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miranda
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Was a Raped Or Was It My Fault?
Posted: 06-10-05 16:57pm
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@12 my best friends older brother had a
small crush on me. He was 17-18 and going
into the army. He always told me that he
wanted to do something special for my 13
birthday. I kinda looked up to him and we
made out alot and one time we even kinda
like dated.I liked him. We ended up taken
one of my best friends virginity and it up
set me but I got over it. Then like 2
months after my 13 b-day I was over @ my
friends house and her older sister was in
her room having sex with her boyfriend so
we were stuck in the living room. She
walked outside to smoke and her brother
started kissing all over me. I was into
it then he started talking about sex. He
was like come on you know you want to...
I was like smiling saying "yeah right" I
thought it was a joke beside he had a
girlfriend at this time. Her sister
boyfriend walked out and then her sister
to leave. Her brother then said, follow
me and walked into the room. We got
inside and he started kissing me all over
and taken my pants off. I stopped him and
said what are you doing. He said look I
promise I won't hurt you! And told me
that he would stop if I wanted him to. So
I got on the bed with my shirt still on I
wouldnt take it off!! He started and it
hurt sooo bad! I started to cry and told
him to stop. And he wouldnt! I begged
him to stop! And he just kept saying it
wont hurt for long I promise, just shhh...
Don't say anything. I just laid there
crying holding my shirt down over my chest
so he couldnt see me.I thought it was my
fault for always leading him on.. And
that I deserved it since I always kissed
him and made him think I would go all the
way!! Is it my fault or was I raped!
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MissShortie
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Posted: 06-10-05 23:53pm
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When you tell somebody no, and they still
do it, then its rape I think. Yes you
like the guy, and so there was nothing
wrong with kissing him or what not, but
when you were having sex and said it hurt
and he kept going and going and going, I
consider that rape, and would never want
to be alone with him again and you should
have told someone. That was definatly
wrong, and no its not your fault he did
that to you, because you had the right to
change your mind, and for it to stop, and
he was wrong because he did not, and took
advantage of you. : /
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Pilleus
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Posted: 06-13-05 11:25am
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I totally agree with what missshortie
said.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 06-13-05 11:48am
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If you are having sex and at any time say
to stop then it is considered rape!
There was a court ruling saying something.
Besides the fact that that is satiory
rape as well (rape with a minor) I really
thing that you should do something about
it because it looks like this guys makes a
habit out of having sex with 13 year olds
and thats wrong. When he is in the army
he will be in a position of power and
think he could do this to someone else and
he most likely will. I think that it is
so importaint that you say something. Do
not let him get away with this.. You are
13 years old. He took advantage of you
regardless of the fact that you let him
kiss you. Be strong girl and dont let
him get away with it!
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OWNERER
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Posted: 06-14-05 16:44pm
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Totally not rape. Your fault.
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waxgurlcute6669
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Posted: 06-14-05 16:46pm
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Did he also put his dick in your mouth and
made u breather through your nose will he
promessed he wont stop either?
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SomeGuy333
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Posted: 06-16-05 09:41am
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| ownerer
wrote: | | totally not rape. Your
fault. |
| waxgurlcute666
wrote: | | did he also put his dick in
your mouth and made u breather through
your nose will he promessed he wont stop
either? |
you two are liars and sick pedofillacs.
For a person, I believe 21 and over, to
have sex with a minor is statitory rape,
and even if she gave off signals that she
wanted to have sex doesn't mean she wanted
to, all she must do is say no and if he
continues its rape. You two by posting
that are giving off a vibe that you want
your head cut off but is that happening?
