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lil666ane
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Joined: 23 Sep 2003
Posts: 27
Location: layton utah
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My Boyfriend Cheated On Me! ::cry::
Posted: 11-17-03 12:22pm
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 omg you guys. I
know I havent written on here in a while
so heres the scoop. I o to a school for
teenage moms now. Everyone is reall
helpful and so nice. But that s the only
good thing. I found out that my fiance`
cheated on me saturday night. Ive been
crying all weekend... He said it was an
accident because he was drunk. Okay heres
the story he gave me::
he was at his freind jareds bday party
(i didnt go because I was sick and I didnt
want to hang out with a bunch of drunk
people since im prego) and there were
these four girls that wouldnt leave him
alone all night. Towards the end one of
the girls sat on his lap apperantly long
enough for him to joke around for a while
and then she kissed him. I blame myself
for not going to the party. He told them
all that he was engaged and all the dumb
sluts said just not to tell me. They
even offered to go in the back room with
him. (caps) all four of them! I dont
know what to do. He said it wasnt his
fault so it wasnt cheating but I cant stop
crying. Im having his baby in 5 months.
I just dont know what to do. Can anyone
out there help a poor pregnant cheated on
gurl like me? What should I say to him?
S.O.S. Going out across the internet.
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nikki_caro
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Joined: 22 Aug 2003
Posts: 4922
Location: Right here at work!
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Posted: 11-17-03 12:33pm
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Girl leave him! Being drunk is no
excuse!!! He should have had the balls to
say no! He cheated and you dont need the
stress! Poor thing! Its the same thing
melissa is going through! Its like a dead
beat virus going around! I hope jose
doesnt catch it! But really, you should
think whether its worth taking him back.
It could happen again. He will be walking
on egg shells for a long time and you cant
trust him being out anywhere right? So is
it worth leaving him and grieveing for a
while, or having to stress on trusting him
and then grieving when he gets mad because
you dont trust him. It could happen
again, it might not. But ive been cheated
on alot, and let me tell you. Once a
cheater always a cheater. Think about it.
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Mesmerizeu15
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Joined: 11 Aug 2003
Posts: 2729
Location: Pittsburgh,PA
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Posted: 11-17-03 12:44pm
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I hate to admit it but nikki is telling us
the truth, but I know that you are
probably going to say ohh but he will
change, and that is what I keep telling
myself. Last night I went to the movies
with my boyfriend and my best girl and
they were like flirting, I dont trust him
because he did me wrong so many times. I
broke out in hives last night because I
was so upset. I cant go anywhere without
watching him when a pretty girl walks
past, and it is hurting our relationship.
Chance are you arent gonna be strong
enough to leave him, I wasnt and I have a
child, and I am not strong enough. But I
think that one of these days out of the
blue I am going to find my strength and I
really gonna mean it when I say it is
over. I will say that yes I say it is
over and then I take him back, so it will
be hard to actually stick to it, but I
would rather be happy. Right now I am
trying to trust him more but it is so
hard. I think that I would be strong
enough to help you though, would you be
strong enough to help me? Hope to hear
from you soon!!
Stacie
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kitty_55
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Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Posts: 1473
Location: Canada
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Omg Sweetie
Posted: 11-17-03 13:46pm
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Dump his sorry ass! Sorry but my bf
cheated on me and I dumped him he isnt
worth my love or anything.Like nikki said
once a cheater always a cheater...
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Mesmerizeu15
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Joined: 11 Aug 2003
Posts: 2729
Location: Pittsburgh,PA
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Posted: 11-17-03 13:51pm
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Who were you talking to?? Which one of
us, two stories on here!
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shortee913
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Joined: 18 Sep 2003
Posts: 141
Location: michigan
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Obviously...
Posted: 11-17-03 14:28pm
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If he remembers all the details he wasn't
that drunk, thats just an excuse! What
kind of man is he if he cheats on his
preggy fiance? Who says he won't do it
again. Girl leave his behind not just for
you but for that baby! Once a cheater
always a cheater... You are better than
that! Good luck hun and keep us posted!
