It really sux being pregnant and being 17
;( im not joking. Im used to going out on
weekends and drinking and partying and in
the summer going camping and getting drunk
and having fun. Tonight I left early cuz
its so boring and everyone was drinking
and my bf is working ;( makes me think
about having an abortion, told my best
friend that and she was like sasha shut
up! Its just so hard. The other weekend
me and her and my bf went camping and they
both drank and had fun and I just sat
there, then I cried cuz this sux:( I dont
want to have an abortion though, its cruel
and wrong, but its just so hard and im
already 14 weeks (in 2 days I will be)
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sxcgirl_me
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 372 Location: Sydney - Australia
Posted: 07-01-05 22:33pm
Rae im sorry to tell you but I think you
have gotten yourself in too deep here.
You might find abortion wrong but by the
sounds of it, it would have been the best
thing for you to do.
I used to be in a situation like yours,
except I was 18 and the baby ended up
dying, most likely because my body knew it
wasn't ready and I still wasnt prepared to
give up drinking and partying.
Now im almost 20 this month and pregnant
and going strong and im 100% happier than
last time because im happy with who I am,
who i'm with and what I do and I dont need
to party anymore, (although if I do go to
a party or something big I give myself a
drinking limit of 2 drinks a night)
i really think you need to think about
this.
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Sammy001
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jun 2005 Posts: 710 Location: ,
Posted: 07-01-05 22:40pm
Are you crazy?..I don't mean to sound like
a health forum but..Do not have a abortion
because you miss getting drunk...That is
the most lamest stupidest excuse I have
ever heard.... You laid down and got
pregnant so take the responsiblity. I am
pro choice and believe that for the right
reasons..Yeah...But because you miss
drinking??......Grow up girl...
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sxcgirl_me
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 372 Location: Sydney - Australia
Posted: 07-01-05 22:48pm
Thats a bit harsh. Yeah maybe its a
stupid reason 5to get an abortion but come
on, its healthier than her going out and
getting trashed every night and putting
both her and the baby at risk. Think
about it
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rae_06
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2004 Posts: 219 Location: Iowa
Posted: 07-01-05 22:58pm
You dont sound like a health forum..I know
I sound stupid and need punched or
something. I know I laid down and go
pregnant and I need to take the
responsibility but its hard when I get out
with people and everyone is drinking and
having fun and im just sitting there.
I lost a best friend after she found out I
was pregnant, she thought drinking was
more important.She hadnt really been a
good friend very long tho, just for about
7 months...So I said screw you and I still
have my best friend, amanda, who has been
my best friend since I moved here to iowa
in 7th grade. Going out to lakes and
going swimming, I miss that too- I miss a
lot of stuff I did when I wasnt
pregnant... I always worry im just not
going to be a good mom and I wont be able
to give it everything it wants and I
always worry me and my bf will break up
cuz hes a truck driver and I dont want a
guy thats gonna be gone all the time, but
he quit that and his semi is sold
now....But he wants to go back when he
can....He just has to have back surgery
cuz his back really hurts him and the
chiropractors cant do ne thing for him ne
more. I wanna go to school after high
school to either be a cna or a cop and I
want to be there for the kid and I think
that I wont be able to be there all the
time and hudson(my bf) wont be there
either. Im just having a hard time and
I just get upset. Hudson just gets mad
at me wheni talk to him about stuff, like
when he starts truck driving and what we
are going to do with our kid. My mom
wanted me to have an abortion so bad when
she found out I was pregnant, but I just
couldnt..And hudson told me I better not
because he really wants the kid, but then
again he is 21...Its just hard being 17
and pregnant. I never go drinking or ne
thing, I just stay at home and watch
movies and have amanda come over.
Hudson and me are together every day. I
drank the first week I was probably
pregnant, but I didnt know it, I just was
really tired and I kept telling hudson
something was wrong and I stopped
drinking. Im just scared about
everything.. ;( beleive me, id never do
ne thing to hurt the baby....I mean-i
always worry about whats ok to eat and
whats not and what I can drink and what I
can and what I can do and I cant do.. I
just hate when I pretty much get left out
on everything.
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sxcgirl_me
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 372 Location: Sydney - Australia
Posted: 07-01-05 23:26pm
Look love, its really easy to worry, trust
me I worry all the time too.
And being scared is also normal I get
scared of not being a good mum too even
though I know I will be.
As long as you have love and support for
your child, then I think you will be
fine.
Is there someone you can talk to like your
mum?
She may be a bit dissapointed but remember
she will always love you no matter what!
I sometimes feel exactly the way you do
too, but I always make sure I dont get
left out of anything, although I do wish I
could go rollerblading and ice skating
like I used to be able to.
You know like I said, if me and my
boyfriend go out with friends and stuff I
give myself a limit of 2 vodka cruisers a
fortnight,
the key is moderation ok?
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lil mama3
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 May 2005 Posts: 68 Location: houston
Posted: 07-01-05 23:40pm
Look I dont think ur stupid I know how u
feel I had my first baby when I was 15 so
yeah I understand u. The only think I can
tell u is that dont have an abortion
because it's not the baby's fault he or
she is allready here and ur a mom now, and
that so call bestfriend that thought that
drinking was more important than being
their for u was never ur bestfriend.
N-e-way u should get away from that
enviorment and that people.Try going to
some parenting classes meet other moms
like u become friends with them hang out
with them u know stuff like even in the
clinic u go to iam pretty sure their is
other pregnant grils their u can talk to.
Trust me their will plentty of time to
party and get drunk after u have ur baby
ur not gonna miss out on anything their
will always be other people and party's to
go, their not gonna finish trust me. Iam
really proud of that even though u wore in
a party with other people drinking u are
responsable enough not to drink thats what
being a mom is all about. And when is
time for ur baby to get here and u look
into his or her eyes ur gonna realize that
everything u put to the side for him or
her was worth it. :wink: good luck baby
gril and dont worry but ur baby first
their will be time for everything else.
