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arielm

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Infertility And Abortions
Posted: 06-12-05 18:37pm

This is very sensitive subject and I really appreciate any honest advice and shared experiences.

I am 32 years old and facing the choice of abortion or not. I have had 2 previous abortions (one at 17 and the other at 27). I am humiliated by this, but now have a new boyfriend who is certain that the timing is too premature to carry this child to term...Which I agree with, but at the same time I fear infertility as a result of too many abortions. I cannot find stats on whether or not 3 abortions can affect future fertility.

Does anyone have experiences which they can share? Or thoughts? Thank you thank you thank you.
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Posted: 06-18-05 14:17pm

I feel that I cant get preg b cuz of the abortion I had when I was 14 but I had no problems after the abortion .. Im scared
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Posted: 06-18-05 23:05pm

There just is no data showing that abortions cause any decrease in fertility. If something goes wrong, then yes it is a possibility. But infertility from pregnancy, f.Ex. Is much more likely. Infertility from abortion simply is not really an issue.
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Posted: 09-17-05 17:34pm

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Posted: 09-19-05 11:53am

For someone who does not want to be pregnant, an abortion is the best and most sensible option.

The fact that some women have trouble conceiving is unfortunate, but it has absolutely nothing to do with the decision another woman makes about her own body.

Those people who are obsessed with getting pregnant so that it is the only thing that has any importance to them, should seek counselling, and get a life.
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PreciousBabies

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Posted: 09-19-05 16:11pm

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Posted: 09-19-05 16:18pm

Sorry, dear, I was not posting anything *to* you. You are commenting on someone else's thread on a public forum.

If someone is pregnant and does not want to be, they do not need some poor infertile wretch to try to make them feel bad about it. If you cannot understand why someone would not want to be pregnant, why should they care about your wanting to be? Get over yourself.

Maybe you can think about how much someone who does not want to be pregnant envies someone who is infertile. This isn't about you. So if you think abortions are "cruel" because you can't conceive, try thinking about what it is like being pregnant when that is absolutely the last thing in the world that you want.
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PreciousBabies

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Posted: 09-19-05 16:36pm

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Posted: 09-20-05 09:11am

If anyone has an interest in posting on this thread, it is an open public forum. If someone wants to come in and criticise the op, they should not be surprised to get criticised straight back. Your moral values and delusions are neither here nor there. If you don't want an abortion, don't have one. If you don't want to have three abortions, don't have one. There are plenty of women out there who, however careful they have been, can find themselves pregnant when they don't want to be.

The op had an abortion at 17, another one ten years later, and five years after that again finds herself with an unwanted pregnancy. So someone decides they can weight in and tell this women she is cruel, just because she is unable to conceive. Jealousy -- not very attractive.

For the record, I do not have a lot of growing up to do. Someone is soooooo interested in my viewpoint that they want to look up my profile -- very sad. Since you are so fascinated, I am 42 years old and doing a phd. Or is the idea of being a student beyond the age of 18 so incredible to someone whose only obsession is being a mommy?
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Posted: 09-20-05 11:28am

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Posted: 09-20-05 11:48am

First off, what a ridiculous name I have to say. I have been reading the comments and I totally agree with preciousbabies. Abortion is homicide, even though the body isn't fully developed, it is a life and it has a heart and a soul. God made all of us. It is up to him that decides who lives and dies. No one on this planet has the right to that decision. God didn't make us to destroy each other. The ones that do, severely pay in the end.
Anyone that gets pregnant, it's meant to be. There is a reason for everything. People have to be responsible for their actions. homicide is just an irresponsible way out. If you don't want to get pregnant, use birth control or just don't have sex at all. It's that simple. This is bs about women saying it is their body and it's their choice. When it's not their choice at all.
Clearly you are not a smart cookie. Why are you contradicting yourself? For someone that is 42, you sure don't act like it. I am sure of it that you are lying about your age and if you are 42, then you will never grow up.
If I ever got pregnant and didn't want the baby, I would put the baby up for adoption, but after carrying the baby full term, I know I love the precious innocent life and would never want to give it away.
I just want to know how someone can kill an innocent child??? Epecially their own. Anyone that does that has to be sick in the head!!!
The simple solution is give the baby to someone that can't have kids. Is that so hard?
People like you that have no appreciation for the miracle of life really annoy me!!
There I believe I got it all out. I feel much better now.
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Posted: 09-20-05 11:49am

Ok I am a 20yr old and I am expecting my first child well second if you count my misscarriage at 17. Here is my oppioun on abortion. Ok I strongly feel that it is wrong. I agree there are so many woman out there that would die just to have the chance to be pregnant or even adoupt a baby. My mom was one of them. She had cancer at the age of 20 and had both overays removed which that caused her and my dad not to be able to have kids of there own. For 20 more yrs my mother greved for a child. She would have gave her own left arm just to be abel to get pregnant or adoupt well finally. She meet my grand mother and one thing led to another and I was adoupted. You see my mom was just a child having children I had two twin older sister she had at 16. Then a yr latter she had my brother then she had me. All times she chose to give us up for adoption. You see even though she her self was a child she thought more of us then to kill us. I am truly grateful to her for that.