God bless...
Much love,
sami
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gabrielle
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Joined: 12 Nov 2003
Posts: 20
Location: ohio
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Posted: 11-17-03 14:42pm
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Lil666ane hang in there girl and don't be
stressed. U need to focus on u right now
and your baby! I agree with nikki though!
Once a cheater always a cheater! If you
need your man right now cause your
pregnant then stay with him but I will
promise you that some time after u have
your baby u won't put up with him if he
can't stay faithful! U will find strength
to move on with your life! And to
mesmerizeu15(stacie) some day you'll find
your strength within you and move on with
your life. If your constantly worried
about your man cheating on you you'll get
tired of it! There's only so much us
women can take! I've been cheated on and
I know how it is! I just got to the point
where my heart just couldn't take getting
hurt anymore. It was like my boyfriend
had shattered my heart so much that there
just wasn't a heart left for him to hurt
anymore. I wish you two girls the best
and hope no matter if you decide to stay
with your guys or not that you'll be
happy! Good luck and much love!
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barons_girl_504
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Sep 2003
Posts: 105
Location: New Orleans
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I Have to Agree...
Posted: 11-17-03 14:42pm
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I have to agree with the person who said
that if he was sooo drunk he wouldnt be
able to give you detail by detail of what
happened. I have never been cheated on
and if I were to be I wouldn't give him
the time to explain.I dont want to sound
rude or mean in any way; but its not only
wondering if he will do it again, it's
knowing that some other girl "had" the
love of your life. The father of your
child. I wouldn't be able to have sex
with them ever again because I would think
that he was thinking about the other girl.
Call me crazy, or just mad jealous, but I
would drop hiim like a dirty tampon!  sorry to be so
graphic...I cannot help myself when it
comes to things like this. I have seen
one of my friends get played left and
right and saw how much it hurt her, I dont
want you to hurt like that!! Like nikki
said, I would rather drop him and grieve
than stress over the constant worry of
cheating again!!
Love always,
sarah!
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youngmomtobe
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Oct 2003
Posts: 728
Location: Illinois
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Posted: 11-17-03 16:41pm
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Girl u need to leave him you can take care
of this baby w/o him that baby dont need
any of that negativity and wrong doing
around it! My man he goes out drinking
and caca and get drunk but at least he
tells the girls to medical question off he
gots a girl ive seen him do it too! Girl
u need a man not a lil boy who plays
these lil games! Girl u and this baby are
better off! And we are all here to help
ya in any way! Much love and god bless u
nad your baby!!!
Jen
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Suzy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2003
Posts: 530
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Posted: 11-17-03 17:22pm
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Omg lil666ane, i'm sorry but he is a
complete a**hole. The girls here are so
right. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Barons girl hit the nail on the head with
what she said, he was too drunk to know
what he was doing, yet he wasn't too drunk
to tell you exactly what happened. I have
been drunk before to, and i'm sure you may
have been once or twice, while you were
drunk did you forget you had a partner ??
No, of course you didn't. That's like
saying, you were so drunk you forgot who
you were. He took advantage of the fact
that you weren't there, and thought you
weren't going to find out. Don't you dare
blame yourself for not being there, it is
so not your fault. He has no right to
drag your feelings through the dirt, he
has just proven to you he is not that
special guy you previously thought he was.
It takes a special guy not to cheat, and
he is another one of those typical
cheaters. Girl there are hundreds of
them, you can find a cheater anywhere.
Dump him and find yourself a man, not a
hormone driven little boy. Good luck...
Suzy
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smith8500
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Joined: 17 Sep 2003
Posts: 6623
Location: Louisiana
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Wellq
Posted: 11-17-03 21:03pm
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Sweetie,
i am really sorry.
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kitty_55
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Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Posts: 1473
Location: Canada
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Sorry I Was Talking About Lil66ane
Posted: 11-17-03 22:20pm
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But stacie how long have you and your bf
been toghther?Has he ever cheated on u??
