I Can't Get My Gf to Come to Orgasim! Help!! Posted: 06-30-05 12:31pm
She is 17 and just got back from a week
vacation with her parents in fl. We had
sex sunday 2 times the first time I got
off and she didn't cause we didn't have
time, the second time we did it forever
till we were both so tired we couldn't
move and she still didn't get an oragasim.
So we startedto get dressed and she cried
really really hard. I felt really bad
like my dick wasn't good enough for her or
something. I've never had problem geting
her off before. Then wednesday night we
tried again but we didn't have alot of
time. I got off but then the little man
was out of shape so I lost the boner. She
cried a gain really hard. So my question
is: is there something wrong with me or
her or what is is? It's really scaring
her? Please help! Thanks.
Buy the way i'm 18
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C06151972
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 May 2005 Posts: 8
Posted: 07-01-05 09:58am
There is nothing wrong with you, don't do
that to yourself. Some people need to be
really comfortable with the idea of having
sex in order to relax enough for an
orgasm. This can be hard for a woman in
the beginning, even if she loves him.
Hormones have a lot to do with it too. I
have a hard time orgasming with my bf a
few days before my period. I went on
birth control but it changed my hormones
and I could not orgasm, ever. So we quit
and I am getting a diaphragm now
instead.
My point is, it is probably not you. It
could be an emotional or physical thing.
Just let her know it is o.K and maybe ask
he if she wants to see a doctor and
discuss the issue. Let her know you want
to make her happy. Good luck...
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chaosbob
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Joined: 21 Jun 2005 Posts: 148 Location: LA
Posted: 07-07-05 15:57pm
Lick her vagina...Give her some good oral
sex...Suck on her clitty
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Zabrina
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Joined: 07 Jul 2005 Posts: 67
Posted: 07-08-05 09:43am
If you had no problems getting her off
before, maybe she cheated on you and feels
guilty. That could keep her from haveing
an orgasm.
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Hypochondriac1028
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Joined: 10 Mar 2005 Posts: 312 Location: Ohio
Posted: 07-23-05 15:17pm
You have to push it inside of her real
deep.... My gf gets off every time..My
penis is 7 1/2 and I always cum in her.
Try fingering her ass while your really
ehr she will get off twice as fast. Just
make sure she knows u own her while its
happening
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nicolem
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Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 46 Location: Minnesota
Re: I Can't Get My Gf to Come to Orgasim! Help!! Posted: 07-23-05 20:07pm
One thing I don't get is why she is crying
just because she can't have an orgasm,
that doesn't help the situation and only
makes you feel worse. Less crudely put,
you could definately try oral sex on her,
get her to relax and try to keep the
pressure off both of you. She prob thinks
she is disappointing you and you vice
versa, so you get nowhere. Talk to her,
suggest some new things and don't get so
wound up if it doesn't happen. Pressure
is prob the number one thing that causes
people to not orgasm. Relax and have fun,
both of you. Sex shouldn't be about
pressure, but pleasing and enjoying
eachother. Hope that helps and good luck!
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AMM
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 13
Posted: 07-24-05 14:37pm
This probably isn't a big deal...By crying
she is making it worse. She's only 17,
and most girls that young don't orgasm all
the time. Some women never orgasm till
they are in the 30s because when they are
young sex is too stressful or whatever.
I'm 22 and when I have sex with my
boyfriend I don't orgasm all the
time...Heck, 50% of the time is pretty
good. It doesn't mean I don't enjoy
having sex with him!
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Tylanas
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Posted: 07-26-05 14:50pm
hypochondriac1028
wrote:
you have to push it inside
of her real deep.... My gf gets off
every time..My penis is 7 1/2 and I
always cum in her. Try fingering her ass
while your !@#^in ehr she will get off
twice as fast. Just make sure she knows
u own her while its
happening
*ahem*
you have a good point, despite your crude
language. What your girlfriend is getting
off on is probably the same thing I (a
female) get off on: the tip of the penis
brushing against the cervix. Most women
find this incredibly painful, or so i've
heard. But there are a select few who
actually like the stimulation. That's
probably also why most women don't like
pap smears ;)
to the other people, oral sex is definatly
a good idea. Do a 69 even; she may gain
pleasure from knowing she's making you
happy at the same time!
You should try different positions, and
even try adjusting your "roles", as suble
as they may be. Let her be in control of
what's happening; let her make the choices
and set the pace. She might be a little
more dominant, and it's being suppressed
by you taking on the role, focing her to
be the submissive when that's not really
what she wants. I'm a submissive so i'll
do almost anthing my bf suggests (kinky!)
but your gf may like ot be in the
coice-making position. Try it out!
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barbiegirl430
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jan 2008 Posts: 1
Posted: 01-16-08 18:25pm
really calm her down before you start on
her. Use calm music candles, just lay
there touching each other then begin.
Start out slow and get harder and deeper.
Also get her to try to give herself an
orgasm and tell her to pretend your not
there and get her to keep practicing!!
