Rae im sorry to tell you but I think you have gotten yourself in too deep here.
You might find abortion wrong but by the sounds of it, it would have been the best thing for you to do.

I used to be in a situation like yours, except I was 18 and the baby ended up dying, most likely because my body knew it wasn't ready and I still wasnt prepared to give up drinking and partying.

Now im almost 20 this month and pregnant and going strong and im 100% happier than last time because im happy with who I am, who i'm with and what I do and I dont need to party anymore, (although if I do go to a party or something big I give myself a drinking limit of 2 drinks a night)

i really think you need to think about this.

Are you crazy?..I don't mean to sound like a health forum but..Do not have a abortion because you miss getting drunk...That is the most lamest stupidest excuse I have ever heard.... You laid down and got pregnant so take the responsiblity. I am pro choice and believe that for the right reasons..Yeah...But because you miss drinking??......Grow up girl...

Thats a bit harsh. Yeah maybe its a stupid reason 5to get an abortion but come on, its healthier than her going out and getting trashed every night and putting both her and the baby at risk. Think about it

You dont sound like a health forum..I know I sound stupid and need punched or something. I know I laid down and go pregnant and I need to take the responsibility but its hard when I get out with people and everyone is drinking and having fun and im just sitting there. I lost a best friend after she found out I was pregnant, she thought drinking was more important.She hadnt really been a good friend very long tho, just for about 7 months...So I said screw you and I still have my best friend, amanda, who has been my best friend since I moved here to iowa in 7th grade. Going out to lakes and going swimming, I miss that too- I miss a lot of stuff I did when I wasnt pregnant... I always worry im just not going to be a good mom and I wont be able to give it everything it wants and I always worry me and my bf will break up cuz hes a truck driver and I dont want a guy thats gonna be gone all the time, but he quit that and his semi is sold now....But he wants to go back when he can....He just has to have back surgery cuz his back really hurts him and the chiropractors cant do ne thing for him ne more. I wanna go to school after high school to either be a cna or a cop and I want to be there for the kid and I think that I wont be able to be there all the time and hudson(my bf) wont be there either. Im just having a hard time and I just get upset. Hudson just gets mad at me wheni talk to him about stuff, like when he starts truck driving and what we are going to do with our kid. My mom wanted me to have an abortion so bad when she found out I was pregnant, but I just couldnt..And hudson told me I better not because he really wants the kid, but then again he is 21...Its just hard being 17 and pregnant. I never go drinking or ne thing, I just stay at home and watch movies and have amanda come over. Hudson and me are together every day. I drank the first week I was probably pregnant, but I didnt know it, I just was really tired and I kept telling hudson something was wrong and I stopped drinking. Im just scared about everything.. ;( beleive me, id never do ne thing to hurt the baby....I mean-i always worry about whats ok to eat and whats not and what I can drink and what I can and what I can do and I cant do.. I just hate when I pretty much get left out on everything.

Look love, its really easy to worry, trust me I worry all the time too.
And being scared is also normal I get scared of not being a good mum too even though I know I will be.

As long as you have love and support for your child, then I think you will be fine.
Is there someone you can talk to like your mum?
She may be a bit dissapointed but remember she will always love you no matter what!

I sometimes feel exactly the way you do too, but I always make sure I dont get left out of anything, although I do wish I could go rollerblading and ice skating like I used to be able to.

You know like I said, if me and my boyfriend go out with friends and stuff I give myself a limit of 2 vodka cruisers a fortnight,
the key is moderation ok?

Look I dont think ur stupid I know how u feel I had my first baby when I was 15 so yeah I understand u. The only think I can tell u is that dont have an abortion because it's not the baby's fault he or she is allready here and ur a mom now, and that so call bestfriend that thought that drinking was more important than being their for u was never ur bestfriend. N-e-way u should get away from that enviorment and that people.Try going to some parenting classes meet other moms like u become friends with them hang out with them u know stuff like even in the clinic u go to iam pretty sure their is other pregnant grils their u can talk to. Trust me their will plentty of time to party and get drunk after u have ur baby ur not gonna miss out on anything their will always be other people and party's to go, their not gonna finish trust me. Iam really proud of that even though u wore in a party with other people drinking u are responsable enough not to drink thats what being a mom is all about. And when is time for ur baby to get here and u look into his or her eyes ur gonna realize that everything u put to the side for him or her was worth it. :wink: good luck baby gril and dont worry but ur baby first their will be time for everything else.

