Ive been having unprotected sex for a year
and a half now... And I have never been
pregnent... Im still a teen... And im
worried there is something wrong with
me... I started having lower abdominal
pains in january. And I when to the ghyno
and she said eveything was fine. I really
want to get pregnent... And im pretty
sure I had it @ my ovolation period...
But I dont know what to do im so worried I
wont be able to have a child. I have just
relaxed while having sex. And still I
havent gotten pregnent...
Hey girl, i'm in the same boat. I've been
having unprotected sex for a year and one
month, so I can relate to ya. I have
taken so many hpt in the past year it's
not even funny! And they all have been
negative, except finally june 1st (one
week ago) I got two visiable lines in the
time frame :lol: :lol: but, I didn't
believe it so I took one in the morning
bfn, I have taken about 4 after that one
all bfn....And the thing is, I got the bfp
only 19 days after my last period so I
don't know what that's about. But, since
you think there is something wrong go get
a full check up, it could also be your
partner as well. I think there might be
something wrong with me (or my partner)
too (knock on wood). So when I turn 19
and if we still haven't conceived, then
we're going straight to the doctors! Best
of luck and sorry this was sooo long, I
needed to vent my story too :?
Jada
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3kizz
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Posted: 06-07-05 19:40pm
Forgive me for asking, but why do you want
a child while your in your teens
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lil_blaze2004
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Posted: 06-07-05 21:08pm
Maybe you guys are just lucky as your
young and you'll get preggo when your
older.
I got pregnant twice as a teen (16 &
19) and miscarried twice. Then I had
been having unprotected sex with my
current bf for almost 4 yrs with no
results, I thought for sure something was
worng with one of us. Well now I am due
to give birth in about 2 1/2 weeks!!!
And I am almost 26. It just took a while
to conceive.
3kizz- the same reason a 25 year old wants
a child.
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3kizz
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Posted: 06-08-05 08:25am
There is a big difference between a teen
and a 25 year old that knows the real
consequences of having a child. Also
there is a big difference between a 25
and a 35 year old. A teen girl has her
whole life ahead to be be a mother and a
real adult. Why start so young.
Experience life alittle. There is school.
Career, boyfriends, vacations the list is
endless. Why tie youself down so early.
I think this is a personal decision, that
I and others have already made, so there
is no need to make a debate about it,
thanks. I'm 18, not a 16 year old girl.
I'm an adult and am free to make my own
decisions.
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3kizz
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Posted: 06-08-05 10:06am
Very true, you and everyone can make thier
own decisions about anything. As a 35
year old mother two, i'm just pointing out
the consequences of having a child so
early thats all. Once you make that
decision there is no turning back the
clock. Please don't take offense to a
comment. In realtiy its your decision
and your life not mine. I already made
my bed and it was a good one b/c I waited.
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scottb8855
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Wow Posted: 06-08-05 10:22am
Wow your smart lets have a kid while your
still a kid your body isnt ready til 22
years olds and your life will be over when
you are pregnant cant drink do drugs or
smoke like 99% of teens and most likely u
do one or two of them. But there are a
lot of young people that dont have a clue
what life is. Im not a mother nor a
female but think before acting she is
right about having a kid early listen to
her she has been in the same boat.
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2Boys4Us
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18 And Want a Baby?? Posted: 06-08-05 10:57am
As I am fully aware that 18 is an adult, I
still don't understand why you would want
a baby so young. I was in my mid 20's
when I had my 1st, and am now in my late
20's pregnant w/ my second, and let me
tell you -- there is no harder job on
earth than raising a child. The best job
on earth?? Yes. The best thing that
could ever happen to you?? Yes. But,
please, be logical. Be ready. It is
the rest of your life. There is no more
you time, the focus of every day will
change. You are never the priority
anymore, no matter what. Sick babies up
all night?? Have fun. You'll want to
be out having fun, not getting puked on.
A secure, devoted, willing father figure??
Good luck if he's your age.
If you are ready to give up your life for
someone else, good. Do it. But once
it's done, you can't go back. There are
so many children who end up unwanted in
this world because people don't think it
through. I am simply concerned about
motivation to have a child, when inside
you are still one yourself in so many
ways.
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scottb8855
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Lol Haha Posted: 06-08-05 11:17am
Sorry but 18 isnt a truely an adult humans
made it 18 because too many people health
forum back in the early 1900's so they
lowered it. Look at most 18 year olds
and tell me they are doing adult things
with there life smoking weed getting drunk
and doing stupid caca 21 is more an adult
age. I know im 22 and I have friends that
think there adults cant keep jobs, lie,
run away from problems yeah so dont tell
me an adult is 18 that is bull. Do
reasearch on 18 years olds and older and
you will understand where im coming from.
Did you know your brain isnt full un
25-27 years old and that is far away from
18. 18 year olds dont think things
through I was once 18, 19, 20, 21, 22.
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vanessalouanne
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Who the Hell Gives You All the Right Posted: 06-08-05 11:54am
I agree with you that there are a lot of
18 year olds out there who are not ready
to have children but you cannot speak for
everyone. I am 18, turn 19 next month.
I have been married for 11 months ( by our
own choice) I have my own house and I
make a good living. I am 5'10 and trust
me a strong girl who can carry a child
through a pregnancy. Saying we have no
idea what it takes? I raised my neice,
she threw up on me, was sick, slept in my
bed. I know what it takes. How dare
you all speak of everyone. The only
reason that my husband and I are waiting
is because he is in the marine corps and
is going to iraq in january. I know what
it takes to raise a child. I also know
what it is to have a commitment. So
screw anyone who judges me just by my age.
