I decided to post this in the mens forum
because I would really like a man's
opinion. I am 23, and my current
boyfriend is 36. I have only had sex with
5 men, but one was for 7 years. My
boyfriend on the other hand has been
around quite a bit more, and has years of
experience on me. This said, he has no
idea what he's doing! He has no concept
of foreplay, and isn't that great a
kisser. Being that i'm quite a bit
younger than him, I feel foolish telling
him how things need to be done. Is this
crossing a line? Is he too old to learn?
Any thoughts would be appreciated!
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dane211
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 May 2005 Posts: 124
Leading Posted: 06-03-05 12:31pm
Take the lead- he'll love it!!!!
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deathx
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Aug 2004 Posts: 118
Posted: 06-03-05 17:32pm
Yeah take the lead...Be dominant...And
explain to him how its going to be done!
But first, speak to him, be honest, a
relationship should be found on honesty!
After that, make it part of the sexual
act...
Yeah just whip him into shape :)
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no_jod
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jun 2005 Posts: 1
a New Way to Enjoy Sex Posted: 06-20-05 19:16pm
Be direct... Ask him what you need.... A
new way to enjoy sex is using human
feromons during the act... The differents
sensations are incredibles... And you can
purchase from a website... Www.H-vital.Com...
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SteveB
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jun 2005 Posts: 5
Posted: 06-28-05 06:47am
You know I changed dramatically over a
year (i didnt sleep with anyone else) and
my ex thought id slept with someone else
during that break time as I was so
diffrent.
My advice would be to sit him down and
tell him you've been thinking about
changing some things relating to sex - say
you've been watching alot of porn and want
to try spicing things up.
Talk through it with him, things you'd
like and ask him if theres things he'd
like to change too.
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Justin_Toronto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Toronto, ON
Posted: 06-28-05 09:41am
It's a shame that most men learn about
pleasuring a woman from pornography where
foreplay is nonexistant, and performing
oral sex on the girl is minimal, where
touching and licking and kissing is
unheard of. Unfortunately, many guys
kinda rush into things and perform very
sloppy, because well.. That's how they
learned it was done.
You know what you like, you understand
your body, you need to bring him up to
speed. There's nothing here about being
dominant, and there's no need to "sit down
and talk to him" which can be quite
embarassing for him and may very well make
him more self conscious and more sloppy
with his sexual actions.
So what do you do? You lead him, when he
does something right you let him know...
Not by verbally speaking, but with the
moans, the way your body twists, or you
dig your nails into him, the way you tug
at him. When he does something not so
good, don't let any pleasure out. It's a
simple, but effective technique of
communication without speaking. Using
body language, and sounds to direct him,
to lead him. Take his hand and show him
what to do, or even do it yourself.
