Hi... I'll be 17 years old on october
20th, and i'm 5 months pregnant. I'm
scared to death to tell my parents,
because they have already threatened my
boyfriend and I about it... And what
would happen. So now i'm worried about
my baby, since I haven't been to the
doctor this entire time! Should my
boyfriend try to take me to see a doctor
since he is 19, and i'm 16 (or would he be
able to??) ... Or should I just wait
until my parents figure it out?? Please
help... I'm so scared! Thanks.
Krysti
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mommytobe1108
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jun 2005 Posts: 1 Location: Pensacola
Yikes Posted: 06-09-05 16:37pm
I am telling you now that you need to find
some way to get to the doctor. I know
that it can be a scary thing to tell your
parents that you are pregnant. Let me
tell you it was no pic-nic telling mine
and I am 19 and married, but for the
health of your child...You need to see a
doctor and soon. There are a lot of tests
they will want to run and ultrasounds. I
am almost 5 months and I have been to the
doctor every month. I don't know for sure
if your boyfriend can take you to the
doctor or not because he isn't your parent
but I bet if you try calling or going to a
planned parenthood near you they could
help you out. Let us know how it goes!
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seksiHily
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Apr 2005 Posts: 1015 Location: MN
Posted: 06-09-05 17:24pm
Youre being irresponsible and selfish
yes you should go to the doctor.
You shuld tell your parents also.
hi... I'll be 17 years
old on october 20th, and i'm 5 months
pregnant. I'm scared to death to tell
my parents, because they have already
threatened my boyfriend and I about it...
And what would happen. So now i'm
worried about my baby, since I haven't
been to the doctor this entire time!
Should my boyfriend try to take me to see
a doctor since he is 19, and i'm 16 (or
would he be able to??) ... Or should I
just wait until my parents figure it out??
Please help... I'm so scared!
Thanks.
Krysti
i think at your age you can go to the doc
on your own. Up in canada after 14 you
don;t need parental consent. Get to a
doc's soon. I hope you have been taking
your vitamins and stuff at least. By 5
months, you should have aleady had
ultrasounds, and all kinds of tests.
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sxcgirl_me
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 372 Location: Sydney - Australia
Posted: 06-09-05 23:19pm
Well look I dont know bout the us, but in
australia where I live its ok for a 19
year old to be with a 16 year old, I mean
I was 14 going out with a 15 year old,
i honestly think you have to tell your
parents now, they will be more hurt
knowing that you didnt tell them sooner
rather than u being pregnant,
most parents do get over the anger and
come to support you're decision.
And yes im sure you're boyfriend will be
able to go with you to the doctor, theres
no reason why not considering your 16
which should be old enough,
good luck with everything and i'm here for
you
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sftbllchika06
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Dec 2004 Posts: 413 Location: St. Louis
Posted: 06-10-05 20:32pm
All I have to say is doctor now!!!!!!!
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twinklefairy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jun 2005 Posts: 10 Location: England
Posted: 06-11-05 17:01pm
seksihily
wrote:
youre being irresponsible
and selfish
yes you should go to the doctor.
You shuld tell your parents
also.
that's mean! It's easier said then done.
My parents have told me a similar thing
and its not a fun thing to come to terms
with.
hi... I'll be 17 years
old on october 20th, and i'm 5 months
pregnant. I'm scared to death to tell
my parents, because they have already
threatened my boyfriend and I about it...
And what would happen. So now i'm
worried about my baby, since I haven't
been to the doctor this entire time!
Should my boyfriend try to take me to see
a doctor since he is 19, and i'm 16 (or
would he be able to??) ... Or should I
just wait until my parents figure it out??
Please help... I'm so scared!
Thanks.
Krysti
please get yourself to a dr as soon as
possible. Have you taken vitamins?
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justacanadiangirl
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 06-11-05 19:21pm
twinklefairy
wrote:
seksihily
wrote:
youre being irresponsible
and selfish
yes you should go to the doctor.
You shuld tell your parents
also.
that's mean! It's easier said then done.
My parents have told me a similar thing
and its not a fun thing to come to terms
with.
it's not mean, it's the truth. U can't
just neglect ur baby because ur scared.
If ur not gonna tell ur parents, at least
go to the doctor. U can figure out about
the whole parent thing later. Just make
sure the baby is ok!
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lil_blaze2004
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Posted: 06-11-05 20:46pm
justacanadiangirl
wrote:
it's not mean, it's the truth. U can't
just neglect ur baby because ur scared.
If ur not gonna tell ur parents, at least
go to the doctor. U can figure out about
the whole parent thing later. Just make
sure the baby is
ok!
hey baby gurl! Thank god our forum's
done with the darn upgrades!!!
