Joined: 05 Jul 2005 Posts: 3 Location: South Mississippi
Paranoid Black Mom Hates White Boyfriend Posted: 07-07-05 18:15pm
My mom ardently disapproves of my
relationship with a white man. Because
he's 5 years older than me, a different
race, and getting deployed he's a
cheater.
My mom says that because he doesn't want
to meet her he has no respect for her and
me neither. The truth is he would like to
talk to her, but she refuses. I have
offered several times to let her to speak
to him over the phone,and she declined
everytime. He has met my grandpa, and my
grandpa had no problem with him. She's
also mad because he doesn't doesn't come
to the door when he picks me up. There's
a reason for that. One time he and a
friend came over, and out of the blue she
just started being rude to them. They did
not even so much as look at her.
Supposedly he only wants sex. But if he
did, would he have introduced me to all
his friends and even let me spend a
holiday w/ them? I don't think so. I
have met many guys who only wanted one
thing, and 9 of 10 of them were black btw,
and if they don't get it fast they just
leave. None of them stuck around for 5
1/2 months of dating and hanging out. And
he's cheating on me with a white woman his
own age. I'm at his house fairly often I
think I would have noticed something weird
by now.
She also thinks he's gonna cheat on me in
iraq. That's right, in iraq!!! From what
i've seen they don't have too much contact
w/ women,and I really doubt they have
whorehouses with all the islamic
fundamentalists.
Do you think she's being reasonable?
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Jordan H
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jun 2005 Posts: 74 Location: Calgary, AB, Canada
Posted: 07-07-05 19:35pm
Hi there, I can kind of relate to what you
are going through, when my parents found
out that I was dating an east indian (who
by the way is my husband now... 10 years
later) they put him in the catagorie with
all the rest not even thinking about the
fact that he was raised here, they tried
to scare me away from him by telling me
that he is going to beat me... Cheat on
me... They even went so far as to tell me
that he was only with me because I am a
blue eyed, blond haired white female and
he wanted to take me to india and sell me
as a slave. (what a bunch of crap) but
once they realized that they were loosing
there daughter, they started to come
around, and actually listen to what my
husband (then boyfriend) had to say. They
realized that he is actually a really
sweet and wonderful guy. Now they are at
the point that they call him and even stop
by just to say "hi" to him more than they
do with me. It's crazy how people's
opinions change once they get to know
someone.
My advise to you is to go see your mom,
bring your boyfriend along, let her see
for herself what a great guy he is
(hopefully he is)
anyway, keep me posted
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CLEANSHAVED22
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jul 2005 Posts: 12 Location: GA
Interacial Help Posted: 07-26-05 12:18pm
Well I exactly know what you are going
through. I am a 22 year old male who is
currently dating a south african female.
Pretty much my family is doing the same to
me, like saying harsh things and saying
things that are pretty crazy. I hate to
say this but I had to distant myself from
my family to prove that I love this girl
and I want to be with her no matter what
people said. Basically in todays society
people frown on realtionships such as
ours. All that matters is that you love
him and that you are happy. Do not let
anyone get in the way of that special
somebody. You have to live your own life
and not what everybody else wants you to
do. Your mom will eventually come around
but it might take time. I know what you
are going through and I want to tell you
to keep your head up!
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