Scared About First Time!! Posted: 07-08-05 14:38pm
Yesterday my bf & I had sex together
for the first time, we were both virgins
also! It was unprotected..I'm really
scared now because I don't know if i'm
preg. Or not!! I know I shouldn't have
done it unprotected..But he said he didn't
cum, but I know pre-cum can get a girl
preg. Also. Plus can a guy always feel
if he came or not, he said he could tell
if he did..But then again it was his first
time also. We're both really scared and
don't know what to do. My friends have
told me to wait until my next period is
supposed to be here..Anywhere between july
22-july 26 probably, then take a preg.
Test if it isn't here. Should I do that??
Plz help. I'm almost 16 & he's
almost 17, we're to young!! Help!!
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Re: Scared About First Time!! Posted: 07-08-05 16:24pm
~baby~g~
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yesterday my bf & I had
sex together for the first time, we were
both virgins also! It was
unprotected..I'm really scared now because
I don't know if i'm preg. Or not!! I
know I shouldn't have done it
unprotected..But he said he didn't cum,
but I know pre-cum can get a girl preg.
Also. Plus can a guy always feel if he
came or not, he said he could tell if he
did..But then again it was his first time
also. We're both really scared and don't
know what to do. My friends have told me
to wait until my next period is supposed
to be here..Anywhere between july 22-july
26 probably, then take a preg. Test if
it isn't here. Should I do that?? Plz
help. I'm almost 16 & he's almost
17, we're to young!!
Help!!
don't stress it untill you find out for
sure. Seeing how your pretty damn scared
you should learn now you should protect
yourself. Not just him wearing a condom.
Get on birth control. It sounds like you
just got off your period, which makes it
less of a chance you could have gotten
pregnant. Just wait untill your period
comes. Don't sress. Stressing makes your
period actucally delay its self.
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Good Possibility Posted: 07-31-05 20:08pm
Im a 16 year old that got my 14 year old
girlfriend pregnant. Its a good
possibility your pregnant no
protection,both virgins,he most likely
came. Thats a high possibility of
pregnancy but when you start pukeing and
your test is positive your pregnant.
You can usually find out if your pregnant
before you start getting morning sickness,
in a few weeks go to your doctor and get
either some blood taken or have him do a
urine test, and if your not old enough to
be responsible and use a condom, then you
shouldnt be having sex anyways.
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Posted: 08-03-05 23:11pm
Ok dalicialynn I understand what yur sayin
but I didn't come here to hear about I
should've used a condom and blah, blah!!
I already know this ok?? I didn't want to
hear that from other people. So thanks
for the advice but I had a period but I
haven't been feeling good..I don't know
what it is. Yeah, so I don't want to hear
about getting a pregnancy test either..I
know this to. I'm not trying to be rude
but I hate 'adults' lecturing 'teens'
about these kind of things. This is the
teen pregnancy board..That's what we come
here for!!! Thanks!!
Exactly and you can't expect every opinion
to to be positive.
You came on here for advice, I gave it to
you so get over it. If you would of used
a condom you wouldnt of made this post
anyways correct? Your asking people a
question which you brought upon yourself,
dear.
Obviously your too young and immature to
be having sex.
These kind of posts aggrivate me.
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Posted: 08-04-05 04:29am
~baby~g~
wrote:
ok dalicialynn I understand
what yur sayin but I didn't come here to
hear about I should've used a condom and
blah, blah!! I already know this ok??
I didn't want to hear that from other
people. So thanks for the advice but I
had a period but I haven't been feeling
good..I don't know what it is. Yeah, so
I don't want to hear about getting a
pregnancy test either..I know this to.
I'm not trying to be rude but I hate
'adults' lecturing 'teens' about these
kind of things. This is the teen
pregnancy board..That's what we come here
for!!! Thanks!!
dalicialynn is a teen, and you should
listen to her advice. You hate when
adults are telling kids to use protection
basically. What is this world coming too.