I know it hurts alot when you see your bf
flirting with someone else besides you.I
think you should flirt with a guy in front
of him and make him feel how much it hurts
too see it with his own two eyes..If you
are very seoius about leaving him than you
should.If you are not happy leave. You
are the only person in this world to make
that choice..Pm me if you want to talk..
Alison
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Mommy_2_b
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Joined: 01 Oct 2003
Posts: 811
Location: Brookfield, N.S.
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Posted: 11-18-03 06:49am
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Sweetie you need to leave him. I know it
doesnt sound like a good idea since you
are pregnant but you do. If he cheated on
you once it will happen again. And just
because he was at a party and drunk is no
excuse he should have known better. Best
of luck melissa
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casey rachelle
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2003
Posts: 56
Location: Erie, MI
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Aww...
Posted: 11-18-03 14:13pm
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I'm sorry hun. But they are right, if he
remembers enough of what was going on then
he was sane enough to know what he was
doing was wrong. I do know how you feel,
I just went through the same thing not too
long ago. Just take some time to yourself
and think about whats going on.
Good luck and keep us updated.
_-=casey rachelle=-_
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Mesmerizeu15
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Joined: 11 Aug 2003
Posts: 2729
Location: Pittsburgh,PA
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Posted: 11-18-03 15:39pm
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Alison, we have been together for 4 years
almost 5 and he has cheated on me about 6
times, and I have cheated on him about 3
times... Idont know though..Last night he
bought me a rose, but I know you cant buy
love, I am hoping things are gonna change
and that everything will get better I ove
him all of my heart and I want my
beautiful son to have a father..Something
I never had..Hope all is getting
better...
Stacie
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insurancegirl
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Joined: 25 Sep 2003
Posts: 5286
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Posted: 11-18-03 16:31pm
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Last edited by insurancegirl on 09-29-04 09:47am; edited 1 time in total
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michi21
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Joined: 17 Nov 2003
Posts: 7
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Posted: 11-18-03 21:23pm
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Girl, u know that your the only one who
can make a decision if u want to be with
him or not, you need to analyze and ask
your self if the relationship is really
worth it, and if hes really sorry. I had
a boyfriend cheat on me before too, and I
really loved him, so I gave him a nother
chance and he hasn't done it since, it all
depends in how u feel and if hes worth it,
also remember u got a baby on the way, and
the baby is gonna need a father, but if u
decide to dump him then u can take care of
the baby by yourself. I hope it works out
for u, and I hope I gave u good advice,
good luck!
Michi21
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Volleyball Pryncez
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Joined: 18 Nov 2003
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Location: Valley of the Sun
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Posted: 11-18-03 22:39pm
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Girls, if a guy cheats on you once he will
do it again! There is no two ways around
that! I can't tell you when or where, but
they will cheat on you again! Its just
like abusers, they hit you once, they will
hit you again! Why? Because you let them
get away with hit! If they cheat or raise
a hand kick their asses to the curb with
the trash! No man is 'good enough' to
hold on to after either of those!
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Lildreamer
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Sep 2003
Posts: 144
Location: CALI
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I Dont Know About That!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 11-18-03 22:57pm
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Once a cheater, always a cheater! I dont
totally agree w/that! Im not defending
him, but maybe he wont do it again! Its
not always- "once a cheater always a
cheater. But even though I say that..It
can be true.I say half and half. But in
your case it is messed up since your
preggy and engaged. Thats just plain
messed up sh*t!!!!!! I would say leave
him in the dust, but I myself am not
strong enough to walk away from a
relationship that is falling apart.
Mesmerizeu ..I understand completely! Its
just that we are so use to our guys...They
know every wound, every weakness, our
embarrassing moments, personal secrets,
all our bad habits. Im just afraid of
someone in the world knowing everything
about me and that im not with them. I
pray for my strength too. God help me get
my mind straight....! Hopefully it woudnt
be to late and you'll end up getting
divorced with 4 kids and sharing
custody...Endeing a marriage of 10
years..U know what I mean! Life's a trip!
Love really is blind!
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