Hey girl, i'm in the same boat. I've been having unprotected sex for a year and one month, so I can relate to ya. I have taken so many hpt in the past year it's not even funny! And they all have been negative, except finally june 1st (one week ago) I got two visiable lines in the time frame :lol: :lol: but, I didn't believe it so I took one in the morning bfn, I have taken about 4 after that one all bfn....And the thing is, I got the bfp only 19 days after my last period so I don't know what that's about. But, since you think there is something wrong go get a full check up, it could also be your partner as well. I think there might be something wrong with me (or my partner) too (knock on wood). So when I turn 19 and if we still haven't conceived, then we're going straight to the doctors! Best of luck and sorry this was sooo long, I needed to vent my story too :?

Jada

Forgive me for asking, but why do you want a child while your in your teens

Maybe you guys are just lucky as your young and you'll get preggo when your older.

I got pregnant twice as a teen (16 & 19) and miscarried twice. Then I had been having unprotected sex with my current bf for almost 4 yrs with no results, I thought for sure something was worng with one of us. Well now I am due to give birth in about 2 1/2 weeks!!! And I am almost 26. It just took a while to conceive.

Give it time.

3kizz- the same reason a 25 year old wants a child.

There is a big difference between a teen and a 25 year old that knows the real consequences of having a child. Also there is a big difference between a 25 and a 35 year old. A teen girl has her whole life ahead to be be a mother and a real adult. Why start so young. Experience life alittle. There is school. Career, boyfriends, vacations the list is endless. Why tie youself down so early.

I think this is a personal decision, that I and others have already made, so there is no need to make a debate about it, thanks. I'm 18, not a 16 year old girl. I'm an adult and am free to make my own decisions.

Very true, you and everyone can make thier own decisions about anything. As a 35 year old mother two, i'm just pointing out the consequences of having a child so early thats all. Once you make that decision there is no turning back the clock. Please don't take offense to a comment. In realtiy its your decision and your life not mine. I already made my bed and it was a good one b/c I waited.

Wow your smart lets have a kid while your still a kid your body isnt ready til 22 years olds and your life will be over when you are pregnant cant drink do drugs or smoke like 99% of teens and most likely u do one or two of them. But there are a lot of young people that dont have a clue what life is. Im not a mother nor a female but think before acting she is right about having a kid early listen to her she has been in the same boat.

As I am fully aware that 18 is an adult, I still don't understand why you would want a baby so young. I was in my mid 20's when I had my 1st, and am now in my late 20's pregnant w/ my second, and let me tell you -- there is no harder job on earth than raising a child. The best job on earth?? Yes. The best thing that could ever happen to you?? Yes. But, please, be logical. Be ready. It is the rest of your life. There is no more you time, the focus of every day will change. You are never the priority anymore, no matter what. Sick babies up all night?? Have fun. You'll want to be out having fun, not getting puked on. A secure, devoted, willing father figure?? Good luck if he's your age.
If you are ready to give up your life for someone else, good. Do it. But once it's done, you can't go back. There are so many children who end up unwanted in this world because people don't think it through. I am simply concerned about motivation to have a child, when inside you are still one yourself in so many ways.

Sorry but 18 isnt a truely an adult humans made it 18 because too many people health forum back in the early 1900's so they lowered it. Look at most 18 year olds and tell me they are doing adult things with there life smoking weed getting drunk and doing stupid caca 21 is more an adult age. I know im 22 and I have friends that think there adults cant keep jobs, lie, run away from problems yeah so dont tell me an adult is 18 that is bull. Do reasearch on 18 years olds and older and you will understand where im coming from. Did you know your brain isnt full un 25-27 years old and that is far away from 18. 18 year olds dont think things through I was once 18, 19, 20, 21, 22.

I agree with you that there are a lot of 18 year olds out there who are not ready to have children but you cannot speak for everyone. I am 18, turn 19 next month. I have been married for 11 months ( by our own choice) I have my own house and I make a good living. I am 5'10 and trust me a strong girl who can carry a child through a pregnancy. Saying we have no idea what it takes? I raised my neice, she threw up on me, was sick, slept in my bed. I know what it takes. How dare you all speak of everyone. The only reason that my husband and I are waiting is because he is in the marine corps and is going to iraq in january. I know what it takes to raise a child. I also know what it is to have a commitment. So screw anyone who judges me just by my age.