If you want to have sex you should be
talking to your mother about birth control
or something. Adults dont try to ruin
everything for you. I'd be nice if they
were more active in teenage intercourse
discussions.
I gave her advice because there's too many
little girl's getting aids and herpes,
etc.
Like I said, if your not responsible
enough to use protection, then you don't
need to be opening up your legs anyways,
if you would of used a condom, you wouldnt
of even made this post, your mistake, you
fix it.
I'm going to be a teen mom, even though
i'm having sex as a teen I was responsible
enough to be on birth control and even
that, didnt save me.
Now days you have to be careful for
everything.
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Re: .. Posted: 08-04-05 15:54pm
dalicialynn
wrote:
i gave her advice because
there's too many little girl's getting
aids and herpes, etc.
Like I said, if your not responsible
enough to use protection, then you don't
need to be opening up your legs anyways,
if you would of used a condom, you wouldnt
of even made this post, your mistake, you
fix it.
I'm going to be a teen mom, even though
i'm having sex as a teen I was responsible
enough to be on birth control and even
that, didnt save me.
Now days you have to be careful for
everything.
true. I was just wondering if your mom is
as upset over you getting pregnant as
these other girls. I think you said she
wasa social worker, so shes sees it alot?
I was with my boyfriend for around 3
years, we kinda grew up together. We lost
our virginity to eachother and all that
bullcrap.
Well his dad was awful and mean to us, he
wouldnt let us see eachother and tried
everything he could to keep us apart. 2
weeks before I found out I was pregnant my
boyfriend committed suicide.
Being in the situation that I was in, it
was only right to keep the baby, for the
emotional stage that I was in, it was a
good piece of mind.
My mom...She's glad that i'm pregnant she
tell's people more than I do. I think if
I was in a different situation than I was,
her actions would be different, but i'm
not and this is how things turned out and
how things were obviously meant to be.
My boyfriend was 16 when he passed on, he
would be 17 now.
I'm going to be a 16 year old teen mother,
I realize I have to grow up overnight, and
that i'll have responsibilities that I
never knew existed. But I love my unborn
child, and i'll love what he/she
becomes.
I'm young, but i'm not like a lot of
teen's on here, I do use my common sense,
and for that i'm never unsure about
anything.
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Re: ... Posted: 08-04-05 16:09pm
dalicialynn
wrote:
i was with my boyfriend for
around 3 years, we kinda grew up together.
We lost our virginity to eachother and
all that bullcrap.
Well his dad was awful and mean to us, he
wouldnt let us see eachother and tried
everything he could to keep us apart. 2
weeks before I found out I was pregnant my
boyfriend committed suicide.
Being in the situation that I was in, it
was only right to keep the baby, for the
emotional stage that I was in, it was a
good piece of mind.
My mom...She's glad that i'm pregnant she
tell's people more than I do. I think if
I was in a different situation than I was,
her actions would be different, but i'm
not and this is how things turned out and
how things were obviously meant to be.
My boyfriend was 16 when he passed on, he
would be 17 now.
I'm going to be a 16 year old teen mother,
I realize I have to grow up overnight, and
that i'll have responsibilities that I
never knew existed. But I love my unborn
child, and i'll love what he/she
becomes.
I'm young, but i'm not like a lot of
teen's on here, I do use my common sense,
and for that i'm never unsure about
anything.
yeah, thats too bad what happened to your
boyfriend. Thats a horrible thing to have
to go through. I, for one, am glad your
keeping the baby, and your mother isnt
upset about it. Having her support helps
alot.
I realize alot of girls on here have no
idea what their in for, but it seems
their are a few that do.
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Re: ... Posted: 08-04-05 16:13pm
dalicialynn
wrote:
thankyou
sweetheart
welcome. I dont mean to come off rude
sometimes. I just comment on every
indvidual situation.
