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Q: Help Me Please !!!!!!

asked by: joeschmoe22 on June 14th, 2005

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Ok here it goes, im 16 years old and my girlfriends 15, about a week after her last period, we wanted to know what it felt like to put it in just one time...So using a condom, we did so, only once, then took it out and stopped no ejaculation or nothing. I'm very paranoid and decided to check the condom, and there were no leaks/cuts, whatever. Anyway's everything was ok until recently. I've been with her for 9 months and have took notice to when shes had her periods. Shes never really on time, but shes never really that many days late, normally like 3-6 days late. Anyways, right now its been 11 days, go figure the one time we finally decide to try it...Although we tried to be as safe as possible about it...Shes 11 days late. She says her breasts started hurting a few days ago and that she normally gets that like 5 days before her peiod comes, and shes insisting its coming, but i've done research online, and it said sore breasts is a sign of pregnancy, along with a late or missed period. And she has both :cry: . So, right now i'm scared out of my mind my hearts pounding, I can't sleep at night, and it bothers me all day long. I'm 6'4'' 220 got good hands, am pretty fast, and from what coaches have been telling me, have a football career ahead of me. It's the only thing in my life that really makes me happy, besides my girlfriend of course. Well I realized that if she is pregnant, all my dreams are shattered and my life as I know it is over. I'm freaking out, I mean signs point to shes not pregnant, but shes never been this late since ive known her. She says she has taken this long before....But not in like a year or so. Anyways I see all similar situations online and all people say is go get a test. This is unrealistic for me, my mom would kill me, my dad would kill me, her parents would kill me, and the town is so small, if I went to the cornerstore or pharmacy to get a test, my mom would find out. So please just don't tell me to get a test, tell me something that can ease my worries...I'm a wreck right now and don't plan on having sex for a long long time....Just please tell me everythings ok...

Replies(14)

callie8323

replied on June 14th, 2005

Experienced User

Baby

Your old enough to know better you knew what could happen now its time to grow up its what happens when you play with fire. Im 21 and 6 months pregnant. But if she is preg there is a reason, no child is a mistake. Its gods will if she is. If she is not next time be carefull if you don't want a baby. Sex=baby

WanaBaMom

replied on June 14th, 2005

Experienced User

If you feel paranoid about getting a test since you live in such a small town, tell your girlfriend to go to the school nurse, she could probably help her out. But if she is, you will eventually have to face your/and her parents and the consequences of your actions.... But I doubt she is pregnant from what you said you two did. But it's still possible, she may just be stressing and causing a delay in her period, so both of you try not to worry...Best of luck, if you have anymore questions just ask!

Jadee

joeschmoe22

replied on June 14th, 2005

New User

Thank You...

I know I should have thought about this before, but I guess I just got caught up in the moment. I went all out to make sure everything was safe, so by saying I should understand the consequences makes it seem like everybody should only have sex to have a baby, not to share intimacy or show affection to the one you love. I really don't feel like I was wrong with what I did...And I know the only way to know for sure is by getting a test, but telling me you really don't think she is pregant helps alot. I don't know, I mean i'm only 16, got a whole life a head of me, and just am freaking out a little bit and needed to get this off my chest, so thanks for the help...

WanaBaMom

replied on June 14th, 2005

Experienced User

Ok, your response seemed a little sarcastic, in which I don't appreciate seeing as I was trying to help you. But I guess it's expecetd since you're only 16, but maybe you sincerely ment what you said, i'm unsure so please verify that for me. Anyhow, yes having sex is a way to share intimacy and affection, but only when you're ready for what could happen in doing so. You knew what could happen, and now you're on a forum freaking out about it, so obviously you are not ready, and i'm pretty certain she isn't either. So think twice before you do it again. And I know you don't want to hear this, but you know it's the only way...Get her a test. And I seriously do not think she is, because for one, you had a condom on, 2 you were in for 5 seconds you say and there was no ejaculation etc....But it's still possible, but very unlikely...

joeschmoe22

replied on June 14th, 2005

New User

Yea

Im sorry if I sounded sarcastic, it was aimed at the other person who responded, not at you....You have been very helpful, I havent talked to anyone about it and I appreciate it sincerely...I guess now that I think about it it could have been out of peer pressure that we did this, but it was definately out of love as well...I mean she has been my only kiss, my only everything...And I really do love her...However, after this I really do not plan on having sex or anything close to that for an extremely long time. Once again i'm sorry, and I know it may look stupid from yours or any others point of view, but I feel like I have no options right now, and when I was told if you play with fire your gunna get burned, it just wasnt what I was looking for in support and kinda made me regret even asking for help in the first place... I mean I couldnt tell my friends because it just wouldnt be accepted by them and parents would find out and everyone knows everyone so yea...I couldn't tell my parents cause they would freak out...And I couldn't tell realitives because they would tell my parents....So I figured i'd try random people on the internet... In which case you are making me feel better...So thank you again...