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i agree with you that there are a lot of 18 year olds out there who are not ready to have children but you cannot speak for everyone. I am 18, turn 19 next month. I have been married for 11 months ( by our own choice) I have my own house and I make a good living. I am 5'10 and trust me a strong girl who can carry a child through a pregnancy. Saying we have no idea what it takes? I raised my niece, she threw up on me, was sick, slept in my bed. I know what it takes. How dare you all speak of everyone. The only reason that my husband and I are waiting is because he is in the marine corps and is going to iraq in january. I know what it takes to raise a child. I also know what it is to have a commitment. So screw anyone who judges me just by my age.

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you think having a baby is cute and popular with all your teen mothers
let me tell you something having a baby. Its a responsibility. Are you ready to support a child to the full and that includes a college education fund. 18 going 19 yeah thats the ticket have a baby and see what it takes to support it. Age is an important factor to maturity. You're married?// even at age 18 thats young. Honey you have your whole life ahead of you at least wait to have a child to bring into this world. Raisin your niece is great. Lets see to raise a child 101....

Health insurance
food
formula
money
clothes
a good and stable home
the list goes endless

enjoy life, take a vacation see the world have a career or even a good job
do it all before positioning yourself to be a mother at 19-20. After all I say its ultimately your life do with it what you want.

Im nineteen.. And turning 20 in one month... Im almost not a teen

Also I am engaged... So im turning 20 and we are pretty well off... My fiance is going to own a business in a couple of moths... And I will be able to support it...

Well then good for you. You are headed then in the right direction

I didn't mean to offend anyone, nor judge anyone by age alone. I apologize if it came out that way. I'm simply saying it is a huge, huge, huge life-altering responsibility, so be sure that you are secure in all facets of your life now. It will change you, the father, your relationship with him, your household, your job, your finances....... There is nothing that will remain the same. Just be sure you are completely secure in life today.

You think having a baby is cute and popular with all your teen mothers
let me tell you something having a baby. Its a responsibility. Are you ready to support a child to the full and that includes a college education fund. 18 going 19 yeah thats the ticket have a baby and see what it takes to support it. Age is an important factor to maturity. You're married?// even at age 18 thats young. Honey you have your whole life ahead of you at least wait to have a child to bring into this world. Raisin your niece is great. Lets see to raise a child 101....

Health insurance
food
formula
money
clothes
a good and stable home
the list goes endless

enjoy life, take a vacation see the world have a career or even a good job
do it all before positioning yourself to be a mother at 19-20. After all I say its ultimately your life do with it what you want.



Did you not read a thing I wrote?? As for not being able to support my child? It's a little thing called tri -care. Being a military wife I and any of my children get free health insurance and because my husband is a "lifer" for the rest of our lives we will always have free health insurance as well a house. Because you can't just get fired in the military and they give you a bah which to pay for your house if you chose to live off base which we have. Also I am a licesned insurance agent. I probably make more money then you at 18. My whole life all I have ever wanted was children. Some people were put on this earth to do certain things, I believe mine was to be a mother. I raised my neice. She is 2 years old now and she lived in my home. My sister gave birth to her and then her husband got killed in iraq. She was so distraught that she needed a lot of help. That baby slept in my bed, I took her to her doctor's appointments and I have gotten thrown up on more then a few times {( once right in my mouth)) I don't think it's cute to be a teen mom. I don't think babies are all fun. I have never wanted to drink or smoke or have sex with random guys. I am one of thoes rare people with morals. All I am asking is that you don't discriminate over my age. Like I have said I know that 90% maybe more of young adults are not ready for children. I know a lot of my friends couldn't handle it. All I can say is that I know a lot of 25, 26, and up who are a hell of a lot worse prepaired to have kids. I could tell you horror stories of what some of the parents of the kids that my mom works with did to them.. You know what they were all older parents too. All I am saying is that there is no perfect age to have a child. You should look at each and every person individually. ( and I am not saying that 13 year olds should have kids I am saying if you are finacially sound and can emotionally and physically support the child, I don't believe in relying on welfare for you kids)
just don't judge.

Also 3kiss my kids already have 35,000 dollars for college once again through the military, how much do you have saved??

Damnit one last thing... We're not even trying to have kids right not it just made me angry people judging without knowing every situation that I felt I needed to defend my right to.