Ok here it goes, im 16 years old and my
girlfriends 15, about a week after her
last period, we wanted to know what it
felt like to put it in just one time...So
using a condom, we did so, only once, then
took it out and stopped no ejaculation or
nothing. I'm very paranoid and decided
to check the condom, and there were no
leaks/cuts, whatever. Anyway's
everything was ok until recently. I've
been with her for 9 months and have took
notice to when shes had her periods.
Shes never really on time, but shes never
really that many days late, normally like
3-6 days late. Anyways, right now its
been 11 days, go figure the one time we
finally decide to try it...Although we
tried to be as safe as possible about
it...Shes 11 days late. She says her
breasts started hurting a few days ago and
that she normally gets that like 5 days
before her peiod comes, and shes insisting
its coming, but i've done research online,
and it said sore breasts is a sign of
pregnancy, along with a late or missed
period. And she has both :cry: . So,
right now i'm scared out of my mind my
hearts pounding, I can't sleep at night,
and it bothers me all day long. I'm
6'4'' 220 got good hands, am pretty fast,
and from what coaches have been telling
me, have a football career ahead of me.
It's the only thing in my life that really
makes me happy, besides my girlfriend of
course. Well I realized that if she is
pregnant, all my dreams are shattered and
my life as I know it is over. I'm
freaking out, I mean signs point to shes
not pregnant, but shes never been this
late since ive known her. She says she
has taken this long before....But not in
like a year or so. Anyways I see all
similar situations online and all people
say is go get a test. This is
unrealistic for me, my mom would kill me,
my dad would kill me, her parents would
kill me, and the town is so small, if I
went to the cornerstore or pharmacy to get
a test, my mom would find out. So please
just don't tell me to get a test, tell me
something that can ease my worries...I'm a
wreck right now and don't plan on having
sex for a long long time....Just please
tell me everythings ok...
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callie8323
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Sep 2004 Posts: 231 Location: nc
Baby Posted: 06-14-05 19:12pm
Your old enough to know better you knew
what could happen now its time to grow up
its what happens when you play with fire.
Im 21 and 6 months pregnant. But if she
is preg there is a reason, no child is a
mistake. Its gods will if she is. If she
is not next time be carefull if you don't
want a baby. Sex=baby
If you feel paranoid about getting a test
since you live in such a small town, tell
your girlfriend to go to the school nurse,
she could probably help her out. But if
she is, you will eventually have to face
your/and her parents and the consequences
of your actions.... But I doubt she is
pregnant from what you said you two did.
But it's still possible, she may just be
stressing and causing a delay in her
period, so both of you try not to
worry...Best of luck, if you have anymore
questions just ask!
Jadee
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joeschmoe22
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jun 2005 Posts: 6
Thank You... Posted: 06-14-05 19:44pm
I know I should have thought about this
before, but I guess I just got caught up
in the moment. I went all out to make
sure everything was safe, so by saying I
should understand the consequences makes
it seem like everybody should only have
sex to have a baby, not to share intimacy
or show affection to the one you love. I
really don't feel like I was wrong with
what I did...And I know the only way to
know for sure is by getting a test, but
telling me you really don't think she is
pregant helps alot. I don't know, I mean
i'm only 16, got a whole life a head of
me, and just am freaking out a little bit
and needed to get this off my chest, so
thanks for the help...
Ok, your response seemed a little
sarcastic, in which I don't appreciate
seeing as I was trying to help you. But I
guess it's expecetd since you're only 16,
but maybe you sincerely ment what you
said, i'm unsure so please verify that for
me. Anyhow, yes having sex is a way to
share intimacy and affection, but only
when you're ready for what could happen in
doing so. You knew what could happen, and
now you're on a forum freaking out about
it, so obviously you are not ready, and
i'm pretty certain she isn't either. So
think twice before you do it again. And I
know you don't want to hear this, but you
know it's the only way...Get her a test.
And I seriously do not think she is,
because for one, you had a condom on, 2
you were in for 5 seconds you say and
there was no ejaculation etc....But it's
still possible, but very unlikely...
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joeschmoe22
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jun 2005 Posts: 6
Yea Posted: 06-14-05 20:12pm
Im sorry if I sounded sarcastic, it was
aimed at the other person who responded,
not at you....You have been very helpful,
I havent talked to anyone about it and I
appreciate it sincerely...I guess now that
I think about it it could have been out of
peer pressure that we did this, but it was
definately out of love as well...I mean
she has been my only kiss, my only
everything...And I really do love
her...However, after this I really do not
plan on having sex or anything close to
that for an extremely long time. Once
again i'm sorry, and I know it may look
stupid from yours or any others point of
view, but I feel like I have no options
right now, and when I was told if you play
with fire your gunna get burned, it just
wasnt what I was looking for in support
and kinda made me regret even asking for
help in the first place... I mean I
couldnt tell my friends because it just
wouldnt be accepted by them and parents
would find out and everyone knows everyone
so yea...I couldn't tell my parents cause
they would freak out...And I couldn't tell
realitives because they would tell my
parents....So I figured i'd try random
people on the internet... In which case
you are making me feel better...So thank
you again...
