I am madly in love with my boyfriend. He
is the most amazing man that I have ever
met and I want to spend the rest of my
life with him. He is the first person
that I have truly loved and I would do
anything for him, all I want is for him to
be happy. He loves me like I love him,
its crazy love. We get along so well and
have so much to share with each other. .
. However he has recently been becoming
really upset about my past. Before he
asked me to be his girlfriend I told him
everything about my life before, this
includes that I have been intimate with 6
men in 4 years. He has only been with one
girl before me. He tells me that because
I was so "careless" and didn't have
"self-respect" that he doesnt know if he
can respect my past decisions because it
makes him think badly of me and that he
doesn't feel special physically. I know
that I have had sex for the wrong reason
in the past, but I don't get why he cant
understand that I have changed, I want
nothing but him and that will never
change. No one is perfect, everyone has a
past! What can I do to make him
understand?
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winky2
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Jun 2005 Posts: 33
Pshaw Posted: 06-30-05 14:19pm
Tell him this...
"i did what I knew then, and now I know
better..."
"i have asked forgiveness from god and he
forgives me as long as I acknowledge my
wrongdoings, apologize to those whom I
have hurt, and promise to implement
change"
if he hasn't the capacity to forgive that
foregoing, which is all a human being can
possibly offer, he should be ashamed of
himself. Do not tie yourself to a
flogging pole to be forever punished for
the past. He who is without sins can
cast the first stone, and it is not going
to be him! You're establishing a dynamic
here which will forever be in play if you
do not draw a firm line about it and
change it now...He will always have this
shame and blame aspect with which to
manipulate you. He will never respect
you until you stand up for yourself. One
day he will be calling you names which you
will feel you deserve, until you can
forgive yourself, ask for god's
forgiveness and then your boyfriends...His
ability or lack thereof is telling as to
his character. If he can't show some
depth, then dump him now, as he will only
make your life miserable over time.