C-ya there!!
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justacanadiangirl
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Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 06-13-05 02:43am
lil_blaze2004
wrote:
justacanadiangirl
wrote:
it's not mean, it's the truth. U can't
just neglect ur baby because ur scared.
If ur not gonna tell ur parents, at least
go to the doctor. U can figure out
about the whole parent thing later.
Just make sure the baby is
ok!
hey baby gurl! Thank god our forum's
done with the darn upgrades!!!
C-ya there!!
lol no kidding! Thank god... :) too much
drama here for my liking
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linuxChique
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Joined: 05 May 2004 Posts: 4535
Posted: 06-14-05 12:53pm
lil_blaze2004
wrote:
hey baby gurl! Thank god
our forum's done with the darn
upgrades!!!
where's that?
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mom2trevor
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Joined: 22 Dec 2004 Posts: 694 Location: VA
Posted: 06-14-05 22:53pm
Woohoo...We're back online :)
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ur_dream_girl07
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jun 2005 Posts: 3 Location: Hartford City, Indiana
Please get yourself to a dr as soon as
possible. Have you taken
vitamins?[/quote]
i'm working on finding a doctor, and if
all else fails then I will tell my parents
so they can help me out and take me.
And, yes, I am taking prenatal vitamins.
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cherriegurl
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Joined: 11 Jul 2004 Posts: 1218 Location: Washington state
Posted: 06-16-05 17:08pm
Look at it this way ur parents are gonna
find out one way or another, are they
gonna be more mad if u tell them now or if
u say in 4 mo. Geez I have a tummy ache
maybe I should go to the doc mom.
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JuneBugzMamazExpectin
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jun 2005 Posts: 73 Location: Rohnert Park, CA
Posted: 06-17-05 15:05pm
Absolutely tell your parents right away!
How are you going to prepare? The baby's
going to be born and you'll need a crib,
car seat, clothes, etc etc
plus, they need time to adjust to the
change too.
Don't worry.. Your parents will love you
no matter what, and if they have time to
prepare for their grandbaby, then it will
be a happy time, not an uncomfertable
one..
And you owe that to your baby as well as
yourself ;]
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cknbb
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Jun 2005 Posts: 35 Location: seattle
Posted: 06-30-05 18:08pm
You must tell your parents. Are you
living with them still? They haven't
noticed your tummy? Decide who it's
easier to tell first whether it be your
mom or your dad. After you tell one
person (and after they stop over-reacting)
they can support you while you tell the
other person. I'm 23 and umarried and
when I told my mother it wasn't a big
deal, and she kinda helped me tell my dad
who i'm not close with. Then I told all
my other relatives and no one looked down
upon me. The times are changing and i've
read reports that say that 1/3 of families
are known as un-traditional familes
(unmarried, seperated, divorced, father
abandoned family, etc.), so your parents
should be understanding enough for you.
You need to see an obgyn pronto. I
started seeing a doc my third week, quit
drinking coffee and started taking multi
vitamins. I hope that since you haven't
seen a doc all this time you've researched
on the net how you should take care of
yourself during pregnancy. Good luck.
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cknbb
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Jun 2005 Posts: 35 Location: seattle
Posted: 06-30-05 18:20pm
Also, don't be discouraged about seeing a
doc and having to tell them that you're
unmarried and 16. The obgyns i've
encountered including their nurses/medical
assistants are the nicest docs i've ever
met in my life. I never go to the doc,
but i'm always excited to go to my monthly
appts.
You've missed a couple of scheduled tests
already so I don't know how that'lll
affect you (you've missed a blood draw at
18 weeks to measure your afp levels, a
couple ultrasounds, and sometime during
your 24-26 week you should be starting
your glucose testing).
If you need financial help, the doc's
office may put you on sliding scale to
reduce how much you have to pay based on
how much you make, there's also a maternal
card of some sort that helps pay for
costs, and welfare. If your parents have
insurence, you may be covered under your
parents plan. I work full-time but i'm
under my mom's plan because it's way
cheaper being in a family plan and they
cover my obgyn costs until the baby is
born. For me, i've already met my
deductible for the year and any additional
doc appt are covered 100%. So there's
another plausible reason why you'd want to
mention it to your parents.
Again, good luck.
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Urbabiidawl07
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jul 2005 Posts: 2 Location: Lake Dallas
Posted: 07-04-05 10:56am
I'm scared to tell my parents too.
Go to planned parenthood.
Write your parents a letter about it
it'll give them time to think about it and
get over the shock of it all
before coming face-to-face with you.
Plus they can't interrupt you
just put it all on paper and leave it
somewhere.