You know wat I find I love doing?

Look on some pregnancy websites and read about what your baby will be doing in upcoming weeks and stuff.
I read them everyday and I get so excited!!!!!

Thanx a lot for ur replys. When I got home tonight I just cried cuz I miss how things used to be. Becoming a mom is a hard thing, takes a lot of responsibility and im realizing that. I always thought being pregnant wouldnt be as bad as what I sometimes think it is. Sometimes im excited about the baby, other times im not and im just confused and cry and dont know what to do. Becoming a mother when ur a teenager isnt easy..Becoming a mother isnt easy period! But thanx again sooooo much for your replies:)

You know wat?

You could be having the biggest mood swings on earth and not know it.
I do that.
I get really caca t y thinking im upset bout something when really im not :s
dont worry, you'll get through it ok

Mmmm I have a whole orange cake to myself. Want some? :p

It is hard. I am almost 26 and still found it hard but raising a baby is even harder i've come to find out. My son is 11 days old and i'm having a hard time. I love him but feel like I am trapped in my house.

You know wat sandra?
Its people like you who bully young people who arent ready to have kids into abortion,
i was exactly like her and ended up having an abortion even though though my baby had died.
So are you gonna damn me to hell for that?

Ok, ok i'll leave you alone sandra,

no harm meant.

Sorry :)

I was 25 when I gave birth to my daughter.
Even at that age I was the first out of all of our friends and family to have a baby, so I fealt pretty isolated, and it wasn't easy. I hadn't been planning on having any babies for years and years, and also lived pretty far away from my parents- which didn't make things easier.
As soon as you find out you are pregnant, your life changes entirely, and the days of only having to worry about yourself are pretty much over for ever.
On the bright side, by the time you are 30, and all your friends have little babies, or small children, you will have a big grown-up 13 year old, and you will have more freedom then your friends will.
You will be able to travel, or do some full-time study, or pretty much whatever you like by the time you are 45 - and believe me, a lot of your freinds will still be helping with homework, reading bedtime stories and packing school lunches. (there was a woman in my first time mothers group who was 43 !!!! By the time i'm her age, my daughter will be almost 20 years old- imagine !!!!)

so it does even out a bit in the end, you'll be close in age to your son or daughter, you'll be able to have your own life again while you are still young enough to enjoy it, and some time far in the future, you'll be young enough to see your own grandchildren grow up too.
Plus, your body will recover easier after the birth than an older mother, you'll have more energy to chase around after your child, and probably will be able to deal with the loss of sleep etc. Better too.
It's not all bad !!!!!

Take heart, and concentrate on the benefits. You can smile to yourself when your friends are still emptying potties in their 30's!!!!!

Everything always happens for a reason. I agree with what sandralynn says when she said that .God gave you this gift and he doesnt give any of us more then we can handle. If when you have the baby and you feel that you are still unable to give up drinking and partying (which when you really think about is it all that great of a life?) there is always adoption and other programs simmilar. You could pick out the parents and have them in the hospital when you give birth. .. Most of the time you could even get parents who would pay your hospital costs. ( 9 months is a short time in your life) if you still feel you are going to be unfit to have this baby then at least give the baby a chance at life with someone else.

And are these types of people really the kind that you want to surround yourself with?? I think that you need to take a good long look at your life and see what it is that you really want out of it. Also I think that it would be a great idea for you to find other young mothers, buy baby clothes. Get excited! Having a baby is a wonderful thing and if you think of all that you are gaining rather then what you are losing youll find that this baby really is a blessing.

Good luck hun.

Abbortion sounds like a good choice. You don't sound prepared for this child, or commitment

Hey you never know ... Maybe when after you have the baby you'll change your mind ... And maybe having a baby will make you more responsible and open your eyes up to other than always partying on the weekends ..

At 17 though, she shouldn't have to put up with the responsibility of a child when she is so young herself.

It doesn't even sound like she's ready enough to be pregnant;.