Hello everyone. I have a question for
any of you who may be able to help. I am
in a very serious relationship with a
wonderful man who absolutely adores my two
children (ages 6 and 5). The problem is
now that the kids are aware of how indepth
the relationship is they are bucking. I
mean they love him and have a great time
with him but intentionally do things to
test their limits with him and tell him
things that really hurt him. I know that
this is a phase and that all they are
doing is testing their boundaries but he
is really worried about it. It hurts him
deeply when they don't seem to care. Do
any of you have any advice I can give him?
I am at my whits end with all of this
and don't know what else I can say or
do.
Bopsie
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BluestMomma0822
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Sep 2005 Posts: 4 Location: Louisiana
Posted: 09-06-05 20:55pm
I am kinda curious myself too. I have 3
and a 1 year old. They are about to have
a new step dad too...With number 3 coming
soon.
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john662005
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2005 Posts: 3
Posted: 01-02-06 13:27pm
Is the kids dad around?
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~baby~g~
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 221 Location: Ohio
Posted: 01-23-06 13:53pm
Well, it all really depends on the
situation & how close they are to
their real father, if he's around. I grew
up with a step-father for 14 years of my
life. My real father was away in the army
& had another family in oklahoma. I
loved my step dad like he was my real
father, now him & my mother are going
through a divorce. He is still my father,
I love him like my own & he loves me
as a daughter. Step parents just need to
realize that younger kids will try to push
their limits just because they know that
isn't their real daddy. Trust me, I did
the same thing when I was a little girl.
I argued with him soo much, but now we're
closer then ever. Just tell him that the
kids will to that, they may grow out of it
someday, maybe they won't. It all takes
time! Good luck!
