Joined: 06 Jun 2005 Posts: 3 Location: Orangeburg,S.C.
Would U Tell Your Bestfriend U Were In Love Wih Them? Posted: 06-07-05 03:08am
I think i'm falling in love with my best
girl friend(i'm a girl too by the way)i
think shes strait although we have kissed
a few times when drunk. Should I tell her
how I feel and risk ruining the
friendship? What would u do?
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KellyR
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Aug 2005 Posts: 90
Posted: 08-27-05 00:57am
Tough choice...No one can tell you what to
do, only you can appreciate if it is worth
taking the chance. Considering the fact
that you have kissed a few times it is
very likely for her to feel the same way.
I would suggest creating a proper
atmosphere and telling her gently, not
pressuring her in any way...Afterwards she
may need a little space, a little time to
think about this....You have to give it to
her....However, make it clear from the
very beginning that there is no pressure,
that you are not really sure of what is
going on as well and that if she chooses
not to give it a try you can still remain
friends and you will behave as if any of
this has happened.
What do you say abut that?
I realize my message came a little too
late considering the date you posted...But
anyway...Maybe you'll read this...If so,
pls let me know who everything went...
Good luck!
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Mullet89
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Aug 2005 Posts: 4 Location: NZ
Posted: 08-27-05 23:31pm
Hey, I know what you goin thru there lg.
Im in love with my best mate who's a guy
(im a guy btw) and I want to tell but I
think he would hate me
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cyn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 87
a Long Romanic Story...the Two I Love...now My One! Posted: 05-17-06 04:28am
For the longest time I have lust over one
of my best friends that I ever had...I
keep all this feelings inside...There was
so much I wanted to say and when I said I
love you I meant it in another way...I
never told her because I valued what we
had and I didnt want to lose that too.
Years went by and I was unable to see
her.Then this last year I happen to see
her! With the same powerful love bond.
We picked up right where we left off! I
could believe it! I thought about telling
her, but I didnt. And I never will now.
Although I still dream of not quite as
much or filled with the desire I once had
for her! Sadly I havent heard from her in
a while...I may never see her agian!
Thats ok now for I have the one I love and
this time he's here to stay. Before I met
her I didnt know how to form deep feelings
for another. That has all changed. I
love my husband to be! I thought I would
always end up with a girl but he beat them
all to it! I can honestly say I wouldnt
want it anyother way. He my love and the
one to complete my heart and soul!
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AvatarOfUrDreams
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 May 2006 Posts: 67 Location: Chicago
Posted: 07-01-06 23:07pm
I am in the same type of situation!
But my best friend is married to a guy so
she is off limits no matter what!
I am close enough to her that she is more
of a sister to me then anyting else and I
have said "i love you" but I always
phrased it to sound like it was a general
"your part of my family" sort of sentiment
then the "i think your really hot and want
you as a girl friend" sort of sentiment.
I am also really good friends with her
husband so I just couldn't do anything to
disrupt either of those friendships.
After a few years I did realize that I was
attracted to women that look a lot like
her... I even quit a job because I
couldn't stop lusting after my manager!
When I thought about it later I realized
that she was almost a carbon copy of my
friend!!
It is complicated but I decided that I
wanted her friendship more then a
relationship.
I am now contented with what I have! Two
really good friends!
