Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 6 Location: Los Angeles
Lies & Cheating Consuming My Relationship Posted: 06-03-05 19:14pm
I've never posted something like this, but
I really need some advice and help. I
don't know where to turn.
I've been dating my current bf for about 7
years - I am 25. We met in high school,
wrote letters for like 2 years, and then
starting visiting each other through
college. We went to different schools
and it was long distance. I eventually
moved out to the west coast and he
followed once he got out of graduate
school.
Through the long distance, we had an open
relationship, but neitehr of us did much.
We were committed to being together. I
have more experience than him however.
We have now been living together for the
past 2 years. I love him and think he is
a great match for me. I also think they
could be a long term future for us.
However, a few months ago I was sick with
tonsilitis and didn't seem to be getting
better. My bf chose that time to tell
them that 3 years before he'd had a one
night stand with a girl he'd picked up at
a bar. He felt bad and lied to me about
it. He also convinced me that I was hiv
positive which was why I was sick. I had
to get tested. Through the whole
stressful time, he did not get himself
tested. I had to handle everything
myself. It was like he was paralyzed.
I guess I lost a lot of respect for him.
Since then, I guess i've found myself
being interested in other people
physically. A flirtation with a close
friend turned into us hooking up and
sleeping together. I lied to my bf about
it, but i'm a bad liar and he found out.
Partially, I wasn't sure he deserved the
truth since he'd lied to me. But also,
it wasn't really about my bf. I still
love him and want to be with him.
But now I still want to hook up with the
other guy, and also other people. My bf
says that if I do that, then he has to see
other people too and it will ruin our
relationship.
I fear he is right, but I have these
strong urges now. It almost feels like a
mid-life crisis.
Anyone have any advice? I can't seem to
see the situation clearly!!
I guess I lost a lot of respect for him.
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Justin_Toronto
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Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Toronto, ON
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Posted: 06-27-05 13:06pm
Sounds like your realtionship fell off
track.
You want to see this other guy, then break
things of with your current guy and
explore.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 07-25-05 11:50am
I agree
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cameo
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Aug 2005 Posts: 18 Location: Salem, Oregon USA
Lies Don't Work Posted: 08-30-05 17:01pm
It turns into a vicious cycle.
Its not worth it.
Cameo