Then when I became 17 I got raped which followed by a pregnancy. At first I wanted to do the same thing have an abortion but then I realized what did this baby do. So I choise to keep it which I ended up loosing several months later. And I still to this day dont regret not having an abortion.

Yes this is just my oppioun so that is all I am saying. She asked for advice and that was mine dont do it.
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Posted: 09-20-05 11:51am

As I am not sending any pms, I can't think why someone believes they are being posted *to*.

That is someone who resurrected a 3 month-old thread, and decided they needed to moralise about someone who found themselves in an unfortunate situation.

I really do sympathise with those who are suffering infertility. But those who are in this situation should also understand that an unwanted pregnancy is as traumatic as not being able to conceive when you do want to.

The personal attacks on me are truly bizarre. If someone wants to obsess because they got called on being ignorant to the op, that is just a bit immature. Actually, their whole reaction is just that little bit ott and scary, isn't it? A little bit paranoid? Are there other voices talking to you as well?

You are obviously very distressed by your husband's sperm problems. Your jealousy that other people conceive and then want to abort is understandable. But you do need to get a grip.
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PreciousBabies

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Posted: 09-20-05 12:49pm

Angel,

i am so sorry to hear what you have been through and I am glad that it made you a stronger person. You were very brave and I envy you for that...It takes a strong woman to do what you did, even though that baby didn't survive, you still gave it a chance....I agree with you and also mother of 2....Abortion is not the answer when there are so many more options out there....

God bless you all

preciousbabies
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Get On Track
Posted: 10-06-05 23:07pm

Either get in the discussion about whether or not a third abortion has an impact on future fertility... Or not.

This is not a site designed for "soap boxing" your individual opinions as much as it is supposed to be about sharing valid information.

To abort or not abort was not the question.
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Posted: 10-07-05 03:58am

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Re: Get On Track
Posted: 10-07-05 06:53am

preciousbabies wrote:


anyone who aborts doesn't deserve to be given other chances at conceiving another child. So, I wish infertility on them, so they can feel what it really feels like to not be able to have a child ever. Then maybe they will appreciate that child inside them. It was a gift of god. I hope that these people that use abortion as a method of birth control realize one day how special it is to be able to have the opportunity to be able to conceive without having fertility problems because if they did have infertility problems, they would know how all those infertile people out there that can't have children feel every single day of their lives when they want a baby so bad that it just about kills them.


it is very fortunate that some people are unable to have children. They are ignorant, judgmental, irrational and clearly unfit to pass on their inferior dna. They should realise that if they are unable to conceive, it is god's way of telling them that they are not the material he wants reproducing.
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Posted: 10-09-05 03:05am

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Posted: 10-09-05 10:00am

preciousbabies wrote:

you really need to get a life....Besides posting to me on here poopoopoo...And for crying out loud get a real name you loser....You sit there and deny posting to me and then quote me??? Are you some kind of derranged 42 year old. Get a life and talk to people who want your opinion because I am sick of it and I already reported you once. Who is being ignorant, judgmental, irrational????? That would be you and hey fool god doesn't decide that he chooses people who he doesnt want reproducing. You really must be retarted because everything you say never makes any sense. Shut up and get a life. I could care less what you have to say. I am sure with ignorant posts like that, neither do others. Grow up. Obviously you have alot of that to do.


nowhere have I posted *to* anyone in particular. Other posters have chosen (strangely) to address me in particular and call me names. Their problem. I have had a lot of comments about my username, which is a very strange thing for someone to try to focus on. If anyone is interested, I have explained before that this was selected when I signed up on this website because I had just been diagnosed with the early stages of a chronic disease. I knew that I was predisposed to this but it normally shows up when people are in their 20s or early 30s, so I had thought I had escaped. My reaction to the diagnosis was **it**it**it, but poopoopoo seemed like a more polite way of expressing this.

I comment in this thread to ensure that anyone else reading it who may have been in a similar position to the op is not left reeling by the idiocy and judgmental ignorance of others who have chosen to comment. I have made no personal remarks about other posters and their choices in life. If someone is infertile and looking for advice, they don't need some god-spouting religious obsessive holier-than-thou attitudes stuck in their face. If someone chooses to pray, that is their business.
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herbsandcures

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Posted: 10-10-05 09:04am

A simple straight forward question requiring a simple answer. Does abortion one and more than one make it difficult to get pregnant in the future.
There have been a lot of research and lots of statistical data pointing both ways. The uncertainity still remains and with possibilities of side effects of drugs chances do remain of having problems conceiving again later.
Having had an abortion already atleast helps you to know what you will be going through.
God willing if things go well you may not have have any differrence in your fertility.Make sure that the drug or method you adopt to abort . Please do enough research about the same and get first hand opinion about the same. There are many natural herbs taken in decoctions to ensure continous fertility in a lady after miscarriage which can be induced called as abortion or natural .
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