Joined: 04 Jun 2005 Posts: 1 Location: United Kingdom
Please Help Me Posted: 06-04-05 16:12pm
Please somebody help me I just need to
know which way to turn. The guy I am
with is married. He hasn't left his wife
I guess you could say I am just his bit on
the side but I am soooo alone. Please
dont hate me I never meant for any of this
to happen but I just need someone to talk
to. Although I love him dearly we have
our fair share of ups and downs because of
his marriage and I know some would say
well what else do I expect but please is
there anyone else out there in the same
situation? There must be someone
somewhere... Please help.
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mom2trevor
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Dec 2004 Posts: 694 Location: VA
Posted: 06-07-05 00:43am
I'm sorry i've never been in your
situation. Love is never easy. How long
have you all been together? Does his wife
suspect anything is going on? Does he
still love her? Are there children
involved? I'm sorry for all of the
questions I am just trying to get the
whole picture.
If you all have been together for a long
time and he still hasn't left his
wife...Odds are that he isn't going too
and he is going to just keep you on the
side. Please don't let him. You deserve
better. You should not live your life in
the shadow of his wife.
In a relationship you should not feel
alone. I understand that you love him but
sometimes love just isn't enough. If you
haven't already...You should really talk
to him and ask him about future plans and
tell him that you don't want to be the bit
on the side. I don't want to tell you
just to leave because that isn't my
place...But in my opinion I think that you
should leave.
Also another little rule of
thumb...Usually if they will cheat with
you...They will cheat on you.
I hope that you can leave this situation
and move on and find someone that will be
with you and *only* you.
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tarbaby
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jun 2005 Posts: 19
Posted: 06-07-05 09:48am
Actually I am in the same situation you
are in. Only to make things worse the
person i'm involved with doesn't live in
the same place that I do. We met on-line
and have been communicating for over 2
years. I did meet this person some time
back and we got on wonderfully together.
This is really the person that I want.
This person has also made mention of the
fact that they couldn't believe how well
we got along. I know there is nothing
between this person and their spouse.
Yet do to other reasons they remain
together. It has been a rollercoaster
ride. I do love this person very much.
One thing that a friend of mine has said
to me is when and if i'm ready to end it I
will know. I don't judge you in the
least.
I wish you the best of luck with it. If
you want to pm me please feel free.
We could probably support each other!