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3kizz
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Posted: 06-08-05 13:56pm
Who the hell gives you all the right
posted: 06-08-05 11:54am
i agree with you that there are a lot of
18 year olds out there who are not ready
to have children but you cannot speak for
everyone. I am 18, turn 19 next month. I
have been married for 11 months ( by our
own choice) I have my own house and I make
a good living. I am 5'10 and trust me a
strong girl who can carry a child through
a pregnancy. Saying we have no idea what
it takes? I raised my niece, she threw up
on me, was sick, slept in my bed. I know
what it takes. How dare you all speak of
everyone. The only reason that my husband
and I are waiting is because he is in the
marine corps and is going to iraq in
january. I know what it takes to raise a
child. I also know what it is to have a
commitment. So screw anyone who judges me
just by my age.
Back to top
you think having a baby is cute and
popular with all your teen mothers
let me tell you something having a baby.
Its a responsibility. Are you ready to
support a child to the full and that
includes a college education fund. 18
going 19 yeah thats the ticket have a baby
and see what it takes to support it. Age
is an important factor to maturity.
You're married?// even at age 18 thats
young. Honey you have your whole life
ahead of you at least wait to have a child
to bring into this world. Raisin your
niece is great. Lets see to raise a
child 101....
Health insurance
food
formula
money
clothes
a good and stable home
the list goes endless
enjoy life, take a vacation see the world
have a career or even a good job
do it all before positioning yourself to
be a mother at 19-20. After all I say
its ultimately your life do with it what
you want.
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Isabel23
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Uh Posted: 06-08-05 15:37pm
Im nineteen.. And turning 20 in one
month... Im almost not a teen
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Isabel23
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Joined: 27 Mar 2005 Posts: 191
Also Posted: 06-08-05 15:40pm
Also I am engaged... So im turning 20 and
we are pretty well off... My fiance is
going to own a business in a couple of
moths... And I will be able to support
it...
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3kizz
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Posted: 06-08-05 16:29pm
Well then good for you. You are headed
then in the right direction
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2Boys4Us
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Posted: 06-08-05 21:34pm
I didn't mean to offend anyone, nor judge
anyone by age alone. I apologize if it
came out that way. I'm simply saying it
is a huge, huge, huge life-altering
responsibility, so be sure that you are
secure in all facets of your life now.
It will change you, the father, your
relationship with him, your household,
your job, your finances....... There is
nothing that will remain the same. Just
be sure you are completely secure in life
today.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 06-09-05 11:51am
You think having a baby is cute and
popular with all your teen mothers
let me tell you something having a baby.
Its a responsibility. Are you ready to
support a child to the full and that
includes a college education fund. 18
going 19 yeah thats the ticket have a baby
and see what it takes to support it. Age
is an important factor to maturity.
You're married?// even at age 18 thats
young. Honey you have your whole life
ahead of you at least wait to have a child
to bring into this world. Raisin your
niece is great. Lets see to raise a child
101....
Health insurance
food
formula
money
clothes
a good and stable home
the list goes endless
enjoy life, take a vacation see the world
have a career or even a good job
do it all before positioning yourself to
be a mother at 19-20. After all I say its
ultimately your life do with it what you
want.
Did you not read a thing I wrote?? As
for not being able to support my child?
It's a little thing called tri -care.
Being a military wife I and any of my
children get free health insurance and
because my husband is a "lifer" for the
rest of our lives we will always have free
health insurance as well a house.
Because you can't just get fired in the
military and they give you a bah which to
pay for your house if you chose to live
off base which we have. Also I am a
licesned insurance agent. I probably
make more money then you at 18. My whole
life all I have ever wanted was children.
Some people were put on this earth to do
certain things, I believe mine was to be a
mother. I raised my neice. She is 2
years old now and she lived in my home.
My sister gave birth to her and then her
husband got killed in iraq. She was so
distraught that she needed a lot of help.
That baby slept in my bed, I took her to
her doctor's appointments and I have
gotten thrown up on more then a few times
{( once right in my mouth)) I don't think
it's cute to be a teen mom. I don't
think babies are all fun. I have never
wanted to drink or smoke or have sex with
random guys. I am one of thoes rare
people with morals. All I am asking is
that you don't discriminate over my age.
Like I have said I know that 90% maybe
more of young adults are not ready for
children. I know a lot of my friends
couldn't handle it. All I can say is
that I know a lot of 25, 26, and up who
are a hell of a lot worse prepaired to
have kids. I could tell you horror
stories of what some of the parents of the
kids that my mom works with did to them..
You know what they were all older parents
too. All I am saying is that there is no
perfect age to have a child. You should
look at each and every person
individually. ( and I am not saying that
13 year olds should have kids I am saying
if you are finacially sound and can
emotionally and physically support the
child, I don't believe in relying on
welfare for you kids)
just don't judge.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 06-09-05 11:56am
Also 3kiss my kids already have 35,000
dollars for college once again through the
military, how much do you have saved??
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 06-09-05 12:01pm
Damnit one last thing... We're not even
trying to have kids right not it just made
me angry people judging without knowing
every situation that I felt I needed to
defend my right to.