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Whitney4768
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Totally Rape
Posted: 06-21-05 19:33pm
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Hunny it was totally rape if you ever feel
uncomfortable and you tell a person no no
by golly means no and if a guy cant handle
that then his balls need to be cut off who
cares if you came on to him or he came on
to you.... People at 12 or 13 are just
experiencing what dating is or how a first
kiss feels to me it sounds as if the 2 of
you were experiencing and he got carried
away I wouldve kicked him real good to get
him to get off you did the right thing it
is not your fault if you didnt say no then
it was your fault but dont worry you did
the right thing dont let all these people
put you down the law is the law and it was
rape good luck by the way what did your
parents say about and what did the guy say
and do about it???
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breezy2
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Not Funny
Posted: 07-16-05 10:13am
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Why are you people joking about rape?
Most criminals are stupid, don't you know
you can be traced through this anonymous
voice online you think you have? If you
even toy with criminality, you can and
will be turned in to the police, and it's
simple reverse hacking to find exactly
where you're sitting right now as you read
this...If you think rape is funny, you
should go to jail and we all know that
your fellow prisoners will give you a
first hand experience
you are anonymous here to explore health
topics, not to threaten, malign, endanger,
harass, or impersonate (pedophiliacs)
you will be found
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Keehiaangel
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Harsh Reality
Posted: 07-26-05 17:37pm
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I am sorry to say but yes it was rape. I
dont know why some people would even say a
child your age is at fault you kissed him
ok there was nothing wrong with that. He
should have known better I mean come on
17yrs and you are only 12 right? From
experience you should report him and make
him pay for something that he took that
you can never have back. I wish that I
had done the same thing but I didn't know
any better either. I am 20yrs old and I
am still effected by what happened to me.
I am so sorry that this happened to you.
You should have bit it off! Lol.. But
really I am very sorry!!
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BonnieH
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Posted: 07-26-05 18:23pm
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You were rape and it is most definitely
not your fault. I suggest telling
somebody. Something must be done about
it. What he did was definitely not ok.
I'd press charges and then some.
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Keehiaangel
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PinkPassionPrincess
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Posted: 07-27-05 17:45pm
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I have to agree with rape. I know I was
raped when I was younger for being naive
and wanting to feel pretty. I won't admit
it to anyone (friends, bf, family) I never
experienced real love making until my
current bf came along.
Someone that age has power of you at your
age, size, etc. Don't hurt yourself over
it but help others speak up for
themselves.
My friend is 21, broken up with her bf of
5yrs, I still say he raped her last
weekend by demanding sex even after she
said no and then she gave in but she said
with a condom (his just recent dumped ex
cheated on him so who knows) he ended up
pinning her down and having sex without
protection. She feels violated but feels
it wasn't rape because she loved him for
5yrs........When it is not wanted and you
regret or cry (not just from a bit of pain
but emotionally) it was not supposed to
happen and it was not fully mutual.
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Storywriter
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Yeah
Posted: 09-11-05 20:11pm
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yeah you were
raped..Plus you told him to stop but he
didn't.He kept it up.He went harder and
harder.That is rape in my opinion and
should have said something.
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annaf2001
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Location: Oklahoma
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Posted: 10-03-05 12:30pm
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| ownerer
wrote: | | totally not rape. Your
fault. |
you problem. It was not her fault.
She told him no and he was much older and
probably stronger and intimidating!
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jenn_smithson
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Posted: 10-03-05 13:31pm
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Miranda it was not your fault and yes, you
were raped. You did not lead him on, you
did not tease him, you are not at fault
for anything that happened to you. He is
completely and totally at fault. It is
not a crime to have a crush on someone and
kiss them. That is not "leading him on".
However, it is a major crime and a
heinous violation of your person to
physically force you into sexual
intercourse. That crime is rape and he
committed it. It was never your fault
and it will never be your fault.
Right now, I want to encourage you to seek
medical attention and to tell an adult you
can trust. You need to go and see a
doctor. I would also encourage you to
have an adult call the police and for you
to make a report on this. It may help
you in the long run to make the report and
confront him about this. It could be
therapuetic for you. It takes a lot of
courage to survive the ordeal that you
have survived. Please use that courage
to tell someone so that you can get the
help that you need. It was not your
fault, you did nothing wrong. You were
just at the wrong place at the wrong time.
