Joined: 30 Jul 2005 Posts: 78 Location: Philadelphia
Posted: 01-23-06 11:27am
You guys say that no is no. What if two
consenting adults kiss, take clothes off
and start to do it but then the girl says
no, but the guy still inserts it. Is that
rape? She said no right?
I am just trying to demonstrate by example
that miranda was partly responsible for
this act. Things like kissing and
touching generally lead to sex in many
cases.
I think at your age, you should not have
been associating with the type of people
that you were. I mean people that smoke,
are much older, have sex in closed rooms.
What the hell were you doing there
anyway?
I think it reflects bad parenting when
kids that age are allowed to go wherever
they want to go and do whatever they want
to do. It shows that the parents dont
care what they do since they probably are
doing the same.
Sorry if am harsh, but thats the reality
these days.
Oh yes of course I agree that its rape.
But certainly a rape that could have been
avoided....
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Flutter
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 32 Location: Lovejoy, Georgia - USA
Posted: 01-23-06 12:05pm
spanky2005
wrote:
you guys say that no is no.
What if two consenting adults kiss,
take clothes off and start to do it but
then the girl says no, but the guy still
inserts it. Is that rape? She said
no right?
yes, still rape ... There are many
forms of rape ... By a stranger, a
friend, a boyfriend, or even your husband.
Regardless of how it starts, if you
change your mind and say no and they
proceed against your will, then it is
rape.
spanky2005
wrote:
... I am just trying to
demonstrate by example that miranda was
partly responsible for this act.
Things like kissing and touching generally
lead to sex in many
cases.
this may be true but if things happened as
she said they did, all that certainly does
not excuse the way the boy reacted. We
are always in control, there are 'bases'
for a reason ... It is the woman's'
choice how far she wants things to go.
Yes as an adult you should think these
things out and make your partner fully
aware but, you can always change your mind
and stop at any time you feel
uncomfortable.
spanky2005
wrote:
... I think at your age,
you should not have been associating with
the type of people that you were. I
mean people that smoke, are much older,
have sex in closed rooms. What the
hell were you doing there
anyway?
i agree that she should not have put
herself in that situation but she was
young, and we all want to be a part of the
'cool' crowd at that age ... It usually
takes time to realize that is actually
isn't all that 'cool'
but I do agree that you should be careful
the situations you put yourself in and the
people you hang out with ... Especially
when you are young and impressionable.
spanky2005
wrote:
... I think it reflects
bad parenting when kids that age are
allowed to go wherever they want to go and
do whatever they want to do. It shows
that the parents dont care what they do
since they probably are doing the
same.
i agree here to a point, I do think that
parents are partly responsible ... But
I would guess that her parents didn't know
what was going on there and for all we
know, she could have lied and told them
she was somewhere else ... I did that a
couple of times when I was younger.
spanky2005
wrote:
... Oh yes of course I
agree that its rape. But certainly a
rape that could have been
avoided....
i agree, and I am sure she has learned not
to put herself in such a situation again
... But I don't think that is the point
here.
~ flutter
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Loved By You
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jan 2006 Posts: 19 Location: Naples, Fl
I'm So Sorry Posted: 01-24-06 09:09am
And no its not your fault! How could you
have known? By law once you say "no" once
its concidered rape. I'm so sorry your
first time had to be like that. You
should have told some one you trusted and
gotten their opinion. I hope your doing
ok!
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Kiemister
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2005 Posts: 136 Location: ,
Posted: 01-25-06 20:17pm
Just horrible. Im really sorry
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ofee
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jan 2006 Posts: 9 Location: Sudbury
You Were Raped & It Was Definitely Not Your Fault!! Posted: 01-26-06 19:53pm
First of all, what happened to you wasn't
your fault!! He took advantage of you in
every way ...The reality is what he did is
in fact statutory rape! If you feel
comfortable, call a 24 hour crisis line
(there are usually phone numbers of sexual
assault crisis lines in the front part of
the phone book). Trained counsellors
will listen to you, provide support and
most of all, let you know that it wasn't
your fault and that you are not alone.
Maybe after you have a chance to talk to
someone, you might want to consider
getting some sort of counselling -- most
sexual assault centres offer free &
confidential counselling services. They
will also give you information on what
will happen should you choose to press
charges. I would hesitate to encourage
you to press charges as the courts often
re-victimize sexual assault
victims/survivors. Depending on what
kind of relationship you have with your
parents, you might also want to consider
disclosing the rape to them. Whatever
you choose to do, remember that it was not
your fault! Good luck & take care.
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Sammy001
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jun 2005 Posts: 711 Location: ,
Posted: 01-26-06 20:10pm
The little girl who posted this is a liar,
and just looking for some fun. I found
this post by her as well. She says shes
married, and has been for 2 years. Shes
20 years old. The rape thread she was
12?... Come on...
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miranda
new user, becoming ehealthy
joined: 09 jun 2005
posts: 7
location: florida
help in the bedroom
posted: 06-09-05 9:16pm
i am 20 years old and I have no desire to
have sex with my husband of almost 2
years! I use to love sex and oral sex!!
But now i'm lucky to give it to him 2-3
times a month!! We have no kids but we
want them! Its even causing drama in our
everyday life!!! But I just don't want to
do it!!He isn't as big as I would like him
to be!! But it use not matter! We use to
have sex 3-4 times a day!!! And it was
great! But now it sucks! I get to where
we have sex and I think to myself "how
much longer then, I ask him!" I roll my
eyes when its dark and he can't see me! I
love him with all my heart and soul, we
even want to plan on kids soon! I have no
need for sex with him much less anyone
else!What do I need to do! I want to have
a more spicy'er sex life but it just don't
happen!! Please help young love in
distress!!!
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Flutter
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 32 Location: Lovejoy, Georgia - USA
Re: Was a Raped Or Was It My Fault? Posted: 01-26-06 20:17pm
miranda
wrote:
@12 my best friends older
brother had a small crush on me
...
i read her post again and maybe I didn't
understand it at first but after reading
it again, it seems that she is telling a
story that happened to her when she was
twelve. She doesn't mention how old she
is now.
