I Am Calm During the Day, But Insane At Night Posted: 06-02-05 22:15pm
I had a rather intense relationship that
ended recently. She had a terrible thing
happen to her a few years before I met
her, and she could not overcome her own
pain from the memory of it so she pushed
me away. In 26 years I have dated and
felt things for women, but I had never
loved another woman so completely as her.
And I find that I cant accept the fact
that it is over. During the day, I seem
to be alright. Well, not really alright,
but far better than I am at night. I
can't sleep, and the pain has manifested
itself into physical pain in my chest so
intense that I vomit when I can't handle
it. Before all of this, I had always
been a clear-headed, logical person. We
still run into one another every day as we
have a common interest that takes us to
the same place, but when I hear her say
something that feels familiar, my heart
shatters when I remember the moment I had
heard it before, and the intense love we
seemed to have for one another back then.
I am trying to give her space and not
bother her, but it is so very hard that my
body shakes and I feel as though I am
internally dying. Has anyone gone
through this before, and how long was it
before the pain subsided? Any advice
would be appreciated.
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sarahk
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2005 Posts: 108 Location: England
Posted: 06-03-05 08:48am
Sorry that you are going through this.
I dont really know what to say to you,
other than I think that if she was in the
same place as you, she would be with you.
When you love someone so much it is hard
to imagine having the same feelings for
someone else. But I can tell you it does
happen. You need to find a way to let her
go. Meet new people and i'm sure you will
find someone who will recipricate your
feelings and someone who you will be just
as in love with.
Be strong and let her go.
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pipi
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Oct 2004 Posts: 1 Location: Singapore
Posted: 06-03-05 12:43pm
Yea. Ive got the same feeling like you
before. Think it is because we love them
deep in our heart. I will feel heart pain
and coldness from heart too when he hurt
me. I take 2 years to retrieve myself
from this. Till now, im still having this
feeling on and off. What I did is, try to
tell myself (sub-conscious) that we are ok
without him or her. I done my best to him
and if he dun want it, I will share my
love to other people who need it more then
him. E.G charity, help those old people
that need our help, love those children
that need more love. I did it everytime
I feel down and know I practice it always.
You will feel more happy when those
people that showered by your love to say
thank you to you.
Keep it up and do not waste your love.
Life is short, lets be happy person!
Cheers.
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jessica gomez
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jun 2005 Posts: 1 Location: London
I Know Exactly What You Are Going Through Posted: 06-23-05 06:23am
I'm so sorry to hear what you are going
through.
I recently had something very similar
happen to me and I didn't sleep for weeks
as it made me so unhappy.
If it makes you feel any better I am
working on a bbc doc about heart break and
have spoken to lots of peopl in the same
situation as you. It does ease with time.
We are actually still looking for people
to take part in our documentary and talk
about their experiences. We are aiming to
help it make people understand why they
feel the way they do and move past it.
If you would be at all interested in this,
please do not hesitate to contact me by
replying to this post or sending me an
email.
Either way, I hope things get a bit better
for you. It really is true that time is a
great healer.