What a lot of people don't understand
about rape is that you, the victim, did
nothing to provoke the attack. The only
thing that made him select you as a victim
was because you have a vagina and you had
no control over that. It was .N.O.T your
fault. Please tell someone so that you
can get the help you need. If you need
anything, pm me.
All my support,
jenn
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mr_whygirls
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You Ware Rape, Partly Your Fault
Posted: 10-03-05 23:18pm
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I'm soory to said that u ware raped, but
partly it still your fault too. Firstly u
shouldn't give a open widows of opputunity
for him.(going to the room or allow him to
kiss you)
i agree with some of the advice from this
forum board. Talk to some one and led you
to the right path and action to be taken
on him,from my point of view, something
must be done to this mother f***er.
Do u know what i'll will do if I ware u ?
. Kill him!!!!
Killing a person is not that hard.Easy!!!
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lovemad
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Dont Listen to suckers
Posted: 10-06-05 16:02pm
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The fact that your questioning if it was
rape.. You felt violated... So yes it
was rape and you need to let someone know
and get help for it....
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russells_babygirl692000
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Re: Was a Raped Or Was It My Fault?
Posted: 10-06-05 16:08pm
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Hey girl the same thing happen to me at 12
and it hurts so bad I 'm still not over it
really ! I told my parents and they made
it to be fault so for many years I sufferd
blaming my self for it ! But thanks to my
husband I now realize it wasn't my fault
and I was raped. My point is it isn't
your fault he took advange of you because
you were young and nieve :arrow:
| miranda
wrote: | | @12 my best friends older
brother had a small crush on me. He was
17-18 and going into the army. He always
told me that he wanted to do something
special for my 13 birthday. I kinda
looked up to him and we made out alot and
one time we even kinda like dated.I liked
him. We ended up taken one of my best
friends virginity and it up set me but I
got over it. Then like 2 months after my
13 b-day I was over @ my friends house and
her older sister was in her room having
sex with her boyfriend so we were stuck in
the living room. She walked outside to
smoke and her brother started kissing all
over me. I was into it then he started
talking about sex. He was like come on
you know you want to... I was like
smiling saying "yeah right" I thought it
was a joke beside he had a girlfriend at
this time. Her sister boyfriend walked
out and then her sister to leave. Her
brother then said, follow me and walked
into the room. We got inside and he
started kissing me all over and taken my
pants off. I stopped him and said what
are you doing. He said look I promise I
won't hurt you! And told me that he
would stop if I wanted him to. So I got
on the bed with my shirt still on I
wouldnt take it off!! He started and it
hurt sooo bad! I started to cry and told
him to stop. And he wouldnt! I begged
him to stop! And he just kept saying it
wont hurt for long I promise, just shhh...
Don't say anything. I just laid there
crying holding my shirt down over my chest
so he couldnt see me.I thought it was my
fault for always leading him on.. And
that I deserved it since I always kissed
him and made him think I would go all the
way!! Is it my fault or was I
raped! |
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jma1
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Mr_whygirl
Posted: 10-28-05 00:09am
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Mr_whygirl you are wrong, does a hooker
deserve to be raped no. Regardless of
what happens no means no even in other
languages. Its almost universal. This
girl did what all girls do kiss the guys
they look up to and then they came along
and take advantage of that puppy love.
Just because you kiss someone doesn't mean
you are asking for rape. She asked for
him to stop, and he said shh dont say
anything. She laid there crying and he
did it harder and harder. Ask yourself
this: if this was your daughter would you
consider it rape? Or did she ask for it?
Miranda, sweetie this isn't your fault.
This boy took advantage of you (of your
feelings, of your purity). He deserves
the worst, in time he will get it too. I
will pray for you, please stay strong and
talk to someone. Even if you dont do
anything about it, talk to a counselor
maybe at school-thats what they are there
for.
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