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~sorry~ Posted: 08-04-05 19:41pm
Hey girls i'm really sorry about that
post!!! I shouldn't have got upset like
that but i'm having hard times with my bf
right now & this stuff so it's really
starting to get to me. I had a period on
july 18th (it was a few days early) but
still right now I haven't felt to
good..I've been tired, eating more then
normal..I don't know if that's cause i'm
upset or what. Like I said my bf & I
have been arguing & I don't know what
to do about it at all..I'm really lost. I
just wanted someone to talk to..That
didn't really know all about it..So I
dunno. Sorry..Also 2 days after I had sex
with my bf I pretty much got raped by this
guy that I know..And yes I tried
everything to stop it but I was all alone
& didn't know what to do. That's
scary..Because if I am then what if he's
the dad....My bf knows & he said he
would be here for me..But with how things
are going now, I really don't know what's
going to happen with our realtionship..I
really am sorry though!! Thanks
I'm not trying to be rude, i'm always
straight up with everybody.
I don't understand why people post things
asking if they're pregnant when it's no
ones fault but your own, advice or not,
you chose to not use a condom so you
brought this upon yourself knowing there
could be a possibility you'd get pregnant
or not.
I thinks girls over react when they say
they just had sex and they thrown up or
they had sex and a week later they're
eating more.
I'm 3 months pregnant and my appetite
hasnt changed one bit yet. All that I
have is sore boobs and a severe case of
morning sickness that lasts all day
everyday that ive recently gotten
medication for.
You dont get sick a week, maybe even
months after you have sex (if you are
pregnant) I started to get sick around my
9th week of pregnancy which is more than a
month.
As ive said a thousand times before, if
you were worried enough about getting
pregnant you would of used a condom, and
if your not responsible enough to use a
condom for not getting pregnant, and for
the std's and aids people are carrying now
days, obviously your really young and at
our age guys aren't that faithful, you can
say they are and disagree with me but you
don't know what your boyfriend does when
your not around.
Use the common sense that you have or
you'll never get by in life, and will
always make wrong decisions, you dont
think "should I do this or should I not"
for no reason.
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Posted: 08-05-05 18:38pm
I understand exactly what you're
saying..Thanks. And right now if i'm
pregnant..Then that's great..I've already
thought about it..I know what teen mothers
go through, i've been around them &
seen how hard it's been! So thanks for
the advice, and by the way I thought about
all these things before I had sex..So I
knew what I was doing!
A car to get around if your baby get's
sick, needs formula,clothes?
Or do you expect your parents to "help you
out"
when I found out I was pregnant I thought
my parents would hate me. But they both
have actually warmed up to it and support
me 24/7. I don't mean support as in
paying for everything, I have a job and my
own car.
What will you do about school?
Are you mature enough to handle such
situations?
Do you know what the doctor does on your
appointments?
He'll have you take your top off, he'll
then look and feel your boobs and up your
armpits, he'll have you spread your legs,
he'll look at your vagina to make sure
everything on the outside looks right,
he'll then look at your butthole, he'll
stick a metal thing in your vagina and
open it up. It depends when the last time
you had a pap smear, if youve even had
one.
At the end of the pregnancy, he'll look at
your vagina every week to make sure your
not dialating, and everything looks
okay.
You think loosing your virginity was
bad....Hahahaha you haven't seen nothing
yet.
:?
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Re: ... Posted: 08-06-05 15:48pm
dalicialynn
wrote:
so you basically got
pregnant on purpose?
Do you have a job?
A car to get around if your baby get's
sick, needs formula,clothes?
Or do you expect your parents to "help you
out"
when I found out I was pregnant I thought
my parents would hate me. But they both
have actually warmed up to it and support
me 24/7. I don't mean support as in
paying for everything, I have a job and my
own car.
What will you do about school?
Are you mature enough to handle such
situations?
Do you know what the doctor does on your
appointments?
