He Doesn't Last Long...... Posted: 06-16-05 00:43am
For the last three months my boyfriend has
only been able to last a good 3
minutes.....He used to last forever! He
says it goes fast cuz he loves me so much,
but what do you think boys? We recently
got climax control condoms and the work
great, but I still want to know why he
can't last without the climax control
condoms. Thanks
angel
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dane211
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 May 2005 Posts: 124
Lasting Posted: 06-16-05 09:34am
It's part mental, part physical. The
physical aspects is that it feels 'soooooo
gooooood!' that he can't hold out. The
mental aspect is that you turn him on! He
needs to learn to not 'mentally picture'
what he doing while he's doing it. He
might try to think of something that isn't
pretty. You might be able to get him to
last longer by jacking him off first if he
can go twice. The 2nd time should last
longer. If not, jack him off but don't
allow him to ejaculate. That should help
de-sensitize his penis so that he can last
longer.
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kamran5461
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jun 2005 Posts: 3 Location: usa
Posted: 06-17-05 15:12pm
The funny thing about climax is that when
u r really tryin hard to reach climax, u
can't. And when u r not tryin to get
premature ejaculation, u come too quickly.
Its all psychoclogical.
The best thing to do is to do what porn
stars do. Think of something totally
unsexual while having intercourse. That
delays the climax.
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bobba
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jun 2005 Posts: 4 Location: West Coast US
Posted: 06-17-05 19:30pm
What position are you and the boyfriend
typically in when he is climaxing?
Personally, I can go like the energizer
bunny in missionary or the doggie style,
or even woman-on-top facing forward, but
will not last much more than 2 or three
minutes in the lotus position or reverse
cowgirl.
Change it up...Find a position that
doesn't afford him as much feeling, and
allow yourself to get close to orgasm
before changing to something more
stimulating to him.
Also, the suggestions of helping him
masturbate will help, but don't let it
become a habit...Try other stuff first.
If you feel he is close (and by that, I
mean you can feel the penis swelling
considerably)...Stop! Change
positions...Slowly. For most guys, once
we're excited and about to cum, if you
move into a new position which makes us
withdraw and penetrate a few seconds
later, the majority of the stimulation is
done...Like starting with a clean slate.
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sunshinedust1805
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Mar 2005 Posts: 22 Location: Colorado
Thanks Posted: 06-18-05 19:09pm
We have tried the masterbating thing and
that doesn't help cause he goes fast on
the second time to. We do so many
positions it's hard to keep track. He
cums in whatever postion we're in. We've
tried pills too.....Don't work....The
climax control condoms are working pretty
good he just says it burns and sometimes
it goes so numb that he goes limp, but
that's only if we go at it twice a day.
It is a mental problem cause he always
tells me I turn him on so much he can't
hold it. I'll tell him to think unsexual
next time.....Thanks everyone.....More
advice is good too! Yeah!