom girlfriends with kids and think
that it's easy (maybe a little difficult,
but do-able right?) well the only thing I
can advise is to ask a former teen mom.
Because in the beginning it's much easier,
and the help is there.
Later on, that baby becomes a kid, and
although it's lovely at first, when you
get older it gets much harder.
If that's your choice (to keep) you'll
pull thru ofcourse. And be excited,
becase all in all, you find rays of
sunshine in any of the hard situations ;]
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your_wish
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Re: You Have to Be Ready... Posted: 06-03-05 15:38pm
Yeah girl I totally feel you on that and
everything but see its donee and im
already pregnant and I know through
whatever I can make it and I will have my
family by my side. It just hurt so bad
having to see that my babys daddy is
locked up and he wont be able to enjoy our
baby it just so painful. But whatever
happened to your babys daddy??/
oh yeah about that teen mom thing I have a
relly close friend and well she got
pregnant at my age she says its not easy
at all right now shes 19 she had themost
beautiful baby girl and shes never had a
babys daddy to be by her side :-]
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JuneBugzMamazExpectin
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jun 2005 Posts: 73 Location: Rohnert Park, CA
Posted: 06-03-05 15:58pm
I think you'll be just fine ;] sounds like
you've got the support!
My sons dad and I have been thru a lot. I
left him when we were young because he
wasn't ready to settle down. (stupid gang
drama... Thatz cali for ya though)
i didn't want that life for my child, so I
left him. He and I talked throughout..
But didn't officially get back together
until 3 years later.
Now we have another on the way, and our 8
year anniversary is up this june <3
so you never know mama ;]
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your_wish
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 May 2005 Posts: 17 Location: Dallas
Posted: 06-03-05 16:27pm
junebugzmamazexpectin
wrote:
i think you'll be just fine
;] sounds like you've got the support!
My sons dad and I have been thru a lot.
I left him when we were young because he
wasn't ready to settle down. (stupid
gang drama... Thatz cali for ya
though)
i didn't want that life for my child, so I
left him. He and I talked throughout..
But didn't officially get back together
until 3 years later.
Now we have another on the way, and our 8
year anniversary is up this june <3
so you never know mama
;]
well girl im very exited for you and well
yeah I totally feel you I just hope my man
gets out soon well hopfeullt he will hehe
you should send me a msg with your yahhooo
or aim sn so we can chit chat sometime
