What Should I Do About My Bf?? Posted: 07-01-05 00:24am
I've been dating dan almost a year now and
I love him so much. He told me he had
paranoid schizophrenia at the beginning of
our relationship, however he was coping
really well. Up until recently things
were great. A few months ago he started
to get really jealous and not trusting me.
I'd go out and he'd think i'd be getting
hit on and dressing up in order to get
that attention. He gets angry with me and
thinks i'm going to cheat on him. Then
we'll talk and he'll calm down and he says
he believes I wouldn't do anything like
that. He's now in the hospital (mental
health unit) after an overdose of his
meds.. He almost killed himself..
However he took a cab to the hospital..
So it almost seemed like a cry for help.
I'm scared for him and for us because I
dont know if this will ever change. He
makes me so happy when we're doing well
though and I dont want to give him up.
Does anyone have any advice or suggestions
on how I can help this relationship and
help him?
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confused00
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jul 2005 Posts: 6
? Posted: 07-04-05 00:06am
No responses? Please, anyone, tell me
what you think. I could really use some
advice from people who aren't close to
me...
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confused00
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Joined: 01 Jul 2005 Posts: 6
? Posted: 07-04-05 00:22am
I'm also only 20.. He tells me I should
go have sex with someone else in not so
nice words, he's ripped our pictures up,
literally beat himself up, accusations,
everyones following him, testing him,
getting info from me....
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down123
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 May 2005 Posts: 80
Posted: 07-04-05 17:59pm
Aww sorry hun...I really dont know what to
say....Its just going to be a hard
relationship for sure if you decide to
stick with him. Does he have any other
forms of support like his own relatives?
I know it hurts when you care about
someone so much...Keep us posted on your
relationship....Is he still in the
hospital?....Someone will reply to you
sooner or later so keep checking and keep
us posted :)
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confused00
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jul 2005 Posts: 6
Posted: 07-04-05 20:26pm
Yes he's still in the hospital. He also
has a wonderful family. However everyone
is depending on me.. Saying that I need
to be prepared and he really needs me to
be supportive and ready to depend on
because i'll have to deal with this a lot.
I just find that he's been drinking a lot
which causes the meds not to work.. He
started drinking after a few months of
being sober and now he's back in the
hospital. I'm so worried about him,
however i'm worried about me too.. I just
see him with no ambition to keep himself
well anymore.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 07-06-05 16:00pm
I would say not to stay with him because
you feel depended on by his family. By
staying with him you are asking for a
really rough life but if you really love
him then do it. You need to set him
straight first though and make sure he
wants to make himself better for you and
the first thing to do it stop the
drinking. Not only is it dangerous to
you, it is also very dangerous to himself
mentally and physically. I can respect
people who know they have a problem and
strive to fix it, but thoes who are on a
self destructive path are sometimes
unreachable.
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confused00
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jul 2005 Posts: 6
... Posted: 07-11-05 13:18pm
Unfortunately, dan broke it off again and
this time I just let it happen. He
wouldn't accept me for who I was but
wanted me to be who he wanted me to be.
He would never trust me and he admitted
that. So we came to a decision to go our
seperate ways. It didn't seem like I was
good for him, nor for me. It hurts like
no tomorrow, however I pray he finds
someone who he will eventually trust and
love unconditionally. I thank the people
for their reply's. Life has its
struggles, we can all pull through them no
matter what. I will always love him...
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karaca77
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Joined: 11 Jul 2005 Posts: 5 Location: Harrison
Posted: 07-11-05 16:01pm
Hi there confused,
please listen to me very carefully, never
go to a doctor , i'll tell you why, I had
those symptoms from the second year of my
high school education and it was only two
months ago thank to my roommate I was able
to see everything clearly...You dont have
any disorder or deficiency or any
physcological problem , it is the spirits
that are trying to communicate with
you...With all you see, all you hear and
all spoken , thruogh a code they are
trying to get your attention...
-please dont discard this, if you are
around nyc I can take you to hindu temple,
take you to catholic church take to the
mosque or meet with a few people in my
office to enlighten you- chek these web
pages:
what you are experiencing is called
spontaneous divination, probably evil
spirits are trying to lead you somewhere,
mess up your life, or sometimes good
spiritis trying to help you and in the end
ask for something...
-it sounds ridicilous at first, I was
atheist myself, but I had admit after so
many people confitrmed this...---
i am trying to help , it is your choice to
listen to me or not, I never listened
before and now I have to admit it, I got
the truth now ... If you are interested
to listen more