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sxcgirl_me
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 372 Location: Sydney - Australia
Posted: 07-02-05 00:01am
You know wat I find I love doing?
Look on some pregnancy websites and read
about what your baby will be doing in
upcoming weeks and stuff.
I read them everyday and I get so
excited!!!!!
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rae_06
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2004 Posts: 219 Location: Iowa
Posted: 07-02-05 00:02am
Thanx a lot for ur replys. When I got
home tonight I just cried cuz I miss how
things used to be. Becoming a mom is a
hard thing, takes a lot of responsibility
and im realizing that. I always thought
being pregnant wouldnt be as bad as what I
sometimes think it is. Sometimes im
excited about the baby, other times im not
and im just confused and cry and dont know
what to do. Becoming a mother when ur a
teenager isnt easy..Becoming a mother isnt
easy period! But thanx again sooooo much
for your replies:)
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sxcgirl_me
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 372 Location: Sydney - Australia
Posted: 07-02-05 00:04am
You know wat?
You could be having the biggest mood
swings on earth and not know it.
I do that.
I get really caca t y thinking im upset
bout something when really im not :s
dont worry, you'll get through it ok
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sxcgirl_me
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 372 Location: Sydney - Australia
Posted: 07-02-05 00:05am
Mmmm I have a whole orange cake to myself.
Want some? :p
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lil_blaze2004
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Joined: 29 Oct 2004 Posts: 6492 Location: ,
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Posted: 07-02-05 11:23am
It is hard. I am almost 26 and still
found it hard but raising a baby is even
harder i've come to find out. My son is
11 days old and i'm having a hard time.
I love him but feel like I am trapped in
my house.
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sxcgirl_me
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 372 Location: Sydney - Australia
Posted: 07-02-05 15:26pm
You know wat sandra?
Its people like you who bully young people
who arent ready to have kids into
abortion,
i was exactly like her and ended up having
an abortion even though though my baby had
died.
So are you gonna damn me to hell for that?
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sxcgirl_me
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 372 Location: Sydney - Australia
Posted: 07-03-05 21:56pm
Ok, ok i'll leave you alone sandra,
no harm meant.
Sorry :)
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El
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Mar 2005 Posts: 476 Location: Melbourne, Australia
Posted: 07-04-05 00:25am
I was 25 when I gave birth to my
daughter.
Even at that age I was the first out of
all of our friends and family to have a
baby, so I fealt pretty isolated, and it
wasn't easy. I hadn't been planning on
having any babies for years and years,
and also lived pretty far away from my
parents- which didn't make things
easier.
As soon as you find out you are pregnant,
your life changes entirely, and the days
of only having to worry about yourself are
pretty much over for ever.
On the bright side, by the time you are
30, and all your friends have little
babies, or small children, you will have a
big grown-up 13 year old, and you will
have more freedom then your friends
will.
You will be able to travel, or do some
full-time study, or pretty much whatever
you like by the time you are 45 - and
believe me, a lot of your freinds will
still be helping with homework, reading
bedtime stories and packing school
lunches. (there was a woman in my first
time mothers group who was 43 !!!! By the
time i'm her age, my daughter will be
almost 20 years old- imagine !!!!)
so it does even out a bit in the end,
you'll be close in age to your son or
daughter, you'll be able to have your own
life again while you are still young
enough to enjoy it, and some time far in
the future, you'll be young enough to see
your own grandchildren grow up too.
Plus, your body will recover easier after
the birth than an older mother, you'll
have more energy to chase around after
your child, and probably will be able to
deal with the loss of sleep etc. Better
too.
It's not all bad !!!!!
Take heart, and concentrate on the
benefits. You can smile to yourself when
your friends are still emptying potties in
their 30's!!!!!
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vanessalouanne
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Joined: 31 May 2005 Posts: 2268 Location: ,
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Posted: 07-06-05 15:54pm
Everything always happens for a reason.
I agree with what sandralynn says when she
said that .God gave you this gift and he
doesnt give any of us more then we can
handle. If when you have the baby and you
feel that you are still unable to give up
drinking and partying (which when you
really think about is it all that great of
a life?) there is always adoption and
other programs simmilar. You could pick
out the parents and have them in the
hospital when you give birth. .. Most of
the time you could even get parents who
would pay your hospital costs. ( 9
months is a short time in your life) if
you still feel you are going to be unfit
to have this baby then at least give the
baby a chance at life with someone else.
And are these types of people really the
kind that you want to surround yourself
with?? I think that you need to take a
good long look at your life and see what
it is that you really want out of it.
Also I think that it would be a great
idea for you to find other young mothers,
buy baby clothes. Get excited! Having
a baby is a wonderful thing and if you
think of all that you are gaining rather
then what you are losing youll find that
this baby really is a blessing.
Good luck hun.
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CPL_JJ
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Jul 2005 Posts: 124 Location: Top of the world, bitches
Posted: 07-06-05 19:11pm
Abbortion sounds like a good choice. You
don't sound prepared for this child, or
commitment
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Ally
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Sep 2004 Posts: 77 Location: California
Posted: 07-06-05 19:20pm
Hey you never know ... Maybe when after
you have the baby you'll change your mind
... And maybe having a baby will make you
more responsible and open your eyes up to
other than always partying on the weekends
..
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sxcgirl_me
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 372 Location: Sydney - Australia
Posted: 07-07-05 03:22am
At 17 though, she shouldn't have to put up
with the responsibility of a child when
she is so young herself.
It doesn't even sound like she's ready
enough to be pregnant;.
