I found out I was pregnant last january,
and told my boyfriend right away about
it.. He was thrilled and everything and
he started working double shifts a day for
the baby.. When he moved in with me few
months ago, I finally got to know the real
him.. He doesnt even know how to treat a
pregnant girlfriend :!: when I wanted to
eat something he wouldnt get it for me coz
he thinks im making him do things on
purpose..
We always fight physically, he doesnt beat
me up or anything, im the one punching
scratching and kicking him.. Probably
bcoz of the emotions I feel during
pregnancy.. And he'd just squeeze my arms
really really tight till it hurts.. And
he always tells me that, "wait for your
time" I think he meant after pregnancy he
could actually hit me or something.. Plus
we also break things inside the house when
we fight.. (he slammed my laptop on the
floor) :cry: and this always gets my
sister involve as a referee..
Our parents wants us to get married.. But
I don't know.. I also worry bout him
having an affair with somebody.. He
always go home at 4am in the morning..
He's just uncontrolable.. He doesn't
wanna listen.. And just recently he told
me he wants to move out bcoz we are always
fighting and maybe us being separated
could help our relationship.. Is he worth
marrying?? I could make the biggest
decision in life..
Please help,
kaela
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hb30427
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jun 2005 Posts: 36
Posted: 06-13-05 14:32pm
Marriage should be a life decision. If
you have any doubts, you should not do it.
Do you feel like you can talk to him
about it? If you think he is having an
affair, maybe he does not want to get
married either. Im sure your parents
would rather you be happy than get married
just for the baby. It will also put a lot
of stress on the child if you are fighting
all the time. Just consider everything
really well and make sure you discuss
things with him first.
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vanessalouanne
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2005 Posts: 2268 Location: ,
Thanks: 1
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Posted: 06-14-05 14:09pm
Before you marry someone there are some
things you should ask yourself.. Is this
person my best friend? Can I see myself
growing old with this person? Can I see
myself compromising with this person about
importaint matters? Marriage is about
communication and love. If you answer no
to one of these questions then you are not
ready. Dont bring this child into a
unhealthy relationship. Some people are
just not meant for each other. Dont let
anyone push you into a marriage you do not
want because I have seen it done and I
have always seen the same end result.
Divorce. Let him move out, it very well
might improve you relationship. I am a
true believer it whats meant to be will
happen. Maybe the baby will change him.
Maybe not. Ultimatley it is your choice
on weater you marry him or not. Just
remember that you will have to live with
the it and please dont just become another
statistic
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pinkbutterfly20
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jun 2005 Posts: 72 Location: MD
Posted: 06-14-05 14:27pm
Thanks for the replies..
He doesn't want to get marry either. And
I think him moving out is the best
solution. I can't sleep at night
everytime he's not home yet. I worry so
much, that maybe he have someone else.. I
don't want the baby to be affected. He'd
rather move out so I won't know what he's
doing than live with me and stress so much
about it. Thanks guys.. Hope this will
change him..
