Joined: 12 Jun 2005 Posts: 1 Location: Frankfurt, Germany
Father Material Posted: 06-12-05 02:09am
I have been married now for nearly two
years. My husband and I have a great
relationship and are close friends. I run
a theatre school for 60 kids on saturdays,
but having our own family was never really
on our agenda. Although we said "if it
happens, it happens".
Well, it did. And he isn't so relaxed or
cool about it now. I am scared too, but
mainly of what this could potentially do
to our relationship if he really isn't
prepared to be a father. You can't guess
this stuff - how he will be after the
birth, will he see it differently later
etc. He has always been quite intolerant
of small children and isn't particularly
relaxed around them (not sure he was ever
allowed to be one either).
If I abort this child, I won't have
another. I'm 33. I never planned to have
one either. It was always going to be an
accident. The whole thing scares me too
much to make an active decision to get
pregnant. I would be a good mother, but
ending up alone with a child is a horrible
fear.
Any words of wisdom out there?
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tomz
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Dec 2004 Posts: 62 Location: Pennsylvania
Children Are a Blessing And a Gift Posted: 06-12-05 02:38am
Give your husband and yourself a little
more credit.
My wife and I have 21 month baby boy and
he is nothing but a blessing and a joy.
We could never imagine our lives without
him.
Will being parents be easy? No. Being
parents can bring fulfillment to your
lives.
Children will change your focus from being
less selfish and more selfless because you
have a new person who is completely
dependent upon your care.
Please talk with couples with children you
admire and respect before giving up upon
your baby.
Tom z
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rita_b
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jun 2005 Posts: 33
Posted: 06-12-05 04:33am
Well..I'll advice you to go ahead and give
birth to your baby.
I'ts highly likely that the attitude of
your husband will change once he sees the
tiny baby in front. He may not have a
liking for children in general but since
this will be his own blood product, his
behaviour may be different for him.