WanaBaMom

replied on June 14th, 2005

Experienced User

Ok i'm glad it wasn't aimed towards me. Yes, the others who responded weren't too helpful. But that's okay, i'll help you in any way I can. I know how you must be feeling right now, scared, confused etc...But if it's meant to be it will be....But you really need to get her to test, I can't stress that enough, that's really the only way. ..And no I don't think the situation looks stupid, i'm glad you are actually trying to do something, and take care of things instead of brushing it off...Does she have any symptoms besides a late period? Sore breasts, nausea, dizziness, headaches, urinating more frequently??? If you have any more questions please ask, I don't want you to feel regret coming here, there is always someone....

Jadee

katie_33

replied on June 15th, 2005

Experienced User

Re: Yea

joeschmoe22 wrote:

im sorry if I sounded sarcastic, it was aimed at the other person who responded, not at you....You have been very helpful, I havent talked to anyone about it and I appreciate it sincerely...I guess now that I think about it it could have been out of peer pressure that we did this, but it was definately out of love as well...I mean she has been my only kiss, my only everything...And I really do love her...However, after this I really do not plan on having sex or anything close to that for an extremely long time. Once again i'm sorry, and I know it may look stupid from yours or any others point of view, but I feel like I have no options right now, and when I was told if you play with fire your gunna get burned, it just wasnt what I was looking for in support and kinda made me regret even asking for help in the first place... I mean I couldnt tell my friends because it just wouldnt be accepted by them and parents would find out and everyone knows everyone so yea...I couldn't tell my parents cause they would freak out...And I couldn't tell realitives because they would tell my parents....So I figured i'd try random people on the internet... In which case you are making me feel better...So thank you again...

I understand where your coming from about livingin a small gossip drama town.. Been there!! By what I have read I would say that no she is not pregnant and theres a very slight chance she is.... If she has abnormal periods this could just be from that and it could also be throwing her period off by her stressing.. I would try not to worry about it to much.. I know your scared and have your life ahead of you but if she is by some chance then that doesnt' mean you can't still persue with your goals and dreams... A baby is a wounderful thing.. But honestly I don't think she is,, is there another town anywhere by. You may have to go there to get a test or maybe when everyone is at school go buy a test so you don't have to worry about any one seeing you, but if the town you live in is like mine then you know everyone that works at the stores.. God i'm so glad to be out of there hahaha... I wish you all the luck and I wouldn't worry to much about it I would say chances are so small that she could be..

joeschmoe22

replied on June 15th, 2005

New User

Thanx...

Thanks alot, both replies were really helpful, and I never really though about going to another town, I guess that's what i'm gunna have to do. And I looked up all the symptoms online, she says her breasts are sore, however shes not nautious, not dizzy, doesnt have to urinate alot, or any thing like that...

WanaBaMom

replied on June 15th, 2005

Experienced User

Jlee, I know you probably meant well. But seeing as he was pretty scared and confused and never been in that situation before, it may have been the way you came off, that's all.

lil_blaze2004

replied on June 15th, 2005

Moderator

jlee77 wrote:

thank you. ;o)

go read my contraction post in our forum!!!!

joeschmoe22

replied on June 15th, 2005

New User

Hah

Well...I understand that what I need is a pregnancy test, I knew that from the begining, I just wasn't really looking for criticism, more of moral support which I can't really get right now from anyone else besides people who ive never met that are extremely nice by taking time out of their lives with their problems to listen to mine...And I thank everyone for their help...

P.S. I just kinda think its funny that somone said to act ur age not ur shoe size, when in reality im 16 yrs old and wear a size 16 :d

joeschmoe22

replied on June 15th, 2005

New User

Thanks a bunch, and I will do that...

2Boys4Us

replied on June 15th, 2005

New User

Sometimes stress alone can upset a woman's cycle, and if she's as stressed out as you are, that may be the answer. But seriously, find someone you trust to get the test!!!

sunshinedust1805

replied on June 15th, 2005

New User

2 Weeks Late!

Hey.....Don't be scared! I honestly think your girlfriend is not pregnant, but if you aren't ready for the consequences you shouldn't be "boning"
lol. My friend just lost her virginity about a month ago.....She was 2 weeks late and isn't pregnant. It could be just losing her virginity that has screwed up her cycle a little....So don't freak just wait it out or drive to a different town and buy a first response pregnancy test they seem to work real good.

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