Ok i'm glad it wasn't aimed towards me.
Yes, the others who responded weren't too
helpful. But that's okay, i'll help you
in any way I can. I know how you must be
feeling right now, scared, confused
etc...But if it's meant to be it will
be....But you really need to get her to
test, I can't stress that enough, that's
really the only way. ..And no I don't
think the situation looks stupid, i'm glad
you are actually trying to do something,
and take care of things instead of
brushing it off...Does she have any
symptoms besides a late period? Sore
breasts, nausea, dizziness, headaches,
urinating more frequently??? If you have
any more questions please ask, I don't
want you to feel regret coming here, there
is always someone....
Jadee
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katie_33
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Apr 2005 Posts: 172
Re: Yea Posted: 06-15-05 02:13am
joeschmoe22
wrote:
im sorry if I sounded
sarcastic, it was aimed at the other
person who responded, not at you....You
have been very helpful, I havent talked to
anyone about it and I appreciate it
sincerely...I guess now that I think about
it it could have been out of peer pressure
that we did this, but it was definately
out of love as well...I mean she has been
my only kiss, my only everything...And I
really do love her...However, after this I
really do not plan on having sex or
anything close to that for an extremely
long time. Once again i'm sorry, and I
know it may look stupid from yours or any
others point of view, but I feel like I
have no options right now, and when I was
told if you play with fire your gunna get
burned, it just wasnt what I was looking
for in support and kinda made me regret
even asking for help in the first place...
I mean I couldnt tell my friends because
it just wouldnt be accepted by them and
parents would find out and everyone knows
everyone so yea...I couldn't tell my
parents cause they would freak out...And I
couldn't tell realitives because they
would tell my parents....So I figured i'd
try random people on the internet... In
which case you are making me feel
better...So thank you
again...
I understand where your
coming from about livingin a small gossip
drama town.. Been there!! By what I have
read I would say that no she is not
pregnant and theres a very slight chance
she is.... If she has abnormal periods
this could just be from that and it could
also be throwing her period off by her
stressing.. I would try not to worry
about it to much.. I know your scared and
have your life ahead of you but if she is
by some chance then that doesnt' mean you
can't still persue with your goals and
dreams... A baby is a wounderful thing..
But honestly I don't think she is,, is
there another town anywhere by. You may
have to go there to get a test or maybe
when everyone is at school go buy a test
so you don't have to worry about any one
seeing you, but if the town you live in is
like mine then you know everyone that
works at the stores.. God i'm so glad to
be out of there hahaha... I wish you all
the luck and I wouldn't worry to much
about it I would say chances are so small
that she could be..
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joeschmoe22
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jun 2005 Posts: 6
Thanx... Posted: 06-15-05 06:35am
Thanks alot, both replies were really
helpful, and I never really though about
going to another town, I guess that's what
i'm gunna have to do. And I looked up
all the symptoms online, she says her
breasts are sore, however shes not
nautious, not dizzy, doesnt have to
urinate alot, or any thing like that...
Jlee, I know you probably meant well. But
seeing as he was pretty scared and
confused and never been in that situation
before, it may have been the way you came
off, that's all.
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lil_blaze2004
Supporter
Joined: 29 Oct 2004 Posts: 6492 Location: ,
Thanks: 1
Thanked:0
Posted: 06-15-05 12:56pm
jlee77
wrote:
thank you.
;o)
go read my contraction post in our
forum!!!!
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joeschmoe22
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jun 2005 Posts: 6
Hah Posted: 06-15-05 13:21pm
Well...I understand that what I need is a
pregnancy test, I knew that from the
begining, I just wasn't really looking for
criticism, more of moral support which I
can't really get right now from anyone
else besides people who ive never met that
are extremely nice by taking time out of
their lives with their problems to listen
to mine...And I thank everyone for their
help...
P.S. I just kinda think its funny that
somone said to act ur age not ur shoe
size, when in reality im 16 yrs old and
wear a size 16 :d
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joeschmoe22
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jun 2005 Posts: 6
Posted: 06-15-05 18:37pm
Thanks a bunch, and I will do that...
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2Boys4Us
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jun 2005 Posts: 19 Location: midwest
Posted: 06-15-05 23:02pm
Sometimes stress alone can upset a woman's
cycle, and if she's as stressed out as you
are, that may be the answer. But
seriously, find someone you trust to get
the test!!!
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sunshinedust1805
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Mar 2005 Posts: 22 Location: Colorado
2 Weeks Late! Posted: 06-15-05 23:24pm
Hey.....Don't be scared! I honestly think
your girlfriend is not pregnant, but if
you aren't ready for the consequences you
shouldn't be "boning"
lol. My friend just lost her virginity
about a month ago.....She was 2 weeks late
and isn't pregnant. It could be just
losing her virginity that has screwed up
her cycle a little....So don't freak just
wait it out or drive to a different town
and buy a first response pregnancy test
they seem to work real good.