He'll have you take your top off, he'll
then look and feel your boobs and up your
armpits, he'll have you spread your legs,
he'll look at your vagina to make sure
everything on the outside looks right,
he'll then look at your butthole, he'll
stick a metal thing in your vagina and
open it up. It depends when the last
time you had a pap smear, if youve even
had one.
At the end of the pregnancy, he'll look at
your vagina every week to make sure your
not dialating, and everything looks
okay.
You think loosing your virginity was
bad....Hahahaha you haven't seen nothing
yet.
:?
man am I glad I have a german doctor. I
was told they dont feel for mups in the
breast because you can easily get them
when your pregnant. Its afterwords if
they find them you need to be worried. I
just got my blood and a papsmear.
But seriously, if you knew what was going
to happen why are you scared about the
first time you had sex, and why the [very
bad word] wouldn't you use protection,
unless you wanted to get pregnant? Not to
you dalicalynn.
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Posted: 08-06-05 19:44pm
Ok, I know all of these things..I'm not
stupid like a lot of other teen girls out
there! I know these things..And yes I
have a car & such & will be
getting my license soon. And as for
school..I'm homeschooled so I would still
be able to graduate & do something
with my life. Trust me I know all these
things. As for the doctor..I know what
they do..I was with my brothers girlfriend
through her whole pregnancy with my
newborn niece. If I did need any help
there would be plenty of people there to
help family, friends & the same with
my boyfriend. Even if he did step down
& not stay with me..I could do it. I
know what that's like also because my
brother is in jail until september &
my family & I have helped raising his
2 children..I'm not dumb, ok? So plz
don't compare me to other people that
you've talked to. Thanks & have a
great day!
You don't understand, little girl, if you
knew half the stuff about raising and
taking care of a baby you would of used
protection, I thought I knew everything I
needed to know aswell, I go to parenting
classes to be fully prepared for any type
of situation, it's 100 dollars a class,
lasts as long as going to school!
You think you know everything you need to
know, but you dont even know half of it.
Why do you have a car if you don't even
have your license yet? Your car has to
be in your parents name, do you know how
much insurance cost? My car isn't even
in my name, it's in my dads, my dad pays
my insurance.
Just because you have a niece doesn't mean
you can support a baby. I have a niece
aswell, she lives with me, but that
doesn't mean I could support one, I know
how babies act and how they throw fits,
how they are needy. That's what i've
learned from my niece. You have to be
mentally and physically able to have a
child before doing so, otherwise you'll be
known as an unfit mother and like the case
my mom had last week, this 14 year old got
her baby taken away because someone
reported her, they came to her house
within 24 hours and there were bruises all
over her child, her fault? Maybe it is
maybe it isn't, point is, she's the
mother, she still got blammed for it.
You can't rely on people when you have a
baby, when the baby is balling it's eyes
out because of gas or upset belly, you
can't hand it to your mom or your dad, a
friend. That's not taking care of your
responsibility, something you created on
purpose, not thinking because you're young
and stupid.
I'm 16 will be 17 when I have my child,
but my life is over and I know this and
realize it, I have already said by to my
partying,going out. I had a wonderful
modeling career before I got pregnant. I
still go to school, i'm not saying you
won't finish it, but it's difficult to
make time to do so, do you know how much
daycare costs? It's 200-300 dollars a
week here, you can't be leaving your kid
with a friend or your mom, no one treats
your kids like you do, your kid will end
up calling other people mommy. My niece
does to me and my mom!
If your not responsible to use protection,
especially on your first time, then your
not responsible to have a baby, no way,
it's not possible.
You have a lot of growing up to do and you
have your whole life to have kids, having
a baby is a wonderful experience, but it's
not cheap. Think about the hospital
costs, you know if you have a boy and you
want the baby circumsized it costs 150
dollars here to do so? All the doctor
appts you have to pay for, including the
medicine,shots. You're in over your head
and you don't realize it.
Think about it, I gave up my dream for my
child, a dream that was coming true, I
don't have a choice, because I don't have
the time anymore.